I found out my husband looks at a lot of shemale p*rn and gay porn, I am very confused I need someone's opinion. Please help!?

[Anonymous]

So not too long ago I went through my husbands phone and found out he was texting different girls, very flirty texts as well as inappropriate pictures of himself, this lead me to install an app on his phone that tracks almost everything he does, his Internet browsing, texting, and calls. Although I haven't found him texting any more girls since I confronted him about it, it's like I opened a Pandora's box when I went through his Internet browsing history. I found out he was watching a lot of gay porn, and shemale porn, regular p*rn as well, but mostly shemale. I am very confused and don't know what to think, I have browsed on the Internet looking for answers and mostly everybody seems to agree that shemale p*rn is not gay porn, but that idea isn't quite convincing to me, I mean a transexual is basically a guy who feminized himself and still has a penis, how can any straight guy be attracted to this? Not only that but it worries me that one day he might try to act out this fantasy, I have also seen that he goes on Craigslist personals quite often, and mostly browses the w4m section but there's the occasional click on m4m and t4m. There has been no txts or calls either like he is trying to meet up, but it worries me that one day he will attemp to. Our sex life seems to still be exciting to him, like he is still turned on by me, and we have great sex but I have noticed that he doesn't eat me out as often as he used to, before it was all he wanted to do, and now I have to ask him every time. Guys please help, how do I confront him about this and should I be worried, I honestly don't want to find years down the road that he has cheated on me with a man or a tranny, we have only been together for 6 years, and we are a young couple I am 26 and he is 25, I am attractive and fit so I don't see why he would have to get off on this, sorry story is so long, but I need opinions from straight man mostly, what should I make of all this? I am very heartbroken.

[ybruce]

You are close minded, while he is open minded (perv). You must get ready yourself, if you really love him, you must take a step forward and give him his perv desires before someone else does. A sexual relationship is like any other kind of relationship, you need to give before you get!

If he wants di*, than surprise him, you can buy one for yourself, read after anal sex
1. how to do
2. why is it good
3. what do you need to do it.

You don't know where is his idea came from, what caused him to be attracted by di*, but if he attracted than you must give him. Every man enjoy di* in his * because its full of nerves, doesn't mean he is gay or even bi, (he couldn't touch a guy probably). And no need to worry, what is in bedroom, will stays in bedroom. Your dirty little secret. And be astute, use all of your idea to make him wants to eat you like before.
If is he bi, than he likes dominated and being humiliated by someone (it will be you)(and don't forget it will stays in bedroom.) Sit on his face for instance. Just use your imagination and be perv, noone will now, but him, but that is ok, because he wants.

Don be afraid of to develop extraordinary ideas and use them to please your man (and control him, because every man is controlled by a woman :)
You don't know him well enough, do make evil programs :) watch p*rn and talk about perv things together, it will be exciting too. And than you will have an exciting sex life (what no one else know, but both of you), and a long happy marriage.

Just try your best, to make him do his best. (It can take months, years.)
Take care, and have fun! ;)

[Anonymous]

Wow, im really sorry you have to go trough this bs right now, after you wanted to commit and have a life with this man.

No one deserves this sh*t.

Im gonna admit i have looked at some tranny porn and occasionally some gay porn, if the man (bottom) was feminine and the sex was hot...

But i consider myself straight, since in real life, men dont turn me on even in the slightest, and trannies are somewhat gross to me.
I dont know about other guys who look at this stuff, maybe some are bi/gay, but i think most guys only like to see it in porn and in reality its gross to us. The reason is mainky porn addiction. You get so used to regular porn that your mind is desensitized and you need more and more "shocking" things to stimulate it.

Basically, when i cut out porn , even for 3+ weeks, i lose all desire to see any trans or manporn.

I think you need to tell him that you know and ask him to try quitting porn. He owes you that much.

I always told myself that i would quit porn before i think of marrying a girl, because even with regular porn i dont want to reduce my womans body to just a sexual image like porn girls.
Your woman is your prize, and to truly appreciate her one must stop these addictive, degenerate activities.

I think you have every reason to tell him this. He should understand this, dont worry

[Hopefuldreamer8]

I think it's something you should talk to him about. I could be wrong about this situation, but my sisters ex boyfriend used to use my computer all the time when I lived across from them. They didn't have internet, and I did. I didn't have a problem letting them use it because I thought they were using it for important things. I found gay p*rn in my internet history a few times after he used it. I didn't say anything because I wasn't sure what to say. I just thought maybe he was curious. About two years later, he started cheating on my sister with guys. It turned out he was gay but scared to come out of the closet. I've always felt bad about not bringing it up to her. I've told her about it now, and she doesn't blame me because she found it on her computer later after they got internet, and even my mom found it.

It could be completely different in this situation, and I am not saying he'll cheat at all. However, maybe you should just say something even if you're worried you'll embarrass him. He might just be curious about that stuff, I don't really know. But if you're married and it bothers you, it should be something you two can discuss together.

