3 Reasons Why Girls Think You Are Creepy

3 Reasons Why Girls Think You Are Creepy

Fellas, have you ever walked up to a girl right off the bat they give you this stink eye or they just get up and walk away? I know, it sucks, trust me I've been in the same boat as you guys, but I have found out why girls do these things. There are three main reasons why this happens, physical features, body language, and personality. Let's get into it.

1.) Physical features

3 Reasons Why Girls Think You Are Creepy

If you are an unattractive male chances are girls are going to find you more creepy than someone who is attractive. When women see an attractive male, they would go "Omg, he's soooooo hot! Look at those biceps! That jawline! He can be my man any time of the day!", where as if you are physically unattractive, girls would say "Eww, he's ugly, he's probably a rapist so my best bet is to leave." You do not understand how many times I have seen this happen. The bright side to this, and also kind of the bad side if you put it in a way however, is that mainly girls who are physically attractive are the ones doing this stuff. Lesser attractive women tend to be less extreme when it comes to the judgement of unattractive males.

2.) Body language

3 Reasons Why Girls Think You Are Creepy

Body language is a huge one. If you aren't projecting yourself in a way that is confident, then you would be automatically called a creep. Overly confident people, as in arrogant people, tend to get better results than those who are just moderately confident. If you don't project any confidence then girls will automatically think that you are out to rape people, which doesn't make any sense because not every guy is a rapist. DISCLAIMER: I obviously understand that rape is a very serious topic, but i'm using the word rape and rapist because that is one of the first things a girl thinks of when someone is creepy. Confidence however, cancels out when you're unattractive.

3.) Personality

3 Reasons Why Girls Think You Are Creepy
Personality is another biggie. If you're a shy guy like myself, then you get the short end of the stick. Guys who are awkward and shy are automatically creeps to girls, which is again stupid. Not every guy is born with amazing confidence. Some people are born insecure about every thing about them, like myself, which is why we remain reserved so that we can escape from rejection. I'm always nervous about what I'm going to say because anything I say to a girl can be turned against me, and it usually is. When I speak to a girl, more specifically girls who are more attractive, it's like walking on egg shells. What you say can determine what the opposite sex thinks you are.

So in conclusion, If you are unattractive, shy, and awkward guy, then you get the short end of the stick. It is unfortunate that even the 17 year old self has to deal with such bullshit. All my friends tease me about not ever kissing a girl, but I never tell them this because they never understand the mechanics behind why girls like them so much and why they don't like me. Hopefully you guys take some out of this and feel free to comment, whether that be praise or hate, it doesn't matter to me. This take can be a place to voice your opinion on the matter.

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  • Your level of attractiveness has little to do with it. It's your mannerisms that make women uncomfortable. When I read this take, all I see are things that paint women as the #1 problem and not the guy...

    1. Oh I'm unattractive... I was born this way... nothing I can do to change genetics so it's not my fault and so I can feel less bad about my own failings (thank God)... so it's women's fault that I'm viewed as creepy

    2. I lack confidence... so let's just attribute my awkwardness around women to them apparently thinking that I and all men like me are rapists... Oh and women love arrogant assholes... just thought I'd throw that cliche in there

    3. I was born shy. What can I do? Can't fight genetics... so girls are to blame for judging me based on some condition I think I was born with

    Basically I could sum this take up with: I was born this way, so fuck women.

    Gents... the reason why women view you as creepy is because of the way you act. Don't blame women and don't blame genetics. Blame yourself

    • I disagree: attractive guys get away with things that would normally be considered creepy. It's the halo effect (or its inverse). Not to say there aren't ways attractive guys can still be considered creepy.

    • you not wrong...

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  • Funny because when I was groped that one time I went to a club it was by a "hot" guy who came off as arrogant, and I still thought he was a gross creep.

    • That's being a dumbass, not necessarily creepy.

    • "That's being a dumbass, not necessarily creepy." so now you're defining what a victim of sexual assault should view as creepy behaviour. lol dude

    • @Negrodamuss hahahaha right?

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  • Actually, #1 is wrong. I find certain guys creepy because of #2 and #3 is mainly a character issue not a personality issue. #1 is last on my list if they are just trying to date me or get into my pants basically. If they have no intentions of trying to get to know me or being friends, good bye. Plus if I sense something isn't right with you in the first place, I wouldn't want him talking to me no matter how attractive they look.

  • here's what makes me think of someone as creepy:
    (plot twist: i don't care what you look like.)

