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8 Common Sex Myths - Debunked

8 Common Sex Myths - Debunked

Real Talk

I have had my fair share of sexual partners, and I’ve also had many conversations with men and women about their experiences in the bedroom. For the life of me, I can’t figure out when people became so ignorant towards sex. Where did all of these crazy claims come from, and why in the world are people believing them?

8 Common Sex Myths – Dubunked

Last week, I was hanging out with my younger cousin, and she told me that she is only having anal sex before marriage because she wants to stay a virgin. That was the last straw for me! “How could she be so naïve?” I thought to myself. I thought about her comment for a while, and then I decided to take it upon myself to educate the world about sex and debunk these common myths.

1) Penis Size Matters

Seriously, guys. Enough already. I am so tired of hearing every guy I meet talk about the size of his manhood. I know, I know, you all think bigger is better, but when it comes to sexual pleasure, size is really not that big of a deal!

Think of it this way: there are only about 3-inches of nerve endings inside the vagina, so as long as your penis is measuring 3-inches, you’re in the clear. The rest of the vaginal canal is like dead space – there’s no feeling whatsoever.

If you’re really that worried about the size of your business, try different positions that allow for deeper penetration. Remember guys: it’s not the size of your penis that makes her crave you, it’s what you do with it.

2) More Cum = Stronger Orgasm

Nope. Not even a little true.

The amount of ejaculate released during intercourse has nothing to do with how pleasurable the sex was. Lots of things are dependent upon the amount of semen a guy releases, including alcohol consumption, diet, lifestyle, and time between orgasms.

3) Sex is a Great Workout

Meh, not really. On average, sex only burns about 20 calories. A trip to the gym is WAY more beneficial if you’re looking to drop a few pounds, but a roll in the sack is just so much more fun.

Even though sex may not be the best for burning calories, it has many other undeniable health benefits, and can even prevent heart disease and extend life-spans!

Best bet: if you skipped the gym today, you should probably sex it up tonight. You know, just to be safe.

4) Sex Always Hurts the Girl the First Time

In many cases, having sex for the first time can be a bit uncomfortable. But that’s not always the case. In fact, there are many factors that contribute to sexual pain, including:

  • Relaxation: If the girl isn’t relaxed enough, or is feeling pressured or rushed by her partner, she may experience some discomfort during sex.
  • Dryness: Lube is everyone’s best friend. Dryness occurs for lots of reasons – but usually, it has something to do with a lack of arousal or the specific stage of her menstrual cycle.
  • Experience: Or, the lack thereof. When a girl is having sex for the first time with an inexperienced partner, things can get pretty uncomfortable. With sex, practice makes perfect and it only gets better with time. It’s all about finding the rhythm that works for you.

5) Guys Who Like Anal Sex Are Secretly Gay

Surely you’ve heard tons of guys refer to themselves as “ass men,” right? I know I have. Guys who like anal sex are definitely not secretly gay, they just enjoy their girl’s booty and like exploring their sexual desires.

Anal sex is all about preferences – for a guy who is all about that bass, anal sex is a dream come true. For a girl who is quite proud of her curves, having a guy worship her backside could be quite the turn on. It’s a win-win situation, and nobody is secretly gay because of it!

Plus, anal sex is taboo and kinky. Some people are really into the idea of exploring certain topics in the bedroom that are viewed as “off limits” by others. Why? Because it’s hot. It’s naughty. It’s sexy.

6) "Double Bagging" Is Better for Preventing Pregnancy

While no form of contraception is 100% effective against pregnancy (only abstinence is), wearing two condoms (AKA, Double Bagging) does exactly the opposite of what you were hoping for.

I’m all about safety, and I can really appreciate a guy who is too, but this is just obnoxious. Not only does Double Bagging greatly reduce the guy’s pleasure during sex, but the friction of the condoms rubbing against each other causes them to break.

