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Masturbating After Sex: Weird or Cool?

I was talking with this guy on a Q of mine, and he said if he had to pick, he'd <3 not orgasming from sex! So I asked him to explain, and he said that not orgasming from sex would mean that he could totally enjoy the sex. He said he'd just want to cum after.

Masturbating After Sex: Weird or Cool?
I'd always thought of not cumming from sex, as an inconvenience. It's a standard thing lots of girls deal with, including me, but I thought of it as a compromise. I had never thought that not cumming from sex was ideal, let alone that masturbating after sex was a real idea.

Then I saw comments from a few anon girls saying they loved getting off after sex too, by themselves. I was so surprised by this. So now I want to try myself.

I do think it could be really relaxing. Like we can do short sex, or long sex, or anything. He could do whatever I wanted, and I could do whatever he wanted. Then after sex was over, I could tell him to rub on me to get me off.

I also really prefer he pullout for less pregnancy risk, so he could also jack himself off too. Or I could give him a handjob. It'd be really short, but I would <3 this most of all since I could easily see his face when he came, if I wanted to.

I think this would be a cool idea. No stress or pressure for anyone. Also in my case, I need friction on my clit when to orgasm. So that could be fun too. I wouldn't have to be totally naked and could put my underwear back on...we could have fun with that. Or of course I can give myself a handjob and he can just hold me during it.

I would want to be open with him about this. Like the comments from the anon girls looked like they hid it from their bfs. It's true guys can take it personally, because of how they perform during sex, but I think it's all in how you explain it. If he still doesn't like my idea, then we aren't a match. I'd rather sex be as intimate as possible, instead of him being so focused on his skills or me being unhappy. And instead of me worrying I won't cum from foreplay or sex, and focusing on him not being happy either.

You can get her off before or after sex with foreplay, but it can still be pressure. Not as much, but nothing's perfect. I've only rarely not been able to get off from masturbation though, so I feel like this is just really easy and could be really fun for both. I feel like doing things this way could be really cool.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • You have a good understanding of what sex is. Sex is the all encompassing act of people enjoying themselves in any way shape or form that makes them happy. There shouldn't be any obligations or goals. Just pure understanding, openness, and enjoyment. That's what sex is. A way to connect with ourselves and others in a sensual, intimate manner. How we achieve this shouldn't be and will never be cookie cutter for everyone.

    I think the playing with one another and mutual masturbation is SO FUCKING HOT! hand/oral is way more intimate if you ask me, because you are touching each other in more ways than you could just by penis in vag/ass. You can enjoy each other more intimately because you can take time in watching and concentrating on the other person and making them feel as good as you want or as good as they want, without the worry of yourself or their worry about you. Then you just take turns and go back and forth and then get into the intercourse to add to the spice. So I think your take is really good.

Most Helpful Girl

  • yeah, I look forward to the release but this just might be me.. my orgasms tend to be 'meh.' So, when a guy gets his hands on me, I definitely look forward to him taking control; endearing me and working me up. I have had a rare few who gave great orgasms but in the long run, I am deprived. I regularly masturbate but rarely climax in general, so finishing myself sounds terrible.
    The best sex for me were guys who lasted rounds, multiple orgasms one after another. These relationships were few and far between. I relish the memories and find it difficult to come across this particular breed of men. Masturbation doesn't do much for me so this would not be an ideal thing for me but I enjoyed your take as usual. :)

    • Ooh it's cool you've read my other mytakes. Thanks.

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  • Hey if that is what he's in to then that fine by me, it's not causing any inconvenience or affecting my pleasure. The guy obviously knows what he likes and if he prefers to satisfy himself and that's his preferred technique - no problem.

  • yeah i always fired if i dont cum from sex id just rub against his leg or have him rub against me till i cum I've never been worried about that part. other things yeah like pain lol but not cumming :)

  • I've never thought about it. But it seems like it would be ok once in awhile but not every time you sleep with someone.

  • right on, a legit idea. should build closeness.