    1) do you stand too close or touch me without permission? creepy.

    i am an introvert with an anxiety disorder. this five-foot space around me is my bubble, and space invaders are not welcome; unless you are invited in, please just don't.

    2) prolonged eye contact? creepy.

    hey, i'm all for looking at someone when you're talking. but don't leer or stare: it's rude.

    3) old enough to be my dad? just no.

    age is just a number, within reason. but, a 55 year-old guy hitting on a 30 year-old woman is icky, no matter how you slice it.

    4) are you too persistent?

    by this, i mean are you continuing to pursue me even though i've told you i'm not interested? if i have indicated that i'm not interested, but you keep trying way too hard to convince me, it will not make me like you. instead of admiring your persistence, i'll be sighing internally ("why the hell is this creep not taking the hint?").

    there's endearingly socially-awkward (like one of my favourite professors) and just plain old creepy. and, if you talk to me, chances are you'll know which you are within the first 2 minutes of our conversation.

  • ONE reason why girls think you are creepy... they consider themselves "the shit" and look down on males... so in order to come off as UNcreepy... treat em like "shit" lol...
    funny how that works...

  • 1. You can't call someone a creep just because of their looks. I wouldn't call the guy in the first picture a creep but I find him unattractive.

    2. I've had plenty of attention from a mixture of guys who I do and don't find attractive. I've also had a lot of attention that I should get from guys who are already in relationships. I still don't class them as creeps.

    3. Shy guys can unknowingly come across as creeps depending on their body language and the way they use it. Following someone around is what stalkers do and that is creepy, coupled with successions of staring with blank expressions over a duration of years and never attempting to initiate a conversation or try to be friendly and approachable. I've had a few follow me around, giving me successions of staring and the occasional standing next to. But never attempted any kind of conversation with me.

    4. I agree with you that no one is born with confidence. But some of us will do something to improve that if we want to get anywhere in life. If you don't make any effort with people. Then they probably won't bother with you or take you seriously. I don't take guys who like me, seriously until they can at least break the ice with me. Or you can sit back and wait on people running to you and relying on them to do all or most of the work for you. But you'll risk being on the shelve for the rest of your life.

    • Unattractive just like me. I am quite an unattractive guy.

    • @Vivaldi well you said it, no one else did.

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  • Hi. Well firstly you can be sure that a billion guys feel the same way you do. The 'seduction community' will tell you to work on your 'inner game'. Personally as a genuine lothario I can say that technique has helped me enormously, as has approaching as many women as possible and becoming fluent in talking with women. But the level that seduction does not consider, is what Id call 'societal game', and until men play the game on this level, nothing is going to change for many guys.

    Societal game is a political campaign, not on the personal level, and I believe that this level is where your/our difficulties come from.

    I wonder what Google Trends shows for the word 'creepy'? This word, just like the newcomer 'rapey', is a manifestation of the exponentially growing hatred and fear from girls and young women against males. I've noticed a pronounced increase in the mentions of 'creepy' over the last 7 or so years. Before, it had equal connotations to supernatural horror films as it did to a male - and then it would be a very stereotypical character, and referring more to his appearance than to his behaviour. It seems that the word 'creepy' has made the jump from appearance-based to behaviour-based. And that is a dark, sinister shift, as now any male a girl doesn't know is 'creepy' or 'rapey', without any tangible measure to falsify their claim.

    Societal game is ultimately gender egalitarianism or Mens Rights, and it needs to address the law and the other core of the problem: the Mass Media. It is through the mass media portrayals of males who are 'different' that 'creepy' and 'rapey' have become legitemised in female minds.

    A social worker friend disagreed with my perspective on the CSI: group of TV series, but with my observations on its portrayal of marginalised males in her mind next time she watched it, she became aware of its constant misandry and male stereotyping. A month later, she told me that CSI and Criminal Minds are banned in her house, because she didn't want her children to adopt its stereotyping of people who are different. So it is possible to teach some people about the misandric mass media, and ultimately that -and parents fearing for their childrens safety - is much of where the 'creepy/rapey' phenomenon comes from.

  • I'm not surprised by the readers' inferior comprehension skills. I found your take to be 'too obvious', but at least, you made sense. Despite being an under 18, you are more understanding than most of the users of this site.

    • Sometimes people don't understand the obvious.

  • I also find age is probably a major thing, like some of my friends couldn't give a shit. But I was being chatted up by a guy who's only 4/5 years younger than my dad and way over a decade older than me. I thought he was one of the creepiest guys going, plus I'll be doing some work with friends and he'd just walk over and sit with us.

