She's rubbing her clit, am I bad sex?