  • A female handjob - that really made me laugh. Makes sense. You have a creative mind. Having an orgasm after sex is important in my opinion because all that pressure needs to be released. It will go down slowly on its own, but it leaves an uncomfortable feeling. Physical and mental. If you or your partner did not reach the peak during intercourse then finishing off by yourself should be totally cool. You get to watch and listen.

  • I've really nvr thought ab it that way and also only cum the majority of times from clitoral stimulation. If you think ab it us girls been ahead of the game since we
    already didn't cum from sex by itself lol

  • If I have sex, I have no need to masturbate. Coming inside a woman without a condom is the ultimate orgasm.

    • Yeah, and it's like the ultimate compliment to her! I just get really worried about pregnancy, but this is ideal too.

    • I had a vasectomy after our second child, so pregnancy isn't a problem.

  • Weird unless you are a porn star needing to make a scene last hours (that usually gets edited to 20-30 mins). For me I've only jacked off after sex when the sex itself was lousy (ie she laid there like a corpse and made me do all the work untll I was exhausted, didn't even give a bj let alone an oral creampie, etc) or I simply couldn't cum no matter what (has happened before from jacking off daily for sometimes years before finally getting laid, mini-me was so used to my hand everything else wasn't enough stimulation).

    • Make a scene last? They just fuck her whether she cums or not.

    • No but if the guy cums too early the scene is screwed (along with thousands of dollars in time and labor if it's even a semi-professional production company). Looping the 5-10 minutes of footage you did get is lame and the fapping audience notices and says "wtf?". This is why Ron Jeremy is one of the few male millionaires just from porn, even with his lackluster looks and height (5'6") earning him the nickname "Hedgehog", and even with his age (he still does scenes at 63). He has the talent of pretty much cumming within seconds of the director telling him to, not before or after. Proof you need more than just a nice bod and a big dick for porn (unless you are a midget or something).

    • Oh you meant the guy's side. If you'd read I said he can just do pullout. I love condoms anyway.

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  • As I get older, it takes longer for me to cum. This works out fine for me because I can go much longer than when I was in my 20's. But I've always been more inclined to get my partner off (orally preferred) first then we'll see what happens with me. If I just masturbate afterwards, it's fine, especially if my partner is layng there next to me watching.

  • That pic speaks to me on a spiritual level

    • saame

  • Ugh another person who believe pulling out can be a kind of birth control tool

    • Pulling out while using BC LOL

  • Pretty messed up, huh?

  • I found that the best way of having great sex is doing whatever you liked to do in that moment in time.

    And if masturbating after sex is weird or not, it mostly depends in the context it is done. If something is clear about sex is that anything is clear, so instead let fly your imagination wind it.

  • Never masturbated after sex. The sex was enough

  • Masturbation is damaging your sexual responses and training your mind and body to only get fully aroused and reach climax from your own manual stimulation and control. A lot of guys have the same problem as you through too much masturbation. I would advise you to stop and only let your boyfriend get you off and eventually your body and mind will learn to let go and lose control.

  • My better half wears me out, so I ensure I help her get relief before my big event, that way no-one misses out.
    I can't see any way for myself of masturbating after, being inside a vagina is guaranteed to finish me off sooner or later, and then I end up getting way too sensitive to go straight at it.

    As for the girl, If she wants some more, that's fine by me, I'll snuggle her up, or provide a thigh or something to hump on if that's her preference.

  • I try, but it is just a floppy snake after that so no use.

  • i've literally have mind blowing sex all day at least 3 times and after she left i still jerked off once before i went to bed lol sex and jerking off are both different kinds of orgasms that feel good but the one from sex is the best. I like jerking off cuz u can kinda control ur own pleasure but its nothing compared to cumming in or on a girl.

  • Is little weird. This means that some during a lovemaking did not have an orgasm or don't have enough orgasms.

  • I'd never even think of masturbating AFTER sex. Maybe before because she liked watching me do it but can't see doing it after.

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