Stick with one condom, and you’re golden. If you’re really worried, opt for a few drops of spermicidal lubricant. You’re talking box-of-fort-knox style protection at a price you can afford.

7) Big Feet = Big…

Ladies, I know you’ve been eyeing that hottie with the size 14 shoe, secretly wondering what he’s hiding under those jeans. I hate to burst your bubble, but… There is absolutely NO correlation between a man’s foot size and the size of his penis.

The same concept applies to fingers, feet, arms, legs, etc. There is no way to tell a man’s penis size without taking a peek for yourself. So, go ahead. Peek away.

8) Faking the Big "O" is a Girl Thing

True, lots of women fake orgasms. But, lots of guys fake orgasms too. Why? Well, that’s anyone’s guess, but some of the main reasons include:

  • To get it over with – Guys get tired too.
  • To please his partner – If she isn’t feeling it, it’s pretty cruel to keep on keepin’ on.
  • To hold onto his pride – Common practice for guys with erectile dysfunction.

Guys are also pretty good at faking it too! It’s pretty easy to fake the noises and the notorious “O” face, and guys have mastered the art. There’s no harm in faking it every now and then, but if it becomes a habit, this is something that should be shared with your partner.

Other Sex Myths?

There are more myths about sex than I can count, but I just wanted to share a few of the most common ones I often hear on GAG, and also from friends. What are some of the most common sex myths your friends believe? Did you believe any myths about sex only to later learn the truth? Tell me in the comments!

8 Common Sex Myths - Debunked
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Most Helpful Guy

  • You contradicted yourself with #1 and #7, you say penis size doesn't matter then you say that girls have been eyeing a guy with big feet imagining how big he is.

    • #1 stated penis size does not matter; #7 stated that there is no correlation between foot size and penis size. There is NO contradiction there.

    • Re - read #7, she clearly talked about girls checking out guys feet and imagining how big he was.

    • Exactly... Why would she care about his shoe size meaning a bigger penis in the first place if penis size didn't matter? It's very contradictory.

Most Helpful Girl

  • ummm.. penis size does matter.

    • As you said girth matters but the length matters only in the same way breast size matters for men (as a turn on/off). But the OP is right about penis length doesn't contribute as far as sensations goes, only girth does and extremely long penises of 20+cm might hit the back and contribute a well.

    • @molan penis size isn't only about the length but girth too, is it? and even if there is only 3 inches of nerve endings starting from the entrance, I prefer a longer penis that can stimulate every nerve the whole time (if he does not go all out when thrusting) than a 3 inch penis that can only stimulate all nerves the seconds when it's all in. penis only doesn't matter after a certain length and girth.

    • oh and too big can hurt too.. so it does matter.

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  • Penis size does matter to a lot of women, especially girth. Even your own #7 proves that. If size didn't matter to any woman, why would they even care about the correlation between shoe size?

    • As you said girth matters but the length matters only in the same way breast size matters for men (as a turn on/off). But the OP is right about penis length doesn't contribute as far as sensations goes, only girth does and extremely long penises of 20+cm might hit the back and contribute a well.

    • I said penis size, as the original poster said which doesn't just mean length or we would have said length. Size includes girth.

  • I agree with all of these except for you stating penis size doesn't matter. To some it does. We can't act like preferences don't exist.
    I've met some girls that only care about motion in the ocean.
    Then others who want a preferably large penis because they don't feel anything if the guy is under a certain size.
    The reality of it is, a guy won't know a girls preference unless she states it or until it's time to do the deed.

  • I'm glad I haven't got to the ripe old age of 35 without knowing all these were myths already, but my relatively short time on GAG has shown me that there are at least a few of these that desparately need a debunk, so definitely a great take.

    To be honest there's a few myths that repeatedly come up on here that I would've thought they were so stupid they wouldn't need debunking before I went on GAG, like 'If a woman has lots of sex, or sex with a man with a big penis, it will leave her vagina all stretched out and loose'. I mean, wtf?

