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Why Casual Sex is Only for Attractive Guys

From my observation I have noticed that the only guys who can get casual sex are attractive looking guys (1 guy per 20). Not only these guy get casual sex, but they (1) get it consistently, which means every time they get out they are in position to get a lay, and (2) they don't have to lower their standards significantly, so they can bang at least average looking women who for most men look attractive.

Average looking guys, on the other hand in general can't get casual sex. At least they cannot get it consistently, which means that in case of getting casual sex they were lucky, and secondly, they have to lower their standards significantly, meaning that they bang either ugly and/or fat women. At the end of the day, as average guy you have to scrap the bottom of the barrel - if you get lucky. lol. This complies with average party report of average looking guy, when after 100 parties everything he managed to achieve is to get dead drunk, pay drinks to women and scrap 20 phone numbers, which half were fake, while the other half never replied. And then he adds: "Well I got lucky with a fat girl once...you know, fat girls need love too".

This is how party looks like for non-attractive guys...

Why Casual Sex is Only for Attractive Guys

...and this is how it usually ends...

Why Casual Sex is Only for Attractive Guys

but it can also end in this way, if they get lucky...

Why Casual Sex is Only for Attractive Guys

Now, this is how party looks for attractive guys...

Why Casual Sex is Only for Attractive Guys

and usually it can end like this...

Why Casual Sex is Only for Attractive Guys

or like this, if they're lucky...

Why Casual Sex is Only for Attractive Guys

Due to observed huge disrepancy in casual sex life between average guys and attractive guys, I decided to investigate things a bit. Of course, It's obvious that attractive guys have it easier, but there is such a leap between these two groups, that causes every saying out there about human sexuality draw false. One of them is "beauty is in the eye of beholder" and second, which is basically the same, is "everyone is attractive for someone". Based on this, one would expect that sex mating would be somewhat evenly distributed. But it is? As, I already implied, it is not. Based on googling it turned out that 10% of guys is fucking 90% of women. Does this sound evenly distributed? Of course not. It's like a difference between driving a minigolf car and a fukin Ferrari. It's a fukin inverse of even distribution lol.

This is what average women are after and this is how "cute" is defined by women's standards...

Why Casual Sex is Only for Attractive Guys

...yup, your chanches are smaller than winning a lottery

And what is the reason of this? Well, women find most guys sexually unattractive and they have plenty of options to fuck. It's a fatal combination and great base for unbalance to occur. In fact average women sees average guy as ugly. There was some experiment where women rated guys. And you know what? Average and ugly looking got same scores, which means that most of guys is at least sexually a worthless scum for average women, let alone for more attractive ones. In that experiment most women have picked the same 3 guys, from all given, ending with the same conclusion again - 90% wanna fuk 10% of guy, in fact in this experiement it was even worse. Guys on the other hand, established more balanced distribution.

If you didn't get me:
casual sex is market is extremely skewed and unbalanced fuckup, where only attractive guys have access from perspective of qunatity, quality and consistency. 90% of other guys is in position to maybe get lucky, but definitely with an extremely shit-tier women. Whoever invented this extremely unbalanced system is a fukin f*****.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • You aren't totally wrong, @realityphil but you're missing one key component: CONFIDENCE. Average, or even below-average-looking guys (like me) can get laid if they have confidence and if they stand out in some way. But you have to be fearless, and you have to NOT CARE if you get rejected - you have to be able to keep a smile on your face and a dance in your step. Sure, you won't get every girl - but you'd be surprised at some of the ones you can get.

    But here's the other thing: most women DON'T WANT CASUAL SEX - and only break their rule for a "1%er" guy - guys she considers a 9+ (most girls don't consider ANY guy a 10 unless he's her celebrity crush), and even then, most girls won't do it most of the time.

    If you want to get laid, be willing to be in a relationship! Even the biggest players rarely get laid as often as a guy in a relationship, whose girl is always around and always ready to go. Sure, it takes some work, but I'd bet if you were in a relationship, you'd get laid at LEAST 10 times as often as you do today.

    Not everyone can be a lead singer of a rock band, or be an action hero, or be a star quarterback. Life isn't fair. Sometimes you have to adjust your goals to what's realistic - but it doesn't mean you have to give up on everything entirely.

    I probably will never be a billionaire - that doesn't mean I can't make more money than most people I'll meet - and I'm not going to give up and be poor on welfare just because being a billionaire is likely out of my reach.

    You can choose to whine and complain, or you can choose to do the best with what you've got and enjoy many, if not most, of the same rewards that a lucky few get easily.

