Sex: The Truth about Double Standards

[anastasiasgun]

Now this is going to be a short mytake but I would like to address the double standards when it comes to casual sex, hooking up, one night stands, etc.

Now I do not know how it is for gay men relationships but I will do my best to address both.

However for this part I would like to address the only type of relationships that I am familiar with, heterosexual relationships. So without further ado, here we go.

Women

If a women has casual sex, it has no benefit to her whatsoever other than lack of self esteem and a possible baby out of wedlock. If a woman who has had casual sex gets married or in a relationship and the guy knows she had it, it will bother him even if he is a guy who has hooked up a lot as well. No matter how many times she may have proven she is not the same person, she will be constantly reminded of her past no matter what. Especially if the guy has an excuse to bring it up. She may always be seen as a ho, slut, pick a name, etc.

Men

A men can sleep with a lot of women and still be seen as a gentleman no matter what if he decides to settle down with one woman. It's almost as if his past has disappeared, see the difference? A man will not be constantly reminded of his past by his girlfriend/wife. Even if a girl he has hooked up with who he remembers in the past, it still will not be looked down upon because in society men are expected to "just be boys" and release their primal urges.

Of course even lots of hookups in sex are looked down upon in the gay male community. A man will be seen as having issues if he gets around a lot, and similar to women (not just like women) men will look past them for relationship potential.

[FakeName123]

Sexual Economics.

It's simple supply and demand. Men have the demand, women have the supply. The average woman can easily sleep with plenty of guys. The average guy needs to put effort.

Thus a woman who sleeps around easily actively lowers her price -> people look down on her.

[Lopezz1999]

That is correct. I was actually going to write a Take debating this double standard until I stumbled upon your logical comment. I've always known that this is true.. it just so happens that no one ever really looks into double standards like this.

[oddwaffle]

It's economics but not in a supply of sex way. If you think about it then sex is not a finite supply. It's closer to software license. You can print a near infinite copies of your software. You as well as much as the market demands. So why does it make a woman 'cheap' when she has too many partners? It has something to do with the men perception obviously. Why? Because a guy would treat his woman differently if he didn't know her sexual activity in the past. I personally think it boils down to offsprings. One of the thing men look for in women would be the ability for her to bear him children and the capabilities to bring up his kids property. Motherly traits in general. However, one of the things he will not like is for her to have children with someone else. Because she would spend her resources for someone else's children and not his.

[anastasiasgun]

So women are products...

[Lopezz1999]

He may have worded it offensively, but the fact is true that because of guys' testosterone, girls are able to easily hook up with guys if they wanted to. You as a woman know you're not just a piece of meat, and because of this high respect for yourself, it will never be as easy for guys to hook up with a random joe. And because of this, a woman that has a high number, or a guy that has a low number, can be shunned upon by society for these modest reasons. You all know that you're all very much respectable and highly value yourselves, so why do you disagree with Opinion Owner?

[Wwwyzzerdd]

@anastasiasgun Other women have made you products, yes. Other women selling sex has made women just as disposable as men. If we aren't fitting partners then either way we can get our needs met for a couple hundreds.

[FakeName123]

@anastasiasgun That is of course the bottom line of my statement. 'duh. And now take a chillpill and think before you react emotionally about something that I have never said.

[SovereignessofVamps]

But I don't care *looks around all innocent*. I'll just ignore any haters.

Also, your mytake doesn't seem to have a main point, like it just defines double standards. So I can't even tell if you agree with the double standards or not, like honestly it's just a little confusing.

[SovereignessofVamps]

Unless you just wanted to define stuff which is cool, I just expected like a debate post.

[anastasiasgun]

Surprise not every Mytake is a debate unfortunately

[Mysterioustruth]

The truth is women and men aren't the same

[btbc92]

The problem is people are having premarital sex. It doesn't matter if it's male or female or whoever considers themselves gay or straight. The person's past should be in the past, but the fact is if their past is interfering with their future it's going to be talked about. I really get heated when I hear people tell a lie how they don't have issues after having so many partners or even just one come into their minds while having sex with a new partner/spouse. It has to at least happen one time, even without having sex. These are often one thought's that are unwanted, and the prove that you really do become ONE with that person. And your spiritual spouse illegally through soul ties.