[Asker]

Thanks I will have a talk with him soon, I don't think he is gay, because he still looks for me intimately, but I do have a feeling he might be bisexual which is still not ok with me

[Anonymous]

Hi, the tracking his phone history seems a bit extreme but I can't really blame you after you found out he was texting others, dose he know that you can see what he looks up?

As for what you can do about it I think someone else suggested he might like anal, not just on you but on him. Is this something you would be open to? He might have just found his prostate and be a little confused. Some guys wonder if they are gay because they have just realized they like something in there ass. Lots of straight guys line anal on them, so do some gay and bi guys so it dose not rule anything out.

Dose he look at any strapon p*rn? If he dose this might be somewhere you can start. If you are up for it. Or you can try a vibe during a blowjob, my husband loves that, he sees stars

[XRabbitHeartX]

Please talk to him. He's your husband. If you cannot bring these things up with your life partner then there's something wrong somewhere. I personally don't think it's right that any one for that matter spend that much time watching p*rn when they should be in a happy relationship and giving attention to their own partner instead of jacking off to filth. But that's just me. I wouldn't be OK with that and it sounds like his behavior is excessive. Talk to him about this asap.

[Asker]

Thanks I appreciate, just am very embarrassed about the whole situation, and also letting him know that I am spying on him makes me feel like an evil witch but I feel like he pushed me to it

[XRabbitHeartX]

I understand that but he's neglecting you and your needs too so it's not just your fault. Snooping isn't good but neither is watching excessive p*rn and neglecting your partner's needs (him not wanting to give you oral anymore)

[dressed2kell]

Don't be embarrassed. He shouldn't be either. You two should talk about it. Straight men can be curious about these things. Just TALK.

[slackercruster]

Forgot to add...

They got some women with giant clits. They look like miniature penis's. Something further to add to the confusion mix.

[cheflove69]

Maybe he is into anal play and does not know how to bring it up! He may want you to dominate him with a strap on? And the shemale p*rn is the closest thing to the real deal! Ask him if he has done anything anal?

[Asker]

Well he had always asked for me to let him do anal on me, but the idea of it freaks me out, it doesn't seem natural, I feel like I might be pushing him to all this other craziness cause I'm not down with that kinda stuff. Thanks

[cheflove69]

Just remember it has nothing to do with you or your sex life!

[EvilPimp]

Wow. I think you need to confront him on this because it sounds like he's bi. I say he's bi because he's still having sex with you. Who initiates sex? you or him? That could be saying a lot because if you are the one always initiating sex, then he might be gay and is just be going through it just to please you, but if he's still initiating sex with you I think that its a sign that he probably bi. I don't know, but if he was straight, he wouldn't be watching shemale porn.

[Asker]

He still initiates sex, but like I said now its like I have to ask for oral, before he would do it withouth me even asking, I feel like he is loosing interest in my pleasing, just looking to have his

[EvilPimp]

You need to talk to him about it. That's the only real way that you are going to get answers.

[wannabekim]

Yep, dress him up and tell him you want him to be the girl to please you orally, and often. He won't need porn anymore. He will have you to fulfill his desires, fantasies. And have fun!!!

[Dragan]

Any kind of p*rn is bad. Talk to your husband. Tell him that you do not like when he's looking porn.

[thatsafact]

Blindfold him tie him to bed and invite shemale over to have sex with him while you watch

[ErikKantor]

You might overthink this, even tho this is an awkward situation it doesn’t mean his gay or bi. He might just be way to horny and seen too much porn.
How is your sex life?

[mario1321]

He may just want too wear womens clothes, dont think you should bring it up because he may take it as judgmental

[wannabekim]

Yes buy him some crotch less tights, a little skirt, put on a little strap on and spice up your sex life

[womenhateme]

I would confront him the sooner the better, maybe you guys need some therapy? Maybe he's gay and was afraid to say anything to you? by the way why were you looking through his phone? Are you paranoid?

[Asker]

I have always been very trustworthy, but I caught him texting different girls that I had no knowledge of and that's when I went through his phone, other than that I never would have

[Lilchrissyrn]

Going through the same thing. Can we email. Chrissyrn527@gmail

[benji3]

You should ad me to your sex life to make it more interesting for him

[Anonymous]

Wow! I really hope he's just bored. Because I don't know how you compete with another man... if you want to call that (a shemale) a man.
I'm sorry I wish I had some advice for you. But as I said he may be just bored. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I think you should get a strap on and fuk his ass

[Anonymous]

Well, he isn't straight that much is obvious and as trust is the basis of any relationship and he is lying to you and you are putting trackers on his phone i would suggest to you that your relationship is over.

Leave him and move on, aside from all the trust issues this is obviously something he wants in his life and its entirely incompatible with you.

[Anonymous]

Buy a strapon surprise him tell him to get on the bed and fuck him, use lube

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry you have to go through this from what i have been through and seen some men who have had experiences as children with men find that they are attracted to women physically but sex because more of an act only and therefore weak transexuals as a guide to seeing this act relived mainly when they are sad or in arguments with people they feel most close to. does your husband lie a lot?

[Anonymous]

p*rn is just a fantasy. It doesn't mean anything

[hswhis]

p*rn is a fantasy until one day you find the courage to live out your fantasy.