    • " most women DON'T WANT CASUAL SEX " Exactly !! Women are not wired that way.

    • @FatherJack bullshit. they may say and believe that they dont want it. but most of them will have it. they might not meet new random guys all the time but they will almost invariably have a guy or two on the side that they can hook up with casually. then they ofcourse go online and wonder why no guys are comitting to them and its because the guys they are attracted too are those top 10% guys and they are not comitting to anyone because why would they when they can keep banging 90% of the women. i too believe as someone said that confidence is more important than looks. but its hard to get that confidence if you're ugly.

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  • Yes and no. It is true attractive guys can get it easier. But if they are awkward, they are out for most girls. Also, if average looking guys are really good talkers, they can get laid pretty easy too. Attraction helps for sure, but it isn't the only or most significant attribute that will make a girl go home with him.

    • agreed.

    • @Ironlak282 Thanks for having a brain. Some guys get so whiney about girls only going with attractive guys. So not true.

    • I know from experience its a lot harder than that

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  • I tend to agree with the theory that casual sex is only for attractive men but unattractive women can generally find a more attractive guy to go home with if she's the only one offering. This is because guys have lower standards than girls due to having more testosterone and a higher sex drive

    What this theory doesn't take into account is that the 90/10% theory only counts girls looking for casual sex. There are plenty of hot and beautiful girls who are 8s 9s and 10s who don't engage in casual sex because---gasp---they're looking for meaningful relationships. Maybe average guys have to take home ugly girls because the average girls are going home with the hot guys because the hot girls aren't going home with the hot guys. Maybe the hottest girls interested in casual sex are average compared to all girls because actual hot girls have boyfriends or self esteem

    Complaining about not being attractive enough for casual sex is a turnoff to girls who are interested in a meaningful relationship. Guys sit there and complain they want virgins, but go whoring around like a bunch of Catholic rabbits themselves. No thank yiu

    • but most casual sex is not from hooking up with random guys. almost all girls have one or two guys they repeatedly hook up with casually. ofcourse then those girls complain about guys not committing to them, and its because the only guys those girls are interested in are the top 10% guys and they have no interest in committing because they can have casual sex all the time.

  • Actually, the guy I'm casually sleeping with is probably average looking by most standards, although I find him very cute. But his attitude and character were the deciding factors that led to me bedding him.

    • You're sort of average or less though so... this is about attractive women generally.

    • @Jamesol1 He was talking about average girls lol...

    • @Jamesol1 jeesh, mean much? She's pretty.. not less than average at all... be nice.

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  • Well, obviously I'm going to casually fuck a guy I think is hot. I will admit, I have fucked an "average" looking guy because how confident his approach and attitude was, so that does play a factor for me as well.

    • What percentage of men say at a club would you regard as hot (including the ones that aren't your type but you know are handsome)?

    • @Jamesol1 With my tastes in "attractive", maybe 35%.

    • Do you and your friend generally agree on who is attractive or is it really random between you? Just wondering because I've discussed this with friends. We generally agree who is unattractive... but some girls to them look average of which to me look 7-8/10.

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  • Um, this site is so desperate for sex, based on all these creepy men asking and making takes about how they just can't get casual sex lol
    But if you dare to say it, "ohhh muuhhhh god! Stupid feminist, not all men are the same you whore! There's good guys like me who want more! Slut!" So much stupidity and irony.

    However, I know lots of ugly, poor guys who can get casual sex, and no, not just from unattractive women and yet here y'all are, complaining about this shit lol wtf.
    Also, most of those "easy lays" for hot guys aren't other hot girls, they're average or even ugly women. Lots of men brag and over exaggerate about the number of women or even how they look, just so they can impress they're fellow men.

  • Okay. If I'm gonna have anonymous sex, it'll /probably/ be with someone I find attractive. That's not wrong.

    • but what if I say that such guy banged busses of women, most likely without protection and then he goes bucking you (withut protection). Wouldn't you feel like one of his wh0res?

    • Oh. I said anon but I really meant casual sex.

    • And lol. A) no, I would feel like a wh0re because I don't speak in l337 irl. And I wouldn't feel like a whore anyways because I'm not getting paid for it. B) Busses full of women? Is that trumps version of romneys binders full of women? Because, just lol dude. C) even if I were to be having casual sex with a dude, I doesn't mean I'm a fucking idiot. I'd obv never do it without protection and if shit looked funky downstairs, obvs I'm not gonna continue. D) and even if I did contract something, Its because i decided, as a grown ass person fully aware of the consequences of my actions, to have sex. I will fucking deal with it. E) just cuz you're average looking or ugly doesn't mean you're magically free from having anything. F) Lol.

