Dear Whiny Men...

Dear Whiny Men...

Dear whiny men,

It's disconcerting that some of you (EMPHASIS ON --->SOME<---) believe that this world has apparently gone to hell in a hand basket because ALL women exist to, in your words, what, suffocate you, or only date literally the worst your sex has to offer us, or take all your money and run, or ditch their so called ordained role of unemployed intensely devoted wife to you and baby maker to your offspring. So you feel that these are the sole reasons your life is horrible and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, do you?

Come on friend!!!! Really? Some of you are the same exact people that like to tell minorities that they should get off their asses and stop blaming white people for everything wrong with their lives. You are the same ones who tell poor people that they have plenty of the same opportunities as rich people, if only they'd try a little harder. You're the same people who think anyone with a "label," shouldn't get any "extra privileges" handed to them because we can all just, you know, pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and do a little extra and fix our lives....EXCEPT... when it comes to your relationship to women. How is it everyone else needs to STFU and deal with their lives and their own situation and own up to their part of all of this, except apparently you?

Oh let someone mention the word women, and your face flushes, and your head practically explodes. Women, women, women...boom, boom, boom! If women were truly so all powerful and controlled every aspect of life, why aren't we in the majority of power positions on this planet? Why aren't we making equal pay around the globe? Why are women still to this day fighting for fertility rights and maternity leave and the right not to have the worst of you (which you claim we all date) punch us in the face or rape us and get away with it without so much as a slap on the wrist? How can you possibly have so much power in this world and still feel as though you are somehow completely helpless creatures incapable of scraping together your lives in the presence of a woman?

Dear Whiny Men...

Everyone has bad experiences with someone or something. It's just a fact of life. Of course many of you have had some bad experiences, but when you take that, and make it your blueprint as to how apparently the entire rest of your life and everyone you meet in the future is going to be with no deviation and start blaming even the completely innocent of injury to you, that's when I'm going to pull the whiny man card and call it for what it is. Bullsh*t!

When sh*t doesn't work out in your favor in this world, the competent, the intelligent, the problem solvers, the successful people, they take the hit, analyze it, and they find solutions. They don't spend years of their lives whining about how unfair the sh*t is because while you're busy wasting time doing that, the rest of us, including your fellow man, will have moved on and found ways to improve their lives and future relationships.

Here is a reality of your situation: just because you are a man and you merely exist, does not mean happiness, money, a perfect relationship, a perfect marriage, kids, a great job, a great house, any of that, is guaranteed you OR anyone else on this planet. You think just because you're a good guy, a girl should automatically just fall into your lap because you give her an ounce of kindness, or just because you got married, life should be perfect from there on out? You gotta get that fantasy out of your head! Even in the best relationships, there are issues and issues that are caused by the TWO people in those relationships.

Dear Whiny Men...

Women, plural, are individuals. Different minds, different experiences, different wants and needs. There is no one size fits all and yet, in the whiny man's mind, no woman can ever treat you well, or ever wants the good guy, or only wants your money, or is taking over everything when that is so far from reality. A woman can even present herself as the exact opposite of your negative script you have in your head for all women, and you still refuse to see that it's not all women. It's so easy for you to slap those labels on all women, but let a woman say "all guys this, or all guys that," and OMG, that's soo not true, let me write a full page brief about it in the comments. Can't have it both ways.You can't keep projecting your insecurities or all your past relationships on every woman because every woman is not the same. The only person that hurts in the end is you because you are so wired to doom all women and all relationships to them, that you wouldn't be able to see good if it walked right up to you.

Don't let hurt or this level of delusional thinking take over your lives. Instead of play the pity party role, as you suggest to anyone else with a label, pick yourself up off your butt and go out there and find a solution in a new person, in a new experience, in making yourself a better person, whatever it takes, because the world doesn't stop and wait for any of us to sit and whine about it all. Women aren't going to go away no matter how deep a hole you live in by yourselves and this idea that you can avoid women in anyway or that other men should is just insuring that you will literally rid yourself and others like you right on out of existence because survival of the fittest doesn't happen if you're not even on the chess board.

21 12

Most Helpful Guy

  • All true.

    Yes, feminism has changed things. Yes, some of it is fucked up. Yes, some girls are screwed up. But most women are just women, and most just want a decent guy who treats her well and is honest with her. That's not asking a lot - but it's too much for some men. Ironically, many of those same men are frustrated that they can't get women, but are unwilling to make any changes to make themselves more attractive to women.

    That's their right, but you can't in a trophy if you don't even play the game.

    • @Mysterioustruth Why? What she's saying is TRUE of *some* guys - which is exactly what she said. If you aren't one of them, that doesn't make her statement any less true.

    • Thanks. It's clear the ones who are triggered are the ones this rings true for. They can call me all manner of names, and I'm sure they will, but it's merely proving my point. Neither man nor woman is perfect. No man wants the whiny woman who blames all of them for everything in the same way no woman wants the whiny man who blames all women for everything. These guys need to own their sh*t like the rest of us, instead of play poor pity me, I'm so pathetic, no one in the world likes me and it's every woman on the planets fault that no one likes me. You point this out to them, and they lose their minds because it sucks to hear the hard truth... that like everyone else, they need to get up, get out there into the world, and actually try, and if that fails, try and try again because life owes all of us nothing by virtue of our existence. We have to go out there and get the trophy as you say.

