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13 Dealbreakers for Both Men and Women

13 Dealbreakers for Both Men and Women

1. Being compared to an ex

Clear sign that they are not over that person.

2. Helplessness

There is being stupid and there are the people who lack the motivation entirely to help themselves solve a problem and expect all the solutions to be handed out.

3. Needing to tear others down to feel better about themselves

Going out of your way to make fun and laugh at people's faults (whether or not it's behind their backs) is just petty and childish.

4. Lack of Independence

Just because we're in a relationship doesn't mean you need to stop doing things on your own. Chase your passion, continue your hobbies, go out with your friends, listen to music you actually like...if I wanted to live the exact same life as someone, I just wouldn't bother dating. I like that we have our differences.

13 Dealbreakers for Both Men and Women

5. Unable to be accountable for their own Mistakes

Life hits us with some harsh shit, doesn't mean we can't deal with it like adults and move on. STOP PLAYING THE VICTIM. You don't have a job because you're not looking for one. You didn't graduate school because you didn't want to. Your friends hate hanging out with you, because you're a horrible friend. Own up to it.

6. Being overly Negative

If you're a positive person, everyone around you will show that same positive energy...if you're negative all the time, you just suck the joy out of life for everyone.

7. Pathological Liar

Doesn't need much explanation, people don't like being lied to. It's dishonest.

8. Humor Incompatibility

We all have our own sense of humor and whether you realized this or not...not everyone will find you funny. I don't think I could be with a girl who didn't get sarcasm but that's just me.

13 Dealbreakers for Both Men and Women

9. Lack of Communication

No need to be a Stage 1 Clinger but communication is very important in relationships, it's how we grow as people, how we figure out our likes and dislikes and get to know our partner.

10. Being Rude to People trying to do their job

How people treat others is a huge indicator of their character. Belittling a waiter because your food is touching is just a dick move. Their lives are hard enough without your first world problems being piled on.

11. Bad Hygiene

Don't need to go in on this, it's a basic concept...keep yourself clean.

12. Sexual Incompatibility

If your idea of rough, out of this world sex is just me thrusting faster then we're probably not going last long. I know what I'm into sexually (Not Diaper Fetish Guy Kinky...that's right I see your questions on here) and I need someone who can not only handle that side to me but also love every bit of it.

13. Constantly Checking your phone

Believe me you're not that important to be on your phone 24/7. Your followers on Instagram aren't constantly refreshing their feed so they can be first to leave a like when you post a new selfie.

13 Dealbreakers for Both Men and Women

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  • Actually I'd say 8 and 4 aren't always true. There are still plenty of men willing to fully take care of their women at least financially, especially in most 3rd world countries. Then again even those type of men at least want their wife to at least do house work so that's not being completely dependent. So actually 4 makes sense too, but 8 is like some people I think are okay being in a relationship without laughter. And bad hygiene I don't agree with either but in that case I've only seen the woman and the man who both have bad hygiene being together or when the woman is in a abusive relationship her man will start having bad hygiene.

    • Yeah I could see that... I was mainly speaking from a Westernized view since it's where I am right now. But the question I have is... are those people in happy/healthy relationships without laughter? Or just cohabiting together to accommodate the cost of living and start families etc.

    • Yeah your probably right I mean without laughing they probably are not very happy. And yeah I understand that you were basically saying from a general perspective. But do you consider not brushing your teeth often as bad hygiene, or not showering a lot? Cause I've seen a good amount of people in those type of relationships but usually they are poor.

    • Yeah this is where perspective play a good amount... growing up in a third world country when I was younger I probably would be a lot more lenient in that list. I guess you could say this is my standard for where I am in life right now.

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  • Awesome! People who act like this aren't fit to be with anybody or in society as a whole.

  • Overall a great take!
    Except not all are universal - I know a guy who is quite dominant and who really loves qhen he can help out a girl in need. He also likes girls who are submissive, obviously, as it matches his kinks. Helplessness (2) is an attractive factor to him.

    No 3 is a bit dubious. Sometimes you just need to vent. I don't hate a lot of people, but I hate the guy who harrassed me and who is now hurting other girls while I still have to see him quite often. Sometimes you need to let out steam about people like that.

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  • These are all true, except for #1 (for me at least.) I don't mind being compared to an ex, it just motivates me to improve myself and to become a better person.

  • I think all of these are deal breakers for me, too.

  • Great take Zorro

  • 1, 7, 9, and 10 are big ones for me. I like to know I'm more than just a replacement goldfish. Finding relationships where the two parties are even capable - let alone willing - to be completely honest with each other, is near-impossible. I also have little respect for ghosting. And I take offense if my date is gratuitously rude to a serviceman.

  • Number 8 is a big one. Anyone who isn't a fan of The Big 3 can just go away!

  • These are all huge for me. Great job!

  • Good points... only one I might have a problem with though is #13

    • Don't worry I already gave advice to my baby Paul... He's going to take your phone and drop it in his boxers <3

    • hahahahaha sounds good ;P <3

  • good one

  • I'm #13 😕
    But not when I'm like with someone one-on-one and we're having a real talk convo

    • It's mainly annoying if you do it when we're talking lol you're fine :P

    • Tysm I'm so glad you approve of me yass

  • 14. Obsessing on money and materialism.

  • Number 13. Love it. Please take notes everybody.

  • i am 11
    sry butbi dont remember the last time i showered. i *think* it was 6hours ago before going to bed
    is that bad?
    but yeah this is a good take i agree with all

    • I wrote that whole take and this answer in the shower... don't even know what the outside of my bathroom looks like, so yeah we can't be together now!

    • ahh man that just lowered my self esteem smh but srsly lol I think I am 13 but I don't use any social feeds so I am just addicted to my phone nothing else. There are times tho when I am that occupied that I don't have time to check it more than 3 times a day just for 5 min maximum

    • You age faster than a year fly! You started the response at 11 and the previous comment you are already 13! Though next to your name is a flashy 16 😂

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  • Hahaha spot on
    So when can we date? I think I passed

    • You asking me out? Pick me up at 9 lol

  • More or less.

  • Yeah, seems whiny though. Like 'thoughts for pre-teenies'. [shrug]
    Still, I've seen both genders pull this crap.

  • Great take. Especially agree with number 1

  • Number 10 is hugeee for me. When we go on the first date, I always observe that. Huge indication of ones character.

    Great take 👌🏼

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