The title of this take should have been “How can an abstinent girl make her sexually active boyfriend become abstinent with her and still be happy in dating”. As you see 👀 this title is too long and very long titles are boring😪 to read and hard to figure out exactly what they are all about.
If you know me from GAG, you most definitely know that I am abstinent and single and want my future boyfriend to have had many hookups. A lot of times I have been asked how I am planning to make such relationship work as many guys (especially sexually active ones) demand sex from their girlfriends. People who I have met on social media told me that most dates without sex end either with him breaking up with her or cheating on her. I guess they say so because in their culture many girls offer sex to their boyfriends (ugh… those sluts. lol). This is why dating an abstinent girl IN THEIR CULTURE is no longer an option for guys unless the guy is religious or abstinent himself. I am not intimidated by women who offer sex before or after the first date nor by women who have sex while dating. However I have never met a guy who would be turned off by my chastity. In fact only on GAG I have come across guys to whom not having sex is a dealbreaker.😛
I myself understand that it is harder for guys to sexually repress themselves. 😫 At least I don’t get blue balls or something, right?
Here are the tips of how I am going to make our date fun and interesting without him even realizing that sex is being missed.😎
1. My friendliness and charisma.
In all seriousness I am very extroverted, chatty, funny and energetic. I can make friends with anyone even with anti social people. I know how to make them open up to me and show their extroverted side. I believe everyone is extroverted. Some people just don’t feel like showing that side of them until they find someone to be comfortable with.
As long as he enjoys my company he will still be content with hanging with me. I am sure if your crush refuses to take you to another level and as a person he/she is not fun to talk to you will not stay in touch with them. A while ago I asked a question here on GAG “Would you still be friends with your crush if they refuse to date you”. Most guys answered “no” because going out with her when she refuses to be more than just friends is painful and a waste of time. In real life I have never met a guy to whom abstinence would be a turn off despite them being non virgin guys.
By the way I don’t refuse to date my future boyfriend lol I refuse to have premarital sex with him. I am sure I can prove him that being with me with no sexual intimacy still feels good too.
2. My looks.
I love buying clothes, shows, bags jewelry, make up items, etc. I am obsessed with beauty and anything concerning looks except for working out not because I am lazy but because I am confident with my weight and muscles. I weight 105-108 pounds (in the mornings) and still have big, firm and round breast and butt. As you guess with this weight of mine I couldn’t have cellulite or belly fat.
This may sound rudely hypocritical but my boyfriend should be athletic and spend some hrs a day at the gym. A guy who doesn’t work out can’t be as hot as girl who doesn’t work out. Muscles and height make a man’s body attractive while slimness and curves makes a woman’s one attractive. Correct me if I am wrong!
If working out will make my body even sexier I will start hitting the gym but for now I don’t feel the need of looking more attractive.
No one can deny that looks are very significant to men and if he finds me the hottest chick that has ever lived on our planet then chances that he won’t leave this hottie is too high. As high as Mt. Everest. So he can easily deal with my abstinence for the sake of someday (on the wedding night) fulfilling his ultimate sexual desire he possesses for me. I asked a question which woman is more desirable for sex. And most guys chose a 9/10 looking girl with no experience over a 6/10 looking one with great bedroom skills. They said looks arouse them more easily than her sexual skills as sexual skills can be noticed after his dick is hard while looks are the ones that get the man hard.💪🍆
You can share your opinion on this too. But only guys lol as I know experienced, average, or low looking girl will definitely say a woman’s experience is more important than her looks. We all know why they would say this. 😲😂
3. The combination of my purity 🌹🍒🌸 and naughtiness 👅🍌🍼
Won’t my naughtiness and innocent transform me from a girl pure in the body and naughty in the mind into a lady in the street and a freak in the sheets when we get married? 👰
I know some guys are even turned off by virginity/abstinence/purity but they may like innocence if it is combined with naughtiness As I am going to stay abstinent it will be inevitable for me to hide my unfulfilled sexual urges and not to show my kinky/dirty side. It is also very necessary to talk about out sexual fantasies and preferences as communication is the best key to a successful sexual relationship. Don’t I sound like a FUTURE lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets? 😜
In spite of the fact that I am abstinent most guys who ask me for date know this very well (I tell them even if they don’t know this) and still my abstinence hasn’t been a problem for them to want to date me. They still chase me because I am seen as a wife material. I do reject them but inside I am very proud of being seen as a more than just a sex object. Them seeing me as a wife means I am more than just a hot body to bang. This certainly comes from my self respectable and classy attitude.
Then again if my saving myself for marriage is a turn off for a guy then I don’t see him as my potential boyfriend or husband because guys like him turn me off. To me a confident, dominant and possessive men value being their beloved woman’s first man therefore they value female virginity no matter if they themselves have slept around or not.
And if I am too good for him to leave me then he should “obey” me no matter what are my demands regarding dating.
Thanks for reading 💋
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