    • i agree with you on the decent guy part :D xD

    • Show All

Most Helpful Girl

  • Women are just a convenient excuse for them, they would hate and troll no mater what. When I argue with guys like this on GAG and mention facts, they don't care and won't reply. but if I say total nonsense like 'LOL', they either still won't reply or will really obviously try to bait me. Like I try to make them show everyone how much they're trolling. Works great. I found out they just don't care about the subject or women being unfair or whatever, not really.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

14 58
  • Thank you for writing this awesomely accurate post. This world is filled with pussies and it is sickening.

  • I agree , all of the men who are up in arms and offended over this are proving that they're the "whiny" men that this article was written about. Not all men are like this and not all men are whiny, this wasn't an attack at males , but notice some are still upset and call you a sexist feminist because you point out the issue that not all men are well rounded , nice , secure people. Lol

    • she literally did the same thing that she claims that men do. This was definitely an attack on males and she is not exempt of it for the sole fact of being a female.

    • Lol yeah I agree with @applesandoranges22. The askers post is an attack on men, she clearly uses feminist logic here. Hell she even tries to use the pay gap even though thats been debunked. Don't wanna be called a sexist feminist? Stop using their arguements, logic, and fallacial data in YOUR conversations and posts. Just stop being sexist.

    • @Wwwyzzerdd It's an attack on the men who whine about not getting their way and blame all their issues on women. She clearly stated this isn't aimed towards all men , but there's still males who are offended by an article pointing out the flaws of certain males. If you make an article on why women who are spoiled and expect everything done for them , its not an attack on all women, its an attack on women who display this behavior

    • Show All
  • Totally agree.. well... except for one thing...
    The reason why women aren't in more position of power is simple... you dont put "crazy" in a position of power lol...
    all its gonna take is one bad period/cramp lol
    The women who are in power though, fucking earned it and are respected. Their logic isn't the same as the general female logic.
    Aside from that, good Take. i believe guys should really work on themselves to attract women, and women should work on themselves to KEEP the men.
    Men whine about not getting women, and women whine about men not staying.
    Meh.. like you said, women will always be here... and so will men.

  • Good take, I agree with most of it.

    One thing tho
    " because survival of the fittest doesn't happen if you're not even on the chess board"
    well you know the term survival of the fittest is kinda a euphemism what people mean normally is "reproduction of the fittest" and men being so bitter they want nothing to do with women is a great example of natural selection working. Their behavior doesn't benefit the species but it doesn't matter because they don't to pass on their genes to the next generation

  • Wow look at all these opinions from men who don't even know what it is they have an opinion on. They didn't even read the damn thing but think they can still comment on the content?
    Not surprising that they got so butthurt because they didn't get to the part in your SECOND sentence about this not even applying to all men. Lol. Or maybe they just identified a little too much with your take and it struck a chord.
    Anyways. Good job.

    • I know. I'm literally talking about like the maybe 10% of the populous who actually faults all women for all their problems, but yet so many read the title and went off. If they actually read it, I'm pretty sure, most would actually agree with a lot of the content. In fact, I know they would.

    • Yup. I agree.

    • MyTake Author, make that from 10% to maybe 50%. It seems like a realistic stat these days.

  • Bravo, I think your description is nearly perfect. Or should I say, it perfectly describes how I see it too. And I am a 45 yr old white male: I know Women should feel about 1000 times worse than I do. I scream at my tv in disgust whenever those narrow-minded, cowardly assholes talk about how hard they have it. They are the type of people who blame anyone but theirselves. They seem to be incapable of reason or logic. Even when the evidence is overwhelming against their views. Even when they have zero evidence: to back up their claims. They do not even attemp to look for truth. How can this be possible in the Information Age? When every one 8 years old and up has access to an inconceivable amount of information at their fingertips.

    You hit the nail on the head, you have every right to be angry. We all should be angry! I can only hope something will change this. I'm out of ideas, and am fearful that we are really in danger of extinction as a species.

    • there will always be enough pussy worshippers for sperm donation as well as support programs to single moms, so I don't the the species on the brink of extinction (yet).

  • The only thing you forgot was the mic drop at the end.

    Fuckin preeeeeeeach!!!

  • Title is wisely written :)

  • i agree with this and like i was saying in another thread guys have grown weak since i was younger. i have never seen so many whiners over stupid shit. half the things they do whine over i would brag about. they have really dropped there balls and refuse to pick them up for some reason now lol.

    • It's almost an epidemic in society. You ask people to take control of their own s---t and they lose their minds. You explain that life can be very unfair, and they lose their minds. You ask them to take personal responsibility for themselves and their actions... broken record... they lose their minds.

    • yeah and the guy that down voted me must like to complain a lot. lol but it proves you hit a nerve with this question.