In fact, it's only double standards from people who are hypocrites. It is neither acceptable for either man or woman to be doing this. But people encourage it, and allow it, so where should anybody complain except for those who don't do it. I don't like it when men sleep around, even in relationships. I have my beliefs about it, and I know others would not agree. But I'm not going to be involved with somebody who's being a hypocrite in that standard. I've come across guys who only wanted to date me because I was a virgin. But they didn't like the fact I only would have sex in marriage on the wedding night. The same way I don't like women doing it, I don't like men doing it either. I see it should be looked down upon on both genders, not just one. Premarital sex either way is damaging, but sex is far more damaging physically for women as well as mentally. While for men, but not much physical damage is noticeable, but the signs are far more prominent mentally, spiritually, emotionally as well as psychologically. I'm covering all areas here. Casual sex and premarital sex as a whole is one of the fastest ways to catch STI's and STD's.

[anastasiasgun]

Premarital sex includes boyfriend and girlfriend relationships as well though

[btbc92]

That is what I'm saying. Either way, if it's outside of a matrimonial relationship, it's still a risk. I know from experience when my own late mother told me about it. My parents had a LOT of issues, that even a psychologist would be ready to kick anybody out. So when I hear, again, how it doesn't affect anybody, their full of themselves and delusional. But I'm glad that you pointed out a few things though in this myTake. Just wanted to clarify. Because others really don't understand how bad it's getting.

[Mysterioustruth]

The truth is women and men aren't the same

[btbc92]

@Mysterioustruth It doesn't matter if women and men aren't the same. The point is, things are supposed to be a certain way, and society as a whole just wants the perks without making the sacrifices for it. Or what the privileges without taking the responsibility.

[Mysterioustruth]

Women want the privileges without the responsibilities. Not men! The truth is logic is always more important than political correctness. Logic tells you that men and women aren't the same. That men role in nature is to procreate and spread his gene and that women is to be selective. So there you have it.

[btbc92]

@Mysterioustruth Not all women want's to do that and I see men do the exact same thing. I'm not taking sides. Both parties are wrong. We know men and women aren't psychologically the same, but it's still no excuse. I believe in the way God had set things to be. That is simply as that. The problem is men have fallen so short from the roles they were called to do, and the result is women are on the revolt through feminism to emasculate the men to be what we see as the 'dominatrix'. She has become another man that the male can't compete with. God made it for 1 man and 1 woman in a marriage, to procreate and to continue to cycle. Now there is really no need for all of that unless it is by your free will to get into marriage or having sex. Not all of this garbage, this is why everything is so complicated because we as a whole human race made it that way. And all we are teaching younger generations is that we don't got it together.

[Mysterioustruth]

I agree but if we are talking about God, then no one should sin. However, that's not what we are talking about. We are talking about different views upon promiscuous men and women. That where I go explaining logic. Secondly, when have men falling short of the way? We create everything, made life easy for you but women don't want to submit. Literally your ignorance is pissing me off. That's why god created women as "inferior" because deserve to be. They are unappreciative evil people. God even said he regret for creating women. All the gender problems that we have started from WOMEN not MEN. Women want to be men and just like the devil wanted to do in the very beginning, women want to overthrow us. However, any evil that arises shall be cut short. That's why study shows that women today are more and more unhappy.

[btbc92]

@Mysterioustruth Men are supposed to be the head of the household and leaders to the women in their lives. Now they don't want that. So what are women are supposed to do? I'm a Christian and neither have I read in the Bible how he regret creating women. He has never told me that. The issues are simply what you said: promiscuous people. Those who go against the natural order. God did not create women to be inferior to men. He created women because he knew that Adam didn't want to be alone. Men are not above women be is her equal. But he is called to lead, and her to nurture under his leadership, the right way. When you have a man who is about his own way, a woman cannot follow under that. In the beginning, after the fall of man, he said there would be enmity between us. We already know the devil plotted this from the get-go, but until we fix the issue with people's attitude towards the basics of life, were not going to get any better.

[Mysterioustruth]

I don't mean this as an insult but, this is why I don't like arguing with women. They just waste your time since they are very illogical and argue with only emotion. If you reply something stupid to me again, I'll end this argument. haven't I explained to you that life was beautiful for women before feminism happened. I even wrote a mytake for this. So why do you keep replying to me that men don't wanna be the head? And if you make such claim, you need facts to back it up. Secondly, If men aren't capable of leading, you emasculate them? Have you even heard of a man who don't want to lead? You're just talking from your anus and it comes to explain why women aren't logically people. The truth is, from the garden of eaden, women have shown manipulative and evil insentive. That's why god made you to be second best. Women are inferior to men in almost everything. It's for both our own good. Why do you think women hate themselves? Because women understand the true evil in eachother.

