Now this is going to be a short mytake but I would like to address the double standards when it comes to casual sex, hooking up, one night stands, etc.
Now I do not know how it is for gay men relationships but I will do my best to address both.
However for this part I would like to address the only type of relationships that I am familiar with, heterosexual relationships. So without further ado, here we go.
Women
If a women has casual sex, it has no benefit to her whatsoever other than lack of self esteem and a possible baby out of wedlock. If a woman who has had casual sex gets married or in a relationship and the guy knows she had it, it will bother him even if he is a guy who has hooked up a lot as well. No matter how many times she may have proven she is not the same person, she will be constantly reminded of her past no matter what. Especially if the guy has an excuse to bring it up. She may always be seen as a ho, slut, pick a name, etc.
Men
A men can sleep with a lot of women and still be seen as a gentleman no matter what if he decides to settle down with one woman. It's almost as if his past has disappeared, see the difference? A man will not be constantly reminded of his past by his girlfriend/wife. Even if a girl he has hooked up with who he remembers in the past, it still will not be looked down upon because in society men are expected to "just be boys" and release their primal urges.
Of course even lots of hookups in sex are looked down upon in the gay male community. A man will be seen as having issues if he gets around a lot, and similar to women (not just like women) men will look past them for relationship potential.
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