Is there such a thing as Too Much Sex?

[Anonymous]

I think we have too much sex, he doesn't see where the problem lies. I think about sex 23 hours out of the day but I don't want to have it as much as we have it. I think we have it too much. 1. Could I have a low sex drive? 2. Is there no such thing as Too Much Sex when you are in a relationship? 3. He doesn't see this as an issue so how can we fix it? What would you do if your S/O wants it all the time and thinks you should oblige All The Time?

[AustinMan]

Having read a lot of the answers, I would add this: I suggest you go out for a romantic dinner and tell him you love him very much but that you just physically can't keep up the nonstop pace for sex. Negotiate something you both can live with, leaving some room for spontaneity. If he has to date his p*rn collection to make up any deficit, you should probably find a way to be okay with that. However, as one man said, he needs to worry about eventual desensitization. You might also get your hormone levels checked. Even in young women, it can dramatically affect sex drive.

[kheserthorpe]

Is it interfering with the rest of your life?

For me, not having sex interferes with my life more then having sex. If I had sex for an hour a day, i'd be more productive then now. If i was hitting 3 hours a day of sex, that would probably be cutting into my time.

[Asker]

I work 12 hour days with 3 days off but it does. It's draining and totally affects how I feel the following day. My energy level. I guess that is why I'd rather think about it than do it. I could think about it pretty much anywhere and still get things done and not be physically exhausted.

[kheserthorpe]

For me, if i'm sexually frustrated, it chews up so much brainpower it hampers how much i can get done, and drags my mood and energy down. 3-4 hours is staggering. 4 times a week is pretty ordinary. might i suggest quickies daily on days you have work, and longer sessions only when you have the next day off?

[Anonymous]

For me and my husband no. We would have sex all day everyday if we could. I think y'all don't have the same drive. You simply don't need it as much and he needs it a lot.

[Asker]

If you don't mind my asking, You never get tired? I don't think we have the same drive either. I used to think I was highly-sexual but he has changed that.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but not often...it was more early on I would get tired. I can remember the first time we had sex we had it so much in one night I finally had to tell him I was wore out and needed to sleep. Granted when we started messing around I had only had sex about 6 times. I can also tell you the amount we have now isn't as much as we had when we first got together. I guess some of the new has finally wore off, I mean we still enjoy it by all means, but it's just one of those things. We are actually booking a hotel room to basically just have sex like wild people lol. It changes it up some and a little more privacy (no dogs or cat watching or raising cane because they got lock out of the room).

[jesseray]

Yes, there is such a thing. When a guy has really frequent and long-lasting sex with the same woman for a long time, he can become desensitized to her. I suspect the same is true for a woman toward a man. For people in your position, it would be wise to reduce the amount of sex you have.

[Ezio1981]

If you think about sex 23 hours a day, what's the problem? But it's best when you are both in the mood for it

[Foreverdark]

Have you ever had a rug burn or a rope burn? Yeah...

[NoblesseOblige]

How much are we talking here...

[Asker]

On Average, 4 days a week/Averaging about 3-4 hours on those days. He thinks it should be Every Day so this is not bad at all.

[NoblesseOblige]

3-4 hours sounds like a lot...

[Anonymous]

If you have different sex drive levels then that is a problem, but a common one. Men generally have much higher sex drives than women. You have to either find a way to compromise, or else you may not be sexually compatible.

Having sex four times a week isn't too often. It is actually really normal to have sex that often. Maybe you should shorten the length of time you are having sex. I don't think many people average anywhere near 3-4 hours worth of sex every time they do it. Maybe you might be happier with quickies so it doesn't eat into your day as much.