[Mysterioustruth]

God made women as a weak vessel, however women wanna claim they're strong. Women want to be men and do men things which is in itself an abomination. Women have been manipulative since day one. Women are have caused all sort of gender problems.

[btbc92]

@Mysterioustruth If they don't want to lead then that is their problem. All I'm saying is for them to stop complaining about women. Look, I'm not here to argue and debate. I don't know where you get this idea that this is an argument. I'm not getting offensive about anything. We are simply talking. You're entitled to your opinion and I'm entitled to mine. I don't have to get into a meaningless debate over what I know vs what you know. What you experience is one thing, and I experience another. I'm just trying to figure out where you're getting your view-points from. Because everything you're telling me differs from what I read in the Bible, and that I was shown and told different by the big man himself. That is all I'm saying. Now if you made a myTake on it, I would be happy to read it myself. All I want to know again, is where do you get you conclusions from the same way I'm explaining mine. Now If I sound like I'm repeating myself , or arguing with you, then we do not need to

[btbc92]

discuss it any further.

[Mysterioustruth]

You need to wise up or your ignorance will damage you you keep replying with something more illogical than before. Have you ever heard of a man who don't want to lead? I have already explained to you why saying that is wrong. However you keep talking stupid. There can't be two captin in one ship, if women want to be captains too, it can't work. That that's the real problem. Now women wanna blame men for their own problems, it's ridiculous. Women should be behind their man and not emasculating him period. That's evil! Now of course your entitled to your opinion and me to mine but that's what emotional, illogical people like to say. Go on and believe the earth is flat but you're just stupid. My point is women are the cause of most of it eat. They will reap what they sow. Women have already started to suffer.

[xxmamichulaxx]

Why are people still complaining about this? Fuck who you want as much as you want , but dont get upset if not everyone approves of it. In my opinion and many others opinions, men and women who have lots of casual sex with random people aren't glorified or put on high standards , its unattractive on both genders but at the end of the day, others sex lives aren't my business and I could care less who they sleep with. That's it. Sleeping around gets you less respect from others in most cases and in society for the most part , whether you're male or female.

[Tdieseler]

Damn :( i came in here to rip you a new one... but you said some truths about your topic...
SOME truths about it... when i write the real "double standards" Take... this might be a part of it.
Otherwise... good take.
Oh, I've always been rooting for a woman who has has lots of men, at least SHE know what a man wants... not a moron virgin.

[Sara413]

What point are you trying to make here? Are you trying to say it is right that these double standards exist? Or just pointing out that they do?

[anastasiasgun]

I'm pointing out that they do

[Sara413]

Ok then..

[Mysterioustruth]

The truth is women and men aren't the same

[YourFutureEx]

A take on slut shaming?

[KaseyRouqe]

I think that women who don't want to be judge should just stop hooking up with assholes. Sexist men, most of the time, will not change their mind. Most are very close minded and I feel people give them too much importance; that they don't deserve. by the way whatever lifestyle you have it's no ones business. If you don't like me ignore and I'll do the same. It takes too much energy to be hateful.

[I-am-a-nobody]

I was expecting more here.
We all know about the double standard, but there's no moral judgment here, which frankly bothers me. I expected an opinion one way or the other.
Or is the opinion merely implied?
I can't be sure. A lot of people (mostly men) are fine with the double standard and back it up with theories on evolutionary biology. Other people (mostly women) decry "slut shaming". But many questions remain.

Why is there a double standard?
Who is responsible for the double standard?
Is it OK that there is a double standard?
If it is not OK, how can it be "fixed"?

These are the unanswered questions in this MyTake.
Even worse the questions aren't even asked!

[Mysterioustruth]

You're not using your logic. Being logical is much more important than being polically correct. However the importance of the two have recently flipped. The truth is men are very different from women. Biologically Speaking, the role of a man is to procreate and spread his genes as much as possible where as the role of a woman is to be selective. That's the reality. So when a person negates all of those things, that person is either illogical of not very intelligent.

[I-am-a-nobody]

@Mysterioustruth Why are you saying I'm not using logic? I didn't even state an opinion except to say that I wish the MyTake owner expressed an opinion. And are you really implying I'm politically correct? OK, you're going with the "Biologically Speaking, the role of a man is to procreate and spread his genes as much as possible" angle, as most men do (surprise, surprise). Then why are swans (or even owl monkeys) monogamous? Wouldn't it make sense to spread your genes as much as possible if you're an owl monkey? Apparently not. Wouldn't monogamy in a human male be a favorable quality in light of the fact that she might need him to help raise children? Well, you might say, women today aren't behaving as if monogamy in a human male is favorable and that's true. But some men today prefer sex with other men, rather than women, and that definitely isn't helping spread his genes as much as possible. Maybe YOU'RE the one who didn't think it through, ever consider that?

