Rant time!
I will never understand why "losing your virginity" is even a concept in this day in age. Whether directly or indirectly, we teach each generation as they grow up that your "virginity" is something to be lost, especially with young girls seeing as, in most, if not all, religions, we are supposed to be "pure" until marriage, hence the white wedding gown we wear while we walk down the aisle. I grew up learning that as well, but after I had sex for the first time, I felt as if the person I was with took something precious of mine. Virginity isn't a tangible object, it isn't something to be lost, it's just something that society created to devalue women once their "virginity" was gone, not to mention the concept was created centuries ago.
My point is simply this: why should someone else's penis/vagina matter so much that you lose a part of your identity? When I raise my children someday, yes, I will teach them that your first time is extremely special and you should share it with someone who loves you as much as you love them, but I will never tell them that they will lose a part of themselves when they share their first time. I think it is much healthier to view "losing your virginity" as your "sexual debut" instead, as Laci Green so eloquently puts it.
If you'd like to watch Laci Green's video behind the concept of "virginity", which personally think is very intersting and enlightening:
Rant over.
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