5 Signs 'Friends With Benefits' Is Meant For You

[burlen]

If Commitment Is Not Your Thing

Friends with benefits can be excellent if committing to a relationship is not your kind of thing. While the virtues of commitment are indisputable, being with a partner for a long time can be dull, monotonous, and unadventurous to some. Besides, friends with benefits is void of the usual expectations and standards of traditional, vanilla-like relationships.

If Someone Is Not Dating Material

We've been approached by nice people but we just don't see them as boyfriend or girlfriend material, but on another look are sexually attractive. Friends with benefits allows both parties to explore and experience the fun side of sex. After all, for some people, good sex is the reason they get into and stay longer in relationships.

If You Want Sextimacy

Do you really want to be jerking off to porn, or vibrating your clit with a vibrator every now and then, from January to December? Or do you want person-to-person sextimacy even if it's just for under an hour now and again?

Some people would prefer friends with benefits over jerking off to porn and masturbating with sex toys. The process of leaving your home to meet your friends with benefits, or preparing to receive your friends with benefits is something masturbation can never replicate. Friends with benefits is social, interactive, and physical. It may not be the best of life but at least it is a slice of life compared to fucking yourself with sex toys or your hands.

If You Want To Test The Water

For some people, delving into a full-blown relationship is intimidating and uncertain. You're not sure if that person is emotionally and sexually compatible to you. You don't want to wreck someone's heart by breaking up with them because they are socially, emotionally, or sexually incompatible.

A peer-review article observes we base our decision whether to date someone only on 5% of information about them. Meaning up to 95% of the information we need to make dating decisions are known to us only after the dating has begun. Arguably, friends with benefits allows the individual to test the waters—to find out if that person is your match with little or no hiccups.

If You Want To Stay in The Game

Let's be honest; being out of a relationship or having a sexless life for two or more years can be frustrating, and can take a toll on one's esteem and confidence. Friends with benefits is a means for you to stay in the game while looking for that special someone.

Some of us can never come to terms with paying for sex or pretending to love an SO as a means to sex. With friends with benefits, the rules of the game is known to both parties. There is no but or if, just plain friendship punctuated by sex on consensual agreement.

Friends with benefits is not for everyone. Even serial, experienced friends with benefits can get burnt or crashed by an unexpected loving feelings and expectations towards their "SO". It's common fact when an individual is repeatedly exposed to someone who is generally nice to them, it lays the foundation for amorous feelings to creep in. In 2014, I dated a girl whom I initially considered as non-girlfriend material. After four months of no strings-attached fucking, we dated for two years.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have never had a friends with benefits relationship but I have heard from many people who have and this perspective is based on that limited information. The problem with friends with benefits is that, too often, someone who wants a commitment but is afraid, will get into a friends with benefits with the hope of "easing into" a relationship. Or they will really want a relationship with this particular partner but the partner says they only want a friends with benefits, so the person proceeds with the hope that the partner will change their decision once the friends with benefits gets established. This leads to many broken hearts.

I know, the defense is that "you knew the ground rules before it started," and that is true. However, people chasing after love will ignore such warnings and take unreasonable chances and the result is very foreseeable.

I am sure that some friends with benefits relationships are successful at giving each partner NSA sex and I don't judge people for entering into these relationships, but it is not for many people. And, frankly, if a girl can treat sex as something that is just for fun and doesn't have any emotional meaning. . . she's probably not a good match for me. I don't need a woman who knows how to fuck very well; I want a woman who knows how to make love.

[Lee_Lee_89]

I think it completely depends on the person. Sometimes it's nice to have company without any obligations. As long as you're not phony about it, I don't think there's anything wrong it. (It's when one person leads the other one on that it becomes a problem and feelings can get hurt.)

[LittleSally]

Hahaha I dropped out of the race during the reading of the first title... Obviously, not for me.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Not the guy in the first picture, he looks so gaaaaay.

[SuperGlitterGirl]

LOL, if he's not ready to put a ring on it he is a loser.

[deepguy]

Great take, but how do you do this with a sweet girl you met when she wasn't single. Now she is. And you find it hard to date given you're busy atm.

I wrote a question or have questions on this lol?

[John_Doesnt]

That movie was disappointing and unsexy. "Friends with Benefits" more like "Let's Talk About our Feelings and Have a Cheap Laugh".
Good mytake though.

[deepguy]

Lol on the movie

[SuccessfulHornDog]

friends with benefits seems as complicated as a relationship

[Joshfresno]

I believe jt

[Anonymous]

It works for me and a lot of other people.

[Anonymous]

it is not for me

[Anonymous]

This is actually known to be unhealthy thinking and creates weakened relationships in the future. It completely destroys your odds of success elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Id love friends with benefits. Id like a relationship too. Im not very picky. However, I can't have anything. So masturbation and porn are all I have

[Anonymous]

I see the merits for some people but not me... I rather be in a relationship or masturbate... friends with benifets is not for me.

[Anonymous]

I dont know but I think Friends with benefits are just a sex relationship with the other person, there is no friendship there at all, it is just pure sex period.

[pooper89]

Agreed. When you add friendship is when it becomes a relationship

[choomandoo]

can you really just declare that all situations are just as you say. I would agree some are without friendship but many or most NSA relationships start from friendship. Even if you are right, so? If you don't like it don't do it. Its not your place to condemn or condone.

[MrNameless]

no you can hang out on and have sex and still not be committed and/or having feelings for each other

[Opinion Owner]

@MrNameless but if u have sex with your friend in a way there is a relationship cause you have a relationship with your friend for many years