[Mysterioustruth]

Sorry I copy pasted it. Anyway you're reply was very illogical. Monkey, swans and owls are not the human race. Secondly do you know what monogamous is? Because a couple of the animals you mentioned aren't. Next, animals are very varried. Comparing any animal you want to the human race is ridiculously stupid since not all animals are the same. If you want to refute my arguments, at least try to be intelligent about it. The main point is men are made to procreate and spread their genes hence why monogamy is stupid.

[I-am-a-nobody]

@Mysterioustruth
OK, let me rephrase it...
If you're coming at it with a "men are just another animal" approach (which I don't by the way), then you might say as you did that "Biologically Speaking, the role of a man is to procreate and spread his genes as much as possible".
So, I took your faulty premise and said that swans (which are somewhat monogamous and owl monkeys (a type of monkey that looks like an owl and is 100% monogamous) DON'T spread their genes as much as possible.
www.wired.com/.../
My point being that a man simply "spreading his genes" randomly isn't necessary advantageous biologically (or otherwise).
My further point is that the sexual behaviors we see in people today aren't necessarily best for the propagation of the human race. (e. g. homosexuality)

Unfortunately, my well thought out argument is probably being wasted on someone who likes to insult other people while playing Copy/Paste.

[Mysterioustruth]

@I-am-a-nobody do you actually realize you are off topic? You aren't even explaining to me anymore why men aren't made to procreate and why we are monogamous. When you return to the subject I'll gladly debate you.

[I-am-a-nobody]

@Mysterioustruth Well, Mr. Cut/Paste, when you realize that debate means more than pasting, "Biologically Speaking, the role of a man is to procreate and spread his genes..." along with an implied insult of people's intelligence, SIX TIMES OVER, then debate can truly begin. You still haven't backed up your silly assertion. And I've refuted it twice now. I realize you'd rather type insults than actually read, but I already implied why monogamy is preferred in men, when I asked: "Wouldn't monogamy in a human male be a favorable quality in light of the fact that she might need him to help raise children?" Ever raise kids Mysterioustruth? If not, then you probably don't know what i'm talking about. Honestly, I won a full scholarship to a highly ranked university, and I communicate well and regularly with intelligent people who don't Cut/Paste condescending remarks. So until you start communicating like an adult, the problem lies with you.

[Mysterioustruth]

Your explanation for monogamy was terrible. In a poligamous family, the man is still around. He can take care of the family while the mothers nuture their children.

[I-am-a-nobody]

@Mysterioustruth Ever raise kids? Probably no. Ever raise kids to multiple mothers? Didn't think so. Ever do it in a hunter/gatherer "economy"? No again... Ever do it in a hunter/gatherer "economy" with other guys who also want women? No. By the way, learn how to spell polygamous. Misspellings like that make you look like some stupid punk who's just acting like a know-it-all. Oh, and look up "owl monkey", before you start insulting people. Just cut and paste "owl monkey" into your browser. I'm sure you can do that much. I'll say it again... Until you start communicating like an adult, the problem lies with you.

[Mysterioustruth]

When you debate me, you debate with intelligence not emotion. Okay? Whether I've raised kids or not isn't part of the equation. My dad was raised in a poligamous home. And he was just fine. Use logic and reasoning to give a response, not what you think or your emotion. Logically speaking, there isn't any inconvenience to poligamous.

[I-am-a-nobody]

@Mysterioustruth I can debate with both intelligence AND emotion. Yeah, and your father raised you to be a rude child, so there's that against polygamy, too. Oh, and you're STILL misspelling polygamous! There's a spellcheck (the red wavy line), use it! And to prove once more that I too can cut and paste: By the way, learn how to spell polygamous. Misspellings like that make you look like some stupid punk who's just acting like a know-it-all. Oh, and look up "owl monkey", before you start insulting people. Just cut and paste "owl monkey" into your browser. I'm sure you can do that much. I'll say it again... Until you start communicating like an adult, the problem lies with you. This conversation has degenerated from your first cut and paste condescending comment. Seriously, try to do better next time. For my part, I'll try to be more patient. I wish you the best in your future posting attempts.

