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Why Smart Guys Are 100% Opposed to MFM Threesomes

So. I'm not a fan of any sort of threesome, but it seems on here, many girls, to my amazement, can't understand what many men find oh so repulsive about male/female/male threesomes, even guys who think a female/male/female threesome is great. Hypocrisy? Immaturity? Nope.

Why Smart Guys Are 100% Opposed to MFM Threesomes

Simply put, it boils down to basic biology. Or male nature. Or media and patriarchy, depending on how much of a crybaby you are.

Sex is different for the different sexes.

Why Smart Guys Are 100% Opposed to MFM Threesomes

Simply put, women are the feminine sex. They receive. They get pregnant. They are dominated, held, etc. Part of why for the most case, sex is far more a bonding experience for women than it is for men--the psychology of it all, of how sex is somewhat an act of surrender, submission, for women.

How does this relate to threesomes? Simply. What sane man wants to let his woman be dominated, possessed, by another man? That's why most men feel thusly about a mfm threeway.

Why Smart Guys Are 100% Opposed to MFM Threesomes
That's not to say women should be fine with a fmf threesome either. I mean, you'd be letting your guy have at it with another woman. Tons of problems can result for you from that. However, it is different in that sex isn't as much of a bonding experience for him as it is for a woman. He's not being dominated or possessed by another woman--he's doing the dominating and possessing. Which also can lead to a bunch of problems if you're the girlfriend and he wants a threesome. So be smart and say no.

However, there you go. Besides the fact it disturbingly gay to have another naked man in the room with you if you're a guy, but that's the deepest, most innate reason why no smart guy would agree to a mfm threesome. If a man puts any value in a woman and/or has feelings/possessiveness, he's not going to just let her be literally taken and possessed by another man. He'd have given her away, basically.

Again, I'm kind of amazed I've seen women wonder about this more than once on this website, but there you go. Ladies, if your man is in fact a man and values you more than a decent shirt, he's not agreeing to a mfm threesome. Ever.

Why Smart Guys Are 100% Opposed to MFM Threesomes
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Most Helpful Guy

  • Also aside from the potential biological adversion to raising another man's there is also emotional damage that seems to happen as a result. It seems like whenever I see a post about a guy who had a MFM threesome with his girlfriend, she always ended up choosing a guy who is better looking and more well endowed than her partner is which obviously creates problems in the relationship going forward.

    • another man's child*

Most Helpful Girl

  • Setting aside the basic fact that threesomes are not for everyone...

    straight men are wildly homophobic and insecure.

    https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/phobia

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    • Actually a phobia is an irrational fear or dislike. Rationally disliking something is not a phobia.

    • I agree 100%. Thanks for helping drive my point home. :)

    • Two questions: 1.) How is a guy being uncomfortable with sexual activity with another man a bad thing? 2.) How is a guy being uncomfortable with his girl engaging in sexual activity with another man a bad thing?

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  • Wow. This poster really hit a raw nerve with a lot of people.

    Me, I think threesomes are hot! Especially if I'm asked to partake in one in order to fulfill a fantasy of hers. My first question will always be, "Excellent! What's your fantasy? Tell me all the details? I want to do it!!!"

    I'm not gay, but if one of her fantasies is to see two guys "together" then I would do it. Why? Because it's her fantasy. She'll get really turned on by it.

  • This guy should not be allowed to be an "editor" !

    It's fine to have your own opinion on any kind of threesomes, but to say that a guy is stupid if that's something he's into is wrong.

    The only time it is wrong for anyone to have any kind of sex with any number of people is when any one person does not consent.

    It is perfectly ok to want to have a threesome, just as it is perfectly ok to not want a threesome.

    If you're with someone and you both want a threesome the smart thing to do would be to communicate about things like limits, desires, concerns, protection etc...
    If you're with someone who wants a threesome and you don't, the "smart" thing to do would be communicating with them about why you aren't interested, finding out why they are, and seeing you can find a way of meeting in the middle that will make you both happy.

    And if neither of you are into threesomes than why even talk about it?

    I'm guessing someone was asked if he would be interested in an mfm threesome and instead of being a thoughtful, intellectual human being, he decided to take the selfish, narrow-minded and insecure route.
    And then write about it online either for validation or to shame the person who brought it up with him, or most likely, for both of those reasons.

    • You lied about the age when you signed up, didn't you?

    • Maybe you can go write a take on how you think threesomes are great. We'll see if it ends up on the featured page haha

    • I actually totally agree with everything he said if you're pathetic enough to watch you women get railed by another man then you deserve no right to repopulate and raise other beta fucks like yourselves Same goes for men who put up with bisexual partners or enjoy watching their women fucking other women.

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  • Which is fucking unfortunate because it's still a fantasy of mine.

    • Well, get on craigslist next time you're single. Or date a guy who doesn't give a damn about you lmao

    • So you'd be comfortable with FMF first with your partner?

    • IKR?

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  • I don't know I think deeper then homophobic feel what if straight guy gets anus of woman... and he never done that part, what is she not clean that throws money wrench into sex, she poops on his penis.<- reason #1 for straight me being insecure, If Threesome means, no anus and blow-job, hand-job and missionary, or cowgirl its very possible that straight guy would join the party.

    • I can't stand when women try and do the "if he fucks me in the ass then he must have some homo thing in him". That makes no sense. it is natural for a straight guy to want to fuck a woman anywhere he can. Esp in the ass because it is a domination thing. Your comparing apples to oranges. The ass belongs to a woman,.