    At the risk of weighing in on the predictable ensuing 'penis size' debate #1 and #7 are not contradictory. #1 is saying penis size doesn't make a significant difference to how good the sex is. However #7 merely implies that some women might have a preference for a more well endowed man, it doesn't imply why. Recent studies indicated a lot of women find a well endowed man more visually appealing, which has nothing to do with how good the sex is, just like a lot of guys have a preference for girls with big boobs or big bums, and that won't affect how good the sex is either.

  • Is this "size matters" argument what I can expect every time I get in bed? If so you guys ruined sex for me 😒 Personally I'm afraid of guys with an above average sized penis. 😐 It makes me wonder how it's all gonna fit into such a small place

  • 2) More Cum = Stronger Orgasm
    Nope. Not even a little true.
    The amount of ejaculate released during intercourse has nothing to do with how pleasurable the sex was. Lots of things are dependent upon the amount of semen a guy releases, including alcohol consumption, diet, lifestyle, and time between orgasms.

    ow would you know this? for guys at least, more cum DOES mean a better orgasm. The more cum, the longer the orgasm lasts. If I have been having loads of sex or masturbating loads, the orgasm is shorter and less pleasurable.

    However, if i've not cum for a few days, it feels amazing because I have a massive load.

    • agree with that but I wasn't sure if it was true for others lol

  • I can't believe that people believe in any of these myths, but I am sure they do. Penis size conversations, of course, will continue forever and most are stupid. This is one of the biggest myths still out there. Some us still need to learn that it is not the size of the tool that counts, but how you use it.

  • Saying that penis size doesn't matter is like saying that boob size doesn't matter, or height, or color of hair as long as it work for what it is physically intended for. Size is a preference beyond just a basic functionality. Some girls like the idea of a big penis, and some don't. Some like to perform oral especially on a big penis and some don't.

    Size definitely matters but that is not saying that bigger is always is better. It depends on preference just like everything else. Some like big boobs, some like small. Same with a penis.

    • I think she's referencing that to mean that a man doesn't have to have a large penis to please a woman. Regardless of preference, that wasn't the main focal point. I agree with you though.

    • I'm also saying that "bigger isn't always better". But saying it doesn't matter is false because it does, since we all have different preferences. That's like saying that it doesn't matter how the female body is shaped. It will still be able to be sexually pleasing, sure. But for many sex is also about aesthetics and not just about "getting the job done". Even if the sex mechanically will be sufficient and give and orgasm doesn't mean that it's fulfilling in all other mental and emotional aspects.

  • This was fun to read and it is so very accurate, but I'd bet the farm that the same stupid questions will continue to be asked.

    Great Job Taking The Time To Print This!

    • Thanks, you're really cute Katie :)

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  • Only point I'll comment one is #1. Yes, it does matter. To summarize:
    "Babe I love you, your dick does the job, you're great in bed. I just prefer my ex's bigger dick, as it feels better."
    That's literally where a lot of that insecurity comes from; that thought only, after something is said or done. I can't blame guys for that; to feel settled for & inadequate like that has got to be horrible.

    The rest are fairly spot on, in my opinion.

    • Interesting how women downvoted this...

    • Maybe they're the girls that aren't after "monster cocks"... 😐 I don't know

  • Sorry but I call bullshit on the size issue. You cannot say it doesn't matter because based on a TON of posts on this site it very much does matter to a LOT of women. The best you can try and say it doesn't matter to most but I am not sure even that is true.
    Also you constantly hear women say they faked O's. Which is really a bad thing. it is better for the guy to know if it didn't happen so he can change things up to get it done. Why women think it will make the guy feel better I don't know. Because at some point the truth will come out. It is true guys fake it, I have faked it maybe 5 or 6 times in my life (where some women will do that in a month). It was because I was on a medication for my bad back which made it really hard to cum. yet my ex took it as it was her even though she knew it was the medication. It was easier to fake it then deal with the "hurt" feelings from things not working out.