  • I agree. But most of this also goes for "whiny" and jealous women. Maybe they don't whine on social media but my best friend is killing me in person... -.-

  • Thank you so much for telling us "whiny" (your say) "independent" (my say) men to man up.
    I won't go for the feminist BS like the allways mentioned "gender-pay-gap" or "the rape is not prosecuted" nonsense. The only culture, where rape is punished by a clap on the handwrist is the sharia law, which is not applicable to the US last time I checked.
    I will just tell you, when you don't want "whiny" men and they don't want to mingle with you, then wtf is your problem? Do you honestly think, men who have opted out of the relationshit treatmill need or will accept your advice?

    when you're not even on the chess board, because you opted out, because you refuse to ajust to your environment, then it is litterally the survival of the fittest. In Darwin's origin of the species, it is the survival of the ones who are able to adopt to their environment best. Man's free will not to adopt is an interesting twist, but fully within Darwin's theory.

    "Sometimes the only winning move is not to play!" (wargames 1984)

    • In sharia law there is death penalty (if he is married at the time of rape). Please do your home work before fart... sorry talk!.

      "The punishment for rape in Islam is same as the punishment for zina, which is stoning if the perpetrator is married, and one hundred lashes and banishment for one year if he is not married."
      https://islamqa.info/en/72338

  • Wow, this is the most well written take I've read on here in recent memory.

    I agree with 95% of this. I think women and men are more equal these days than you act like. But I agree that more needs to be done to protect them from rape.

    The rest of this kicks ass. I think half the site will hate it, half of the other half will pretend to like it and the rest will actually like it.

    Seriously, nice writing though. This is the first time in a really long time that I read that much on this site. Barely anyone on here can write well enough to keep me for more than 3 short paragraphs

    • @Mysterioustruth Listen, Sure it used to be true that a woman could just claim rape and they would be ready to put whoever she pointed at to death but these days it doesn't happen anymore. They realize the penalty is too steep to convict someone without absolute proof. Which was a great justice for men, only women are back to square 1. And if there's one thing this site tells us about society, it's that there are a ton of men who can't get girls, and they blame it completely on the girls. Of course it's easier to date as a girl but dating as a guy isn't that hard. Even if your not that good looking. It's just that there are so many losers who give up on themselves and don't want to have to come to terms with the fact that they don't know how to behave around women. Don't call me a disgrace, you're the fucking disgrace for being one of them. Yea, women are crazy, and unreasonable and whatever, but they've always been like that and guys have been content since literally the beginnin

    • This is literally for that small list of men who seem to think women are the root of every problem they have in their lives and of course the only ones who get offended, are not shockingly, those very same men. If men or women thought the solution to all their problems was just to become lesbians and gays, aka, eliminate the gender differences and quote: "all the problems," they'd be just as shocked to find that in gay relationships, the same darn issues exist there as they do with the opposite sex, so it has nothing really to do with one sex or the other, it's both, it's all of us on this rock we call Earth and like you said, it's been going on since the dawn of time, so here we are, and just like then, today, and tomorrow and on down the line, we just deal with each other and figure things out.

  • Whiny men are weak, lazy men who don't deserve women anyway, cause they're only gonna make these women's lives utterly miserable.

  • please, women have been whining constantly for the last 60 years and got most of the results they wanted, yet many of them are still whining (including you) about men despite already having more rights than men and having many privileges at the cost of men. The reason men are starting to complain is because these changes in society ultimately made gender relations much worse, and not just because of the changes in laws, women like to believe in the false idea that the genders are equal, but are still on an instinctual level for the most part only attracted to men who have more value than herself (hypergamy). This instinctual trait works well in natural and free environments, but in a society where we artificially elevate women with all kinds of aids, resources and protections, the balance is ruined. And in the end for most women it actually ends up being worse for women than men, even though women during their prime years now can enjoy the most privileged existance in human history. But many will end up dying alone due to their unrealistic standards given the current environment. And men will handle loneliness better since we really only need sex from women and not much else.

  • Just like whiny men, this Take is pathetic.

    • Oh by all means, do elaborate. It's easy to insult someone, but with nothing to back it up, well...

    • So by your own admission, you are now whining as well... welcome friend :)

    • ☝☝☝😂😂😂 True

    • Show All
  • Sorry sis... but women whine just as much. This was one big long whine. All that was missing was your pussy hat.

  • I agree :)

    • So like did anyone actually read this? :/ the responses are like what?

    • Did you actually read this? Clearly an attack on men while cherry picking facts and social behaviors. Written by a sexist feminist.

  • Yeah I agree with you. Having said that, your take would of had more impact if you didn't hide behind anon.

    • Well thanks..."Chico_brah"... is it? This wouldn't have had any more or less impact if I was not Anon. I've written quite a bit Anon and not, and it's the same story no matter what you write. Most are just commenting without reading anyway, which I've come to expect and subsequently ignore because if they haven't read it, what then are they commenting on.

  • Great take. Very accurate

  • Last paragraph is very true. Well done. Applies to bother genders.

  • Show More (52)