[BubbleBoy69]

Men and women are not the same nor is there response to sex or access to sex. It has been shown numerous times sex causes more psychological damage to women than it does to men.

[NCognito]

No, sex does not cause psychological damage to a women that has healthy self-esteem. Someone she respects (I. e. values the opinion of) trying to make her feel ashamed can cause psychological trauma. If said immature moron doesn't berate her, there will be no damage.

[BubbleBoy69]

@NCognito It's been shown that women do get psychological damage from having lots of sex. It's not the same for each gender no matter how hard people try to push this equality crap.

[BubbleBoy69]

https://i.imgur.com/vslGKsn.jpg

[anastasiasgun]

It can damage a women's self esteem because women tend to get attached after sex

[NCognito]

Please note that I said women with HEALTHY self esteem. Very few women in American society really qualify and the reasons are NOT genetic. They are social (various relationship dynamics) and often rooted in religious/moral beliefs to some degree. Regardless of the data on your chart, it is asinine to claim the length of time in a marriage directly and solely correlates to psychological health. By the same token, using longevity alone as a barometer for stability in a marriage is just as juvenile. Stable doesn't necessarily mean happy if the only consideration is the age of the relationship. There are many factors and they differ from society to society and from era to era. Men and women may not be the same (and I never said they were) but they are more similar than different and those differences are easily manipulated. This makes sense as all humans begin as genetically female until the few differences kick in with the influence of the Y chromosome.

[alphadog]

@NCognito wrong, the differences between men and women in terms of their views on sex are genetic. Its rooted in mating strategies that the genders need to increase likelyhood of securing offspring that will survive. Women with higher number of sexual partners are more likely to be mentally unstable.

[NatashaJ]

I love how men in the western societies want to shit on women so much but still have the nerve to think that he has a right to date or have sex with women in general. BAWAHAHA. Ladies this is why you should be picky don't sleep with a guy so quickly especially if your looking for a relationship. Your not going to get it from a hyper-sexual guy who only sexual and doesn't tell you anything about their lives at all.

[NatashaJ]

they have a right*

[Blonde401]

What's the point of this take? Other than it being the same regurgitated garbage I see here every day.

[Imhotep99]

Lol. You don't have a point to make and chose to insult her looks.
https://i.imgur.com/SdP4oYu.gif

[anastasiasgun]

@Imhotep99 she chose to insult my Mytake without any intelligent constructive criticism so kindly fuck off :)

[Imhotep99]

Nah she has a point. Her point is the same as mine and that is that this take addresses nothing new. Anti slut shaming take version 1000000. Kindly fuck off? No that ain't kind. :)

[anastasiasgun]

The point was to show the truth about society's views on hookup culture between men and women.

[Mysterioustruth]

@Imhotep99 The truth is women and men aren't the same

[Imhotep99]

@Mysterioustruth Yeah they aren't.

[ADFSDF1996]

I think you forgot how "virgin" men are always shamed. A man who can't get a sex or a significant other gets shamed by many people.

[Kirah]

The thing is, it's easier for women to have sex. It's pretty difficult for men. For men, it's an "accomplishment". For us, it's just a matter of letting it happen.

Not saying that this double standard is a good thing, I'm just explaining where it comes from. This double standard isn't going away any time soon.

[0112358]

Men are judged for virility, women for being non-promiscuous. That's loosened up somewhat, but hasn't entirely changed.

Women are also judged more harshly on appearance and being 'sweet' disposition wise.

Men are judged on income and physical courage far more harshly than women.

[Llmllm]

Sexual double standard makes perfect sense to me

[Mysterioustruth]

Right! The truth is women and men aren't the same

[Llmllm]

@Mysterioustruth smth sluts should learn

[brain5000]

Right on. The only thing I might take issue with is that I suspect women are shaming each other more than men are shaming them. I might be wrong about this. How could it be measured? But I suspect everyone shames the sexy woman, and glorifies the sexy man, as you wrote.

By the way - I have no problem with women who have been with other men in the past, as long as that is in the past.

[Mysterioustruth]

You're not using your logic. Being logical is much more important than being polically correct. However the importance of the two have recently flipped. The truth is men are very different from women. Biologically Speaking, the role of a man is to procreate and spread his genes as much as possible where as the role of a woman is to be selective. That's the reality. So when a person negates all of those things, that person is either illogical of not very intelligent.

[brain5000]

That's not biological. Biologically speaking, the role of a man is to inject sperm into the uterus by way of his penis. You're talking about cultural stuff, which is learned, evolves and is chosen.

