Having a lot of sex, doesn't make you a "sexpert"

I find it fascinating in 2015, that people are still so deluded about love and sex.

The majority of questions I seem to run across, all seem to revolve around how many sexual partners you prefer your SO to have before having sex with you...as if somehow, all that practice with different people is going to magically make you and expert on how to blow someones mind; generally, someone you are sleeping with for the first time.

The thing about sex is, EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. You can't expect to think that what worked for one person, is going to blow another person's mind. No matter how many times you've had sex, your required moves and skills will be unique to the person you are sleeping with.

You don't even have to have sex, to understand the basics. It's not rocket science. So having a lot of sex, it just engaging in the basics several times. What makes it good, is if you add technique to those basics which serve the exact desire of your partner. You can't know the desire of a complete stranger, so your special techniques are irrelvant. And then you're left with just the basics.

So, how do you become a "sexpert"? Communicate and practice. You have to communicate what you like/want/need/expect, and ASK her/him what she/he likes/wants/needs/expects. Then you practice like crazy.

Nothing is hotter than a person who comes to the table...errr...bed, comfortable enough to communicate/ask what those unique needs are, and is willing to do them to pleasure the other person, rather than just to take for themselves.