  • I see a lot of frustration, you wish girls notice the beautiful inner you, and the fact that they never have hurts you, girls suffer for the same reasons my friends, I have female friends who are fat and suffer cause no one see how beautiful they are inside, it pains me to see how much people suffer trying to fit in, and be attractive, but be careful don't be so quick to call girls shallow just because they are not into you, here's my advice, take it as you will:

    1) speak to more girls: part of your issue might be that you only focus on 5 super hot girls, they reject you and you feel bad, but if you talk to more girls you'll find that some of them like you just as you are.

    2) work on yourself: give girls reasons to notice you, you're not entitled to female attention just cause you are "a good guy", so work out, play instruments, develop social skills

    3) learn to deal with rejection: not just with girls but in life this will help you, only way to not care that much is by getting rejected a lot, I can't count how many times a girl has told me : not interested, and also can't count how many have given me their number

    4) have female friends: no, don't hit on them, don't try to sleep with them, be friends, you'll learn a lot about how women and they can introduce you to girls you
    Actually like

    5) don't stalk girls online: don't watch how happy they are with their boyfriends, and how they don't even accept your friend request, take a break from Facebook

    6) and this is an important one: sex is not a reward you get for being such a nice guy, accept that, and don't act around girls like you have earned sex and they have to give it up cause you have done so much for them

    Best of luck to you man, I hope this helps you, and that you stop this line of thought you have that will only lead to resent women and therefore get even less attention from them

    • Talking to more girls is only going to result in either rejections or the friend zone. So i don't understand why you would talk to girls you aren't interested in?

    • to practice that's why, social skills can be learned, people sense when you are uncomfortable around them, so talk to as many as you can and learn to be comfortable around women, i'd say start there i actually got an idea to write a "my take" of my own haha

  • (1) I'd say personal grooming has more to do with it than base looks. A guy who's unkempt is a lot more likely to come off as creepy than a guy who took the time to brush his hair and wear a clean shirt that fits.

    (2) Confidence is good so long as it doesn't go into arrogance. But more importantly is knowing how to read body language and such on the part of a woman. If a woman's body language is indicating she wants out (turning away and so forth) and she's giving short clipped answers, the guy is going to come off as a creep if he keeps going.

    (3) I think someone else already said this, but the main mistake a lot of shy or awkward guys do is to kind of follow a girl around without approaching her. This is going to come off as creepy stalker behavior. The other big mistake is going too far too fast. If a guy suddenly goes full into "I love you and you're the one for me" with a girl he doesn't know well enough, it's going to come off super creepy.

    • Exactly, well said. You have to be able to read her cutoff signals. If she seems uncomfortable, that's not "code" to try harder.

  • You're creepy because your personality makes people uncomfortable. That's the reason.

    • Personality, body language, and attractiveness are all reasons.

    • No it's because you're your own problem. If you have creepy vibes then you have creepy vibes. You're your own worst enemy. You think something like this is entirely out of your control but it's not.

    • Creepy vibes are hard to control, a majority of guys don't even see that they are giving out these creepy vibes you speak of. Just shyness and awkwardness. Those traits are hard to get rid of.

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  • I refuse to do the "overconfident" thing, because that would require lying about certain things. To a group. Where any single one of them could start looking for ways to test what I say. So I instead stick to the most truthful position I am able.

    I treat the girl like a princess... unless she starts treating me like trash. I don't tolerate abuse. I will call her out, piece by piece, on her behavior. I am at my most confident playing psychologist / cop, and spelling out to them why they are busted on their BS. Of course, that doesn't win me any favors.

    I've come to realize that perhaps what scares a lot of girls away from me, is that they can see the anger inside that dozens of injustices committed by others have filled me with. The best face I put on to hide that anger doesn't fool them.

    The intelligent, non-brainwashed ones know I'm not gonna rape anyone. But they also don't want a white knight with a green lightning thunderstorm / multi-tornado behind his eyes. Real modern women don't want the Hulk. They're smart enough to know that even if he would never hurt them directly, they can't always give him what he needs, and would rather leave the room for someone more capable.

    Stupid women, however, see the dragon I go to such lengths to keep hidden away. And they think the best strategy is to unlock that cage and start poking the dragon, teasing it and antagonizing me until I finally go on a rampage shattering all their comfortable illusions about life. Then, they wanna cry foul. Because they just bullied a dragon, and realize too late they can't pay the price.