  • I disagree with #1, the rest of the vaginal canal isn't just dead space, the nerve endings just aren't as concentrated deeper into the vagina. There are stretch receptors deep inside though, that feel good when stimulated. They produce a very satisfying stretched sensation. Deep penetration is one of the best feelings during sex, and that can only really be achieved with an average size/slightly above average penis. Too big or too small can be problematic.

  • Debunking your debunking...
    1.) Penis size does matter, while length isn't as important as males tend to think it is girth is more important (so yes males misplace their desire for a long schlong but size does matter.)
    3.) Sex is a pretty good workout. I think studies show for a 150lb. human the average burnoff is approx. 75 calories. That's pretty good. It's also great for other health reasons but I don't feel like getting into all that.
    4.) true not ALWAYS but it tends to hurt especially if the woman is a virgin as you have to physically break or "tear" her hymen (unless it was broken some other way) but saying that it is a myth is like saying that it is a myth if you kick a man in his groin it will hurt...
    5.) lol "everyone's a little gay
    6.) I don't know a single person who believes this...
    7.) I don't know about statistics, but larger feet is indicative of larger body size (typically) which should equate to longer penis' although not always true my guess is the norm would be larger feet=larger penis.
    8.) It's primarily a girl thing... For instance I know several girls who've told me they've had to fake before but not a single man

    • I won't argue all your points but #6, me until about a months ago (I don't use them so I didn't know or care), and #8, I was tired and she had already gotten off.

    • @Jersey1 one person doesn't make it a majority, in my opinion for it to be a myth a majority or at least many people would have to believe it not some extremely small minority.

    • A myth is a legend or story, especially about demigods, deities, heroes, etc. Or just a fictitious story or idea. Probably everybody on here can think of myths about gods and superheroes. Does not matter a bit how many people believe it, as long as some do. They are myths, even if only a very small group believes it.

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  • Everything except number is 8 is true I think. Pretty good take but you lost me on number 8. There is NOT a significant number of guys who fake orgasms. Not saying it doesn't happen, but compared to girls, it's so rare it's not worth noting. Simply because it's so easy for a guy to get an orgasm

    • Men fake orgasm by continuing after they already came because for some it only lasts 2 minutes.

    • Ah you know what, good point. Your probably right!

    • @Najii lol yes yes

  • I call BS on #1. The rest seem okay, but there's no way #1 is true. The only accurate way to answer that question is "size doesn't matter to ME". Between this site and pop culture at large there is NO way you can say it doesn't matter.

  • Love this <3

  • Wow.. i can't believe people on here think penis size actually matters.
    Its not about how big you are its about how well you can ise it to pleassure your girl or woman. And if you fail or dont feel like it you can always try and use your tongue.

  • Penis size matters.

    Everything else you said is true.

  • #1 We have nerves all the way into the vagina, but they do get less the further in you are. As far as "Size doesn't matter" I think you're both right and wrong. A very small penis can give less feeling and a too big penis can hurt/hit the cervix. So an average penis most often fit and feel the best. With that said there are many ways to "make up for" a penis that's on the smaller or bigger side with positions, toys etc.
    My conclusion is: If you have a one night stand, only want a sexual relationship or are very shallow then yes, penis size might matter.
    But if you love someone it really doesn't matter. At least it doesn't for me.

  • The only thing I'm going to comment on is the above mentioned notion of virginity. It depends on how a person determines/interprets their own definition. It is ultimately an opinion. This opinion can be derived from different sources be it religious, peers, family, culture, etc. Even the major common dictionaries have a specific definition uniquely for vaginal to penile insertion. So it wouldn't necessarily be 'naive' for someone to substitute vaginal intercourse for anal given that vaginal intercourse can have significant physiological and psychological effects. This is even leaving out the possible 'spiritual' effect (s) if they happen to be correct in their interpretation of their religious beliefs.

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