Just got fingered for the first time and it hurt?

[Anonymous]

At first I didn't even know he went in, or how many fingers, but after a while it started to hurt, especially when he pulled it out even though I was soaking wet through my underwear into my pants and really into it. He told me it was just one finger and I'm freaking out ! If one finger hurts after trying for two days when I'm soaking wet, I can only imagine what having sex will be like D: Could it be that his finger was just too dry? I feel like I can still feel it even though its been like 5 hours.. Any tips or info on how to make it not hurt?

[MrOracle]

There's two reasons you could be feeling pain.

The most likely is that he tore your hymen (a little bit or a lot; who knows?), which is going to hurt/sting for a few days. When you have sex, you usually tear it in a few places the first time/first few times you have sex, and once that's over, you don't have that kind of pain anymore.

The other possible reason is just friction. Even though you were wet, which helps protect against friction, your vagina tissue is still very sensitive when it isn't used to friction, and so you can get sore. Once you start doing things regularly (a couple times a week or so), the skin will toughen up a bit and normal stuff won't make you sore anymore, though if you have an extended session, sometimes you can still be a little sore. I should point out that if you stop doing stuff for a week-two weeks, the toughness goes away, and you'll get sore more easily again (perhaps not quite as bad) until you do it regularly again.

[Asker]

I really don't think it was my hymen. It wasn't like a sharp pain (which I assume a tearing hymen would feel like) its was just like a pressure and the slight burning (for lack of a better word) felt like it was just friction like you said, and I'm just not used to it yet. Thanks for the tips :)

[Asker]

And there's no pain now, just like a phantom sensation of where he was lol

[Red_Arrow]

Find someplace where you are not cramped, which is what you are in a car. Then get your underwear off. This will allow him to not have to fight getting past your panties to get in. He likely was too rough, so make him take it slow and easy, only advancing as you want it. Once you get used to it he will be able to go rougher, and it will be easy to do the fingering in a car.

[Asker]

I didn't think about him having to fight past my underwear haha good tip! Not sure what you're talking about with the car stuff though lol

[Red_Arrow]

Just meaning that in a car you have to fit in the available space and that can make nimble fingers hard to come by (Ohhh, a double entendre)

[Asker]

I wasn't in a car and I didn't mention a car lol Is that some kind of analogy?

[Red_Arrow]

No. You did not say the circumstances, like where you were, so I mentioned that so if that was where it was it could be part of the problem.

[Asker]

Oohh okay gotcha :)

[Anonymous]

It could be that he was doing it too rough. Yea it felt great but since your a virgin, and you have also never been fingered...your body had not been through that before. Plus since your a virgin your tighter then ever. Additionally he could have popped your cherry.

[Asker]

It didn't hurt when he went in or anything, and he went really slow, its just like a burning sensation like how I would imagine a dry vagina feeling like after being fingered. Its just that I was really wet which confuses me And your hymen should stretch, not just be something that gets 'popped' when you're a virgin

[Opinion Owner]

I don't see how he could have rubbed you raw if you were wet. Maybe he didn't have clean hands and something that was on his skin got in you and it is irritating you. Maybe he has rough skin or a callus. A nail could have accidentally gotten you also.

[Dionysos]

Soaking wet is good. If he broke your hymen that might explain part of it. If he had rough skin or a sharp nail edge. If it hurt when he withdrew, I'm guessing either rough skin or you used up the natural lube in that part of your vagina.

[igofortakenwomen]

To dry or to rough, tell him to try working you up more first or try doing it yourself and make sure you are relaxed.

[Levin]

He getting you to relax (ie lots of kissing and cuddling, focusing on breasts first), starting with rubbing your clit/the outside beforehand, gently easing in, or he just clumsily, impatiently fumbling about, like a horny dog in heat?

[Asker]

Lots of foreplay, and he did it really gently, the first time I didn't even know if he was in or not lol I'm thinking I'm just not used to anything being in there (I've never fingered myself or even used a tampon) so I'm probably just hyper sensitive :/

[GoldCobra]

Yikes! Tell him to go easier

[nikvik]

Try five fingers next time, it's easy trust me