Why Are Women Afraid to Ask for Oral Sex?

[BelgradeBeauty]

Another round of lunch and some wine with my crazy girlfriends this past weekend, brought up an interesting issue that many women have faced when they first became sexually active. How to ask for oral sex.

Almost every woman knows her clitoris very well. Knows how to pleasure herself and knows how to make herself climax using just her imagination. Once sexually active, masturbation is pretty important, to not only satisfy yourself but to show your partner what you like/need and how to be stimulated to reach orgasm.

Yet so many girls are afraid to even talk about this socially or in public, or even among friends, let alone ask their partner for exactly what they want, (when almost certainly they know what it takes).

A lot of women are sexually frustrated or unsatisfied because they cannot simply open up and be vulnrable or assertive and ASK for exactly what they want.

My girlfriends agreed, once they were able to get the courage to talk openly about their body and sexuality with a partner, asking for what they wanted without fearing rejection or felling guilt for being selfish, they felt freed sexually to a point of no return and have not looked back. They would NEVER have sex again unless they reached orgasm too. It was funny to share our stories of our first oral experiences, almost all of us had given before we learned how to receive and once we did, it was a kind of sexual emancipation that liberated our bodies and allowed us to have unrestricted pleasure, unashamed, unabashed, and unrelenting.

I think EVERY woman deserves the orgasm of her fantasies - and making that more acceptable and comfortable is every man's responsibility, if he really cares about satisfying and enjoying his partner fully.

You give some, you get some, Guys!

Girls - all you got to do is ask!

[Anonymous]

I've always had a rule where if you want me to give you oral, then you must give me oral. I think that is pretty good rule, any girls can steal this rule from me if they want to tell their partners why they deserve it: because I do it for you, you should do it for me, and if he refuses, refuse to give him oral.

[dartmaul15]

good idea, and a nice way to get him to like it. Just don't get stuckin in the "one for one" mentality. It works in the beginning, but if/when you both want to go down on the other person, you can throw the "one for one" mentality out of the window. There's no need for it, because you know your partner will make up for it ometime later.

[Opinion Owner]

@dartmaul15 yeah I know, the rule is for the guys that one to get oral but don't want to give.

[Anonymous]

Oh wait, you're the girl who made that take on how you and all your friends cheat and laugh about it. Here's the thing: knowing a lot of women are like you, I have no interest in sticking my face in your herpes.

[CosineTangent]

I'm a virgin and have no experience with the female body below the waist, but I will say this- the very thought of going down on a women is hotter than the thought of having sex. Being able to make a woman lose control of her body with some simple tongue and finger work sounds pretty nice.

[emmabee11]

No we aren't... this take is crap

[foemelly]

Ask and you shall receive :) I think it's a more enjoyable act when both parties are enjoying themselves equally

[bunnyy]

I asked the first time because he was rubbing me too roughly with his fingers and it was kind of sore so his tongue down there instead seemed like it would feel way better. I thought he would just timidly lick my clit when he got down there but boy was I wrong, he like lost it! he was growling and moaning and saying "mmm" (which caused me to cover my face haha). But now I've created a monster he'll stay down there an hour or more if I let him and he's always eager to go down on me until I'm exhausted! He knows what he's doing though so I can't complain!

[Indiscoverable]

Damn girl you're lucky!

[bunnyy]

haha yeah he even snuggles me to sleep after he's insisted on going really long so I can nap it off XD

[BelgradeBeauty]

YOU"RE ONE DAMN LUCKY WOMAN :) Enjoy it for us all!

[hypno-trip]

lol so sexy

[Bellibooo]

Give and take, that is my opinion in the matter.

[YourFutureEx]

Yes. Girls ASK guys. We won't refuse, don't worry.

Sometimes, I wanted to give oral but even I'm afraid of asking.

[ds84reader]

Totally agree that women should speak their needs. Guys who aren't idiots should realize that a woman telling you what she wants in bed is like winning the lottery. By telling you what she wants, she has given you a good chance to give her what she wants, and... guess what, if she gets what she wants in bed, you probably will too. I love giving oral to my partner and she loves it too. We are lucky :)

[BelgradeBeauty]

Bravo! Great insight.

[arigee7]

😐 there's women who don't ask? I have never experienced sexual frustration cause i don't ask, I expect 😂, if he ain't doing it I push him down, I'm a rough sex kind of person😂

[Creole_Flavor]

Some women are afraid to ask for oral sex because some men won't do it, never did it and don't want to try but still expect it from us. I can't even count how many men I know will not go down on a girl but will not tolerate a girl saying she won't go down on them either and that is bullshit to me but at the same time in order for them to be comfortable with that its because the women they have been with have been giving oral and never asked or were ok not getting it back. If you don't at least ask it probably won't happen unless he just does it because he wants to. you have to communicate your needs because sometimes that is what it takes to get your partner to please you until they get to know what you want.

[brendobetino]

As long as she has good hygiene I love to eat a girl out. I usually don't make them ask though I just go for it.

[Frost_Byt3]

Usually i just offer to do it and they say yes, but it would make me feel a lot more appreciated if you asked for it.

[TadCurious]

Yay for cunnilingus!

[Antizzl]

I just go down if I get pulled back up which I have twice (each woman didn't like it for their own reasons) then it sucks a little because I like to give it. But you gotta respect it.

[oldanddecrepid]

For me its something that I love to do! Simply to be able to watch her enjoyment is enough incentive for me!

It's like a quest to make sure she is happy. It is just so satisfying to bring her to climax, its euphoric to me. I can easily forego my own desires to fulfill hers!

I figured this was the norm?

[lkjhg69cum]

Why should they even ask? I just do. I LOOOOOOVVVVEEEE to eat pussy!!!

[vampireelf]

Usually I'm the one asking the girl if I can go down on her, because I'm a desperate pussy eater haha
But its true, many dont dare to ask, because it still is kind of a taboo. But not in my world. I can't imagine sex without going down on a girl, usually there is never a need to ask me to go down.

[superman224]

I havenoclue but i would definitely give it

[R3d_Anonymous]

If only I was that guy in that picture. Having a girl's legs wrapped around my head? Hot!!!

[emerald77]

I'm not afraid to ask lol they just usually aren't any good.

[Dakota_The_Rota]

Like the Anonymous guy said, you are a cheater who was almost happy about cheating, so you are a bad person. And frankly, I don't care what you think.