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I can love foreplay. But I feel like it can also be annoying to do. I'm expected to orgasm from oral, and that can take a long time. Being expected to orgasm can be a lot of pressure for me. So this is a different perspective, from everyone saying that women always need or even want heavy foreplay.
And I think it can be annoying for him too, having to do so much extra work for me. Me getting on top and doing more work for him can compensate, but sex is still mutual pleasure. Like him just staying down there so long just to make me orgasm, that's always bothered me.
I also think it's sexier for him to just do light foreplay, and then fuck. I feel like it shows that he can't control himself, he just needs to have me now. I also love long foreplay like making out and oral for the both of us, but without us having to orgasm from it, because it's mutual effort.
So, when we get to sex, even if it's long I might not orgasm. I know it's common for women to not orgasm from penetration. I don't care about it, because he's putting in effort for me. I know some guys can actually last too long without trying, but in that case we could work on him cumming more quickly. Either way, he's putting in effort for me to feel satisfied from the sex.
So even if I don't orgasm, it's not like the sex is all about him. It's for the both of us. And I like that better, instead of having him focus so much on me with foreplay.
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