    I don't hit, except in self-defense. But I grew up amidst some really horrible fights between my folks. I've learned all too well how to use words as soul-crushing weapons.

    There is no face I can put on that can hide it well enough.

  • 1. Because you're not attractive.

    • I am an ugly fucker.

    • @Vivaldi yeah that's why girls think you're creepy. I'm not sure if you other idiots understood what I was trying to say, but girls only think ugly guys are creepy.

    • @Vivaldi why do you always complain about how you look. It seems like you want everyone to have sympathy for you.

  • it's always entertaining to see what guys say about what girls think..

    • Why is that? Because it's true?

  • It's never really about personality. It's always about physical looks. When women look at men physically they've already created an image of what they think you are in their head from your struggles in life, your backstory, how good you are as a person, how much you earn and so forth.

    And with the halo effect of good looking people they aready associate positive traits towards you. While a less attractive person they already associate bad things about you.

    • And well if women already formed a pre imagge that you are a creep you get written off one time and never really get a chance to show them otherwise unless of course you demonstrate strong social values/status in the place you met them. E. g. Get dissed by a girl and called creepy at a party but then she finds out later you are the main center of attraction at the party and popping bottles and suddenly you ain't creepy anymore.

    • For example, my looks sucks. I am quite unattractive.

    • @Vivaldi your personality sucks. You always come across a someone with low to no self esteem.

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  • If you feel anyone is unjustly labeling you a creep, then it's in your best interest not to give a damn.

    On the other hand, if you are being labeled a creep often, then it's in your best interestate to examine why.

    • I did examine why, and with my findings, I have come up with this take.

  • being overly confident come off as creepy to some women, not looking for girls. isn't there a lot of possible reasons not just 3. This is kinda like saying every woman would portray the same reaction to certain creep-like tendencies

  • I find that its usually guys who are unattractive act this way more than guys who are attractive. I dont care much about looks, but unattractive guys who are more desperate to find someone (act like they abosultely need a girl) and think of themselvrs netatively is a personality turn off.

  • This isn't necessarily true. If we think you're creepy and weird it most likely because of how you act or because of something you've said/done. And sometimes guys just give off bad vibes.

    • And those guys that give off bad vibes are ones who are unattractive physically and personality wise.

    • No. they can be really attractive and confident, but you still feel something is off about them

    • Right they could be attractive they could be ugly it doesn't matter. A creepy guy is a creepy guy no matter what he looks like.

  • This is much too vague. Creepiness can be very concrete - from how you look at somebody, questions you ask, to how you might keep making it a point to get near someone. And then it can also be very subjective to various women: what one girl calls/thinks is creepy, is what others wouldn't say is creepy and might even think other girls are dumb or immature for thinking it is.

  • I would argue that it doesn't really matter if you are a man or a woman, looks count. That said, I'd say it is far easier for a man to still date attractive women despite his own looks, than for the reverse to happen. But I think that's more cultural than natural at this point. I think we like to pretend men and women are loads different, but they really aren't. We are all pretty shallow creatures. So point is, if you're ugly, come up with something else that makes you desirable (such as confidence), and quit bitching, because Then you are just ugly and whiny, and if it doesn't make you creepy, it sure as hell makes you annoying to litterally everyone around you. Either that, or lower your standards and date ugly women.

    It's a little stupid that guys get on here saying things like" I'm ugly, shy, not confident, and hot women don't want me- what the hell is wrong with them!"

    Step your game up. Christ.

    As for the creepy portion. I'll admit many women use the term somewhat freely, whether deserved or not. But who really cares? I really don't see why it matters to you.

    • We cannot step our game up with our physical looks. If we lower our standards then we won't in a happy relationship, which is the point of the relationship. Many men care if a girl calls them creepy because it destroys their self esteem.

    • It destroys your self esteem because you have low self esteem to begin with; if you were confident you wouldn't care, you'd brush it off as immature girls being immature- that is as long as your aren't actually being creepy. No, you can't step up your natural looks beyond a certain point. However, the world certainly holds women to a higher standard of beauty. Unless you were born with a facial deformity. If you tan, even fake tans look real now a days if you don't apply it like Trump. If you get a good haircut, step up your style and fashion, nearly every guy can be a 7. And a 7 can pretty much get any girl within reason, as long as you have a decent personality. Now if your personality sucks, improve it. You're under 18 I see. Most kids, including myslef as a teen hadn't Grown into themselves yet. Don't worry about girls right now, worry about you, the confidence will come with time.

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