Why do guys seem to lose interest when they find out the girl they wanted to f*ck f*cked one of their friends?

[Anonymous]

2 weeks ago i was at a party with my friend and a bunch of cute guys i dont really know, almost all of them wanted to have sex with me (touching me, complimenting me, asking me to go upstairs with them, etc...) they were all over me and almost fighting for me , i thought that was cute , but i didn't have sex with anyone. When i walk on the street and run into them, they would always say Hi or hug me f A week later i had sex with a guy (not at a party) but he knows the guys that were at the party i went to and probably told them he had sex with me 2 days ago i went to another party, with the same guys that wanted to have sex with me, and they barely talked to me none of them really approched me they just said hi when i came and bye when i left and when i run into them they just look at me and smile. Why do guys act like that? Is it because their friend had sex with me? It was just a one night...

[WhiteSteve]

"Bros before hoes", no offense. Its considered common courtesy among men to lay off a girl if one of your buddies hooked up with her, unless she's a pass-her-around-the-crew type, which probably isn't how you want to be viewed anyway. But as a general rule, if you're interested in multiple guys who are friends, choose wisely, because most likely you can't have both/all of them. Just bro code, is all.

[Asker]

I honestly thought having sex with a girl your friend had sex with (who is not your friends ex of girlfriend of course) was exciting for guys

[WhiteSteve]

Well, "that" girl is generally not looked upon that respectably. I'm a pretty open guy as far as sex goes. I'm all about having as much as a can, I'm definitely no saint, or at least in my single days I wasn't. So believe me, I don't do the slut-stud double standard, I'm not judging at all. I knew girls that got passed around, and the guys laughed about it, they weren't like "oh, this is so awesome, we all banged her!" As much as dudes try to play cool, many get attached easily, or at least territorial. At the end of the day, no one wants to complicate or ruin friendships over some girl and some hurt feelings.

[BoundByCuriosity]

No guy particularly likes the idea that if you were 'his girl' that he could be hanging out with friends or whatever, and know that one of his mates has fucked you.

Im not sure if its a matter of pride, or just the feeling of being special, but its definitely an issue.

I mean would you really want to keep pursuing a guy if you found out a week earlier he was banging one of your friends?

[Asker]

Yeah but its not like these guys wanted to date me they just wanted to have sex with me.. I still dont understand why fact that i had sex with their friend changed everything

[BoundByCuriosity]

can i ask, did you blow their friend?

[Asker]

Yeah..

[BoundByCuriosity]

and if he went and told his friends that... i know its childish, but yeah, that might be a mental picture they are having difficulty to shake. but yeah the reason this came to mind, was in the sopranos, when tony's psychiatrist ask him why he has a mistress, he responds with that he has certain needs, and his wife has to kiss his children goodnight with that mouth... but yeah, i guess no one really likes 'sloppy seconds' lol personally i dont care what a chick has done, and with whom, so long as i dont know them.

[Asker]

ok i get it... I looked up the definition of sloppy seconds lol

[Hipsterusername]

No one wants sloppy seconds. You've lost some of your mystery. Guys also like the idea that they're special or that they've won, and knowing you've just banged one of their buddies takes that away. Plus no one likes a homie hopper.

[jessfinesse]

Maybe that first guy still likes you and wants something more, so his friends aren't going to try to fuck you because they're being good friends. Just a guess.

[sirencalling]

I wouldn't want to sleep with a guy that just slept with one of my friends. That's kinda gross.

[myspacemybroke]

Either A): brocode don't try to get with a chick your buddy's been with, or B) they decided they were proven wrong about you not being easy after you fucked their friend.

[Asker]

Guys mentality is so fucked up why would you try so hard to f*ck a girl whos not easy and be glad and compliment her when she refuses wtf

[myspacemybroke]

Because guys like sex where ever and whenever we can get it. It is also entirely possible for guys to respect women. I have good things to say about women who don't run around spread legged. It shows a little class. That being said, I revert to my original point: guys like sex. Just because we respect the chaste women doesn't mean we won't bang the spread legged ones.

[Red_Arrow]

Guys wanted to have sex with you, but you turned them down. Later you fucked one of their friends. They now know about that. So you go to another party, and the guys that you rejected are there They remember you rejected them then had sex with one of their friends. So why do you think they want to adk again so that you could reject them again?

[Insaan]

And what about the guy who fucked you? Did he ignore you too?

[Asker]

I never run into him and i dont have his number or anything but its just a one night so who cares

[Insaan]

May be all wanted to have sex but one wins. Hence the other guys have lost interest. Then they might have declared you as slutty and over friendly and hence they moved on.They expected something else, but you were very easy which didn't impress them at all. Generally guys who have opportunity for sex like this will not ignore women immediately until they spend some more time with women on bed for satisfying their lust for sex. May be those guys have compromised for not fighting over you and everyone stays away from you. Now only those guys knows the reality behind ignoring you. May be you should wait. The guy who fucked you might approach you again. But i don't think other guys will share bed with you. You are not a hooker to treat you like that or share you.

[andy020892]

No guys like a girl who opens her legs to everyone.

[Asker]

i didn't open my legs to everyone

[andy020892]

well you slept with a friend not a boyfriend. Said enough. Grow up.

[PhiOmega]

You don't want your bros leftovers

[mario1321]

Because its ehiter the friene or you

[BlkStallion]

Nobody likes leftovers