I come from a collectivistic culture and people are also very conservative here. It's India. The country with the most rapes, or otherwise now fondly called as 'Rape culture.'
I was dating a guy, one day he comes up to me to say that I should stop wearing shorts or anything semi- transparent. That was the day we started fighting.
I don't understand why men or anyone would advise a woman about what to wear but not walk up and tell a guy that he needs to behave. Is our society that ill-minded? If a woman gives up her choice and covers up, why can't a man cover his eyes and mouth?
When you go to a beach and you wear beach shorts and some men take pictures of you, I definitely got furious but I was scared to go to the police because I didn't know if they will harass me too. And to make it all more hard for me, the families sitting around did not give a shit about it and some were laughing at my uncovered legs.
Priyanka Chopra wearing a dress in front of the Prime minister became hot news over the whole country and people couldn't bare that shit. But please, people need to be sensible about the issues bothering our country.
When people have all the guts to tell a woman what to wear, how to talk, and all that why not walk up to fellow men and tell them to behave?
Stop stigmatizing children from birth. A girl needs to be gifted everything in pink and a boy in blue and girls with Barbies and guys with guns and cars. Seriously people? I was gifted guns and cars and I was gifted barbies too. I still remember I used to break the barbies hands and legs and throw it off. I loved the guns more. What's wrong? People tag me to be a tomboy now. Sorry! I was just brought up to be bold and embrace equality.
So when I talk about equality, to all the women around there who still think a guy should pay the bills and open the doors or he should propose to her please go back to BC. Grow up. When we talk about equality, it's in everything. Be bold to pay your own bills and buy a diamond. Be proud.
And the conservatism in my country, I don't really know if it does any good to anyone but I am definitely sure it does bad. We are being watched even when we talk to someone from the opposite culture. So the ideas of what is the opposite gender like is always in mind. So comes the rape culture. "We wanted to teach the girl a lesson as she was roaming at night" with a guy said an asshole, a rapist who inserted a rod in her vagina and was gang raped. This happened four years back and hence been something which was looked up by some rapists who followed doing the same to women.
I wish the youngsters had all the brains to stop bothering about why Priyanka Chopra wore a dress infront of the Prime minister rather try to behave!
Sincerely, a boiled up Indian woman who is scared of being raped when I go out or even when I am in my home locked up.
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