    • LOL this is a funny reply

    • @frozenhorizon Erm i'm sorry but I'm straight and I would join a MFM with or without anal sex.

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  • i've done an fmf threesome, though mmf was always something i was curious about. i don't like anal, but (insert terrible pun here) there are tons of other things you can do.

    as shoe0nhead (one of my favourite youtubers) would say: "oh look, here's two of a thing i like!"

    that said, i'd never dream of sharing someone i was actually in love with.

  • If you don't want a MFM threesome, that's 100% fine, your call. But why not mind your own business and refrain from making judgments when it comes to what others do in the bedroom? Sexuality is not nearly as simple as you're trying to make it out to be, everyone has different things that turn them on and off. Some are downright weird, but as long as everyone involved are consenting adults, it's nobody else's business. The world has enough real problems, what other people do in the bedroom will never concern me.

    • Then go concern yourself with real problems and don't worry about articles like this one. See how easy that was?

    • I'm not worried about this article, it's obviously your opinion which you're entitled to, just find it a bit odd that it bothers you so much what other people choose to do in the bedroom.

  • I only see MFM threesomes in porno. The only time that may happen in real life is when two good buddies share a girl they just met. And they would probably have to be drunk when they do it. It's not something that comes natural for two guys. So I don't agree that only 'smart' guys avoid these situations. Just about all guys do.

  • Homophobia?
    Fear of getting 'touched' by the other M?
    Fear of actually liking it and then wondering if you're bisexual or gay even?
    Fear of her concluding you're the weaker link in the chain?

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    • Looks like someone's still upset her ex boyfriend never let her have a threesome.

    • 1, 2 and 3 are ridiculous.. .. and 4 is actually an entirely rational concern that you really have no business acting like it's no big deal.

    • @rationalmale why are you getting emotional at her response?

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  • As a man I find all this post pretty dumb. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't do a MFM. But that has nothing to do with being smart. And of course has nothing to do with biology. Quite the opposite.
    This looks more like something you needed to write in order to boost your confidence in a department you have some trust issues.
    Well, don't try to write about something you don't have the faintest idea.

    • it has everything to do with being smart and everything to do with biology. like he said, not everyone is smart enough to understand it.

    • @lord_chilled You know someone has no solid argument when he blackmails you like that :)

    • yeah i think he had a few arguments on here and he said his points. and i think he explained it in the take in the first place.

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  • Thanks for this point. Very useful for me.

  • Well said, only there's this spanner in the works, the other guy doesn't have to be naked, someone will surely ring in on, in fact i could, but there's far more truth in what you wrote, than a mere potential exception to the rule, I agree with the rule, that 1 time my dick had control though?

  • I'm not a fan of threesomes of any type either, but I do think there's a double standard. If you expect a girl to be comfortable bringing another girl into the bedroom, you should be willing to bring another boy into the bedroom as well. If not, you probably shouldn't be having a threesome in the first place.

    • 1. I don't do threesomes. 2. No, it's not a double standard. Things are different for the two sexes.

    • Things are not all that different, and the idea that women are just "receivers" of sex is antiquated at best. Women can be just as dominant in the bedroom as men. Men can be just as submissive in the bedroom as women.

    • Sex is inherently submissive for women. They're taking a someone else's bodypart inside themselves.

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  • If a man and woman want to invite another guy or more into the bedroom... its none of our business to judge.

    Women are sexual too. Women like to be centre of attention. Women think of men the way they think of them.

    • But it's also not our place to shame the men who don't want to do it.

    • Since when does 'none of our business' ever stop anyone? 😂

    • You didn't understand the take. We are all judgmental. And for good reason. If we just let anybofy do anything, society would collapse and wed have anarchy. Its none of my business that a man would share his wife, but hed forever lose my respect. Other men won't see him as a real man anymore

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  • I find idea of threesome itself but repulsive.
    I am a possessive person so obviously I can't stand my guy doing it with other girl. I don't want to have sex with anyone else except the guy I'm with either. I just don't like the idea.

  • I hate when guys say a bunch of stupid shit about human behavior and try to pass it off as "biology".

    • Actually the article says, "Simply put, it boils down to basic biology. Or male nature. Or media and patriarchy, depending on how much of a crybaby you are."

    • Yeah and despite your name being RationalMale you provide absolutely no evidence for your claims. Wahoo :D

    • @frozenhorizon i learned long ago how pointless it is to cite everything. Then some bitch will be like 'but is it peer reviewed from a person i respect whom i have examined their finaces to assure they are only funded by sources i respect?'

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  • BRILLIANT

  • It's a great fantasy, and it's good for porn... but never have any kind of threesome with a partner that you want to keep.

  • Spot on.

  • I do n ot want to be around some naked guy having sex with my girl. I espically don't want to be around a naked guy and touching one another whether on purpose or accidental. And I espically don't want to be sticking my cock into his sloppy seconds. That is fucking gross.

  • I have had MANY three ways, and been to a few orgies. And I tell you that BY FAR the most fun are actually MFM it becomes a thing of how many holes of hers you can fill. Just because you are so insecure about your own sexuality doesn't mean that being in a room with another nude guy makes you gay (what you don't shower at the gym?).

    Now I do agree that multiple sex does harm relationships in fact I don't think that I have seen a relationship survive one.

    • So in your experience open relationships never work out? A lot of stuff about non-monogamy going about.

    • @Oram52 I have yet to see it. I hear about it all the time, but people catch feelings, and things go to hell. Or so and so, wants him/her all to themselves or... to much drama and too much to go wrong.

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