A friend has a juicy bit of gossip for you. You know Janey, that girl you both saw last week? She's had a threesome with Brad and Frank. Oooh, you think. Janey is a slut, and into 3 somes? Noice.
But is it?
We're all familiar with the double standard for sexual proclivity between men and women. If a girl likes sex and enjoys it, she's called a slut. If a guy does it, he's a stud. But the truth is, most women *do* enjoy sex. So why do people insist on calling a woman who enjoys sex *and* *gets* *what* *she* *wants*, a slut? There's something primitive about trying to morally chastise the female gender for enjoying sex. But it's still a very popular passtime.
So what? you might think. I'm not a slut, so it doesn't affect me.
Well, that attitude might come back to bite you on the ass. Whether you know it or not, or accept it or not, the age of privacy as we've known it is coming to an end. Anonymity is coming to an end. And it won't just be in the Soviet style of cameras and listening devices in our homes. Hell, we already have those. Whether it's your XBox or Alexa, or the microphone on your cellphone, we're already being listened to all the time. And your web cam's and cell phones possibly outnumber the CCTV's in your neighborhood. But not by much. And now it's legal for internet companies to sell your search data for money.
How long is it going to be, before your shameful google searches, looking for that porn to scratch that itch you don't like to talk about, winds up on a desk somewhere in a folder? Sure, that kink you have may not be illegal. It may even be relatively common. But is it something you'd want your neighbor to know about you? Or your childrens teachers at the PTA meeting?
Along with recognising that our expectations of privacy are out of date, we're going to have to realise that shaming others for their kinks or how they choose to enjoy sex, is also out of date.
And unlike the slut-shaming, men don't get a free pass on this one.
Sexologists like Kinsey have known for years that we are all more perverted than we like to think. The idea that society is "normal" and we are somehow exceptionally kinky, is a myth. Take any 10 users on GAG and you'll probably find 10 kinky fetishes that run the gamut of "normal" to "weird". But the guy who likes cheerleading lesbians is no different from the guy who likes being peed on, or the kid who watches Japanese videos where men in white suits pretend to be invisible and women pretend not to see him.
The day is coming when all that invasion of privacy is going to be used. Against us. The people. And the only way that particular armament can be defused, is if we all as a people, realise that we're all kinky fuckers and there's nothing shameful in that.
Of course, that day is not today. So right now, my depravity is going to stay between me, my pet goat, my ISP, Google, and my neighbor whose fetish is apparently staring at me creepily through his bedroom window.... Not that I judge him or anything. The pervert!