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  • This was written so angry, I feel like I'm being yelled at

    • Anger is a masculine emotion. OP feels jaded and he's speaking his mind. My only beef is that he has to go anon which makes him a huge pussy.

    • Okay i just noticed he's not anon... so i take that back.

  • Have you considered the possibility that hot guys only fuck at parties because women are too intimidated to have a relationship with them? That maybe average looking people actually have a better chance at lasting happiness, or that there's a lot you can do to improve yourself to up your chances?

    • thats the flipside of the coin.. but i won't be much remedy to guys that are literally wired to go want casual sex with hot women but unable to do so

  • Well, you're not entitled to casual sex from women in the first place, sooo...
    In the casual sex world the only factor being put in display are your looks, so it's natural not to go for unattractive guys.

    • Agreed, yet i don't see the main difference between the white shirt guy in the first pic and the white shirt guy in the second pic

    • "Well, you're not entitled to casual sex from women in the first place, sooo..." Why do you suppose, as she shivered weeping in despair, no one, and I mean NO ONE ever told my wife "You're not entitled to a baby" when she found out she couldn't conceive? Why was her grief met with sympathy and understanding (there are support groups for her), but the sadness and grief and frustration of men who want and crave sexual contact is frequently met with the useless and obvious statement like, "Well, you're not entitled to it?" I know one such man, born with down syndrome. He knows he's not entitled to it. Doesn't make him any less sad. I am curious. Do you want children?

    • 'Sorry, I meant fas, not downs.

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  • I'm living proof that a shit ton of confidence and complete lack of caring about what other people think about anything is a good way to get casual sex without being one of the beautiful people.

    • any advice on building that confidence?

  • You need to go to parties more often. Lay off the American Pie movies and experience the real life ones.

  • What you are missing is what "attractive" means.

    It is not the same for all women and it is not constant over a woman's life.

    For teenage girls, attractiveness usually means looks and physique. You might be able to adjust those slightly.

    For women over 20, attractiveness shifts to other characteristics, one of which is wealth. It is not hard to make yourself wealthy, it is merely a plan and hard work.

  • Being funny and alcohol will do far more for you than outright looks when it comes to casual sex... Unless literally all you do is rely on Tinder 😂😂😂.

  • Girls are just more picky when they're gonna sloot. When it comes to a relationship they're less picky over looks and more picky over personality. It's just the way it is.

  • Nobody invented it, it's just biology and it sucks. Luckily a lot of women are actually looking for serious relationships where attraction is more multidimensional. The trick is making sure to find one who wants to be with you for the right reasons; who doesn't see you as a plan B schmuck who can help her pay the bills.

    • I thinnk that plan B schmuck unfortunately applies to most guys.

  • Anyone (including old fugly mofo's like myself, as long as hygiene is taken care of) can get it consistently without lowering standards. Granted you need at least enough money to afford $200 an hour or so. It's called Backpage/escorts.

  • It's an advantage, but I've met guys I would not consider a ladykiller who could have one night stands with relatively attractive women. So I don't know i'd say this is 100% true, but that this is often the case.

  • This goes to remind us of a simple, basic fact of life: one cannot control what others do, but one is able to control oneself.

    Us guys need to be obsessed with making ourselves better men overall, in terms of looks, style/fashion, skills/abilities, accomplishments, etc.

    • Preach it!

  • I don't see a problem here. Women want at least some kind of standard or attraction for sex. How is that weird?

    • Problem is standards are ridculously high. Like a guy on your level of attractiveness isn't good enough for most women (e. g. 5/10 with 5/10). No. He needs to be at least 3+ points higher in looks is when it comes to standards.

    • @TheKingofBBC Most guys prefer the hot model type over the average girl as well

    • @ThisDudeHere Sorry but you don't speak for all men. Most guy are very content and fine with an average girl who they like. brb most girl want to hold out for male tier models until their late 20's.

      https://i.imgur.com/wiHvm.png

      [This is an average girl above]

      In b4 delusional male gagers blow this up to be a model.

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  • I kind of see the science behind it. Some girls and (I think the tides will change ) is that women want to be in charge of a relationship so they will bed muscular Marc and buff brain. But when it comes to dating they go for Average Andrew and nerdy Nick because they will have power over him because he has never had a woman better than him. Or a woman in general.
    Now for me personally, I get showered with compliments but since I am a minority and I live in a mainly white area. I meet girls i'm not into a lot. I know if I moved to the city things would be different

  • Lol well yeah when your dealing with hookup and casual sex of course looks, aesthetics are all that matter.

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