[Mysterioustruth]

I'm talking culture which have derived from biology. My way of putting it still can be considered biological since it's link to biology but the biological roots of the matter is that Men have millions of sperm and remain fertile for a lifetime which equates to be more reckless where as women have very little eggs compared to men.

[Bandit74]

Well its not exactly true that women get no benefit. Generally speaking women can more easily hookup with men who are more attractive than they are. So even if you're only an average looking girl you can find conventionally hot men with fit bodies who would be willing to hookup with you. The downside is that those guys usually have lots of other girls willing to hookup with them so they are unlikely to forsake all their other options to be exclusive with you. But still you get the thrill of being able to sexually experiment with people who are better looking than you are.

I also disagree with the notion that all men judge women for sleeping around while promiscuous men are given a free pass. Yes, on average men are more judgmental of women's sexual behavior than women are of men's. However its not as black and white as you describe it. There are a sizable number of men who genuinely don't care about their partner's sexual history just as there are women who DO care and want someone modest.

I would say that women probably have more incentive to overlook a promiscuous guys past due to the fact that if a guy is able to consistently convince girls to give him commitment free sex then he's probably got a lot gling for him. So in exchange for overlooking his past you get a guy who is above average in terms of looks, charm, and social status.

The same can't be said of promiscuous women. There aren't many fat or mediocre looking manhires, but there are plenty of fat mediocre looking sluts. To convince men to agree to commitment free sex you don't have to be anything special. Most promiscuous women are just average to maybe slightly above average looking with nothing special personalites. So there really isn't anything that makes it tempting for a man to overlook a girls slutty past. Unless he got one of the few sluts who are really attractive, but usually they will end up with a hot manhore.

So average guys are stuck with the average looking sluts that none of the hot manwhores wanted.

[TaylorSpliff]

1 How do people know you're sleeping around?
2 If the guys you sleep with are calling you a slut, you are sleeping with the wrong men.

[Mysterioustruth]

The truth is women and men aren't the same

[spoonman2014]

As a guy who has been around, it gets lonely, Promiscuous behavior gets looked down upon in both genders and most cultures. I have had people ask me with tears streaming down their face for me to take a knee in talking to some girl because they or someone else liked them.
I have been told i'm handsome, i've been compared to a buff version of Jordan peele and the crazy thing about talking to women is that they put up the wall, because a woman's fear is that they may end up being the next fly on the windshield or part of a good looking guys elaborate web of side girls. They almost create so test for you to pass.
And then when I am dating someone the wall comes down, then their feelings come out about how they really felt. And then I get all these messages and text at 2am and I shut them down. With the last girl I was with I kept most of that from her because women are not competitive creatures, and it would have caused too much drama if I told her and that is another reason you see good looking guys with a lot of different girls.
Then when your friends try to set you up you realize they are working against you, they will either do something like find the worst person ever and hope your desperation will cause you to cave or put you in situations you can't win or make it awkward. While they keep reminding you that you are supposedly an amazing person but they get off leading you astray.
Girls want the upper hand and when they see everyone compliments their man and not them they don't him around anymore.
So I hope that didn't sound like a total bitch and moan fest, it's just being a good looking guy trying to get girls is like going to the championship and never winning. Yes you're a boss, yes you get wins but everyone hates you

[DarklordOdin]

"A door opened by many keys is quite useless, but a key which opens many doors is legendary."
I don't know why that's how it is, but it is.

[anastasiasgun]

So you are saying that a woman wants a door that will open for anyone as well?

[DarklordOdin]

Incorrect. What I am saying is that people view a woman who habitually has sex as a slut and easy, but they view a man with the same trait as a go-getter to be celebrated. Humans these days, amiright?

[genuineguy]

Don't genuinely good guys who are confident tho get taken for granted?

SO in a social circle, often you'll have 3 guys.
Guy 1 - friend who is nice and has a girlfriend.
Guy 2 - guy who is genuinely great, confident, polite, funny, attractive, u like him a lot. You may or may not have met him when you already had a boyfriend, but you're single now.
Guy 3 - brash, not very smooth, obviously hits on all girls with no specific complimenting for any of them. A player who shows off on fb.

Now the girl may very well, act normal/text like a friend guy 1. Give mixed messages to guy 2. And again, no mind games with guy 3. Or else, pose close to guy 2 in a picture, but join in with other girls to pose more slutty/looser around guy 3. Oh and this despite, admiring and getting deep with guy 2.

Explain that?