I <3 sex. I love being intimate. But still...there are things people don't mention often about sex. They're awkward, but I just wish I hadn't had to find out the hard way. It wasn't totally the hard way, since I did ask and got lots of advice from people, but still I used to think sex was simple and easy lol
1. Lube
I need it because of BC. Or if sex is too long. It's OK. It can work really well. But applying it can be awkward. You can also make things too slippery.
2. Ending too fast
It's natural. It just happens sometimes and he cums way too fast. Or, he could be one of those guys who just don't care. But for the girl, this sucks.
3. Guys being jelly of or worried about 3somes
I was surprised. I was talking to some guys about it, and they told me that the biggest worry a guy has if she had threesomes before, is that he'll never be able to please her in bed, since he's solo. I think worrying about this is silly, but it's amazing guys think this. I would never have thought that.
4. Pregnancy
Of course! But who talks about this? When I get an odd symptom or think the condom could have slipped, or wonder if I forgot to take my pill, this thought flashes through my mind. Guys don't have to think about the physical consequences of this, so that makes me feel jealous honestly. Like especially when I was younger, I'd panic about sperm, and alll the ways I could accidentally get preggo before I learned more.
I am pro choice, but that doesn't mean I'd be happy about having an abortion or getting pregnant in the first place. It has made me wonder what it feels like, knowing you could make her preggo. Like he might panic just as much, but I mean knowing what it feels like to affect someone's bod that way...?
5. How sex is defined
Lots of people still say sex only counts when it's just intercourse. Or some say it only counts when his dick goes in an orifice. I feel like it's sex, when you're sexual with another person. They're your sexual partner, so why not count it as sex no matter what you do?
With intercourse, I do still feel like we still reached another step. Like there's something biological about it. You know you can get pregnant, and that risk...Or it's supposed to be really romantic, and sex just has this edge to it anyway. It can even feel like a need. So even though I wish the standard definition was different, I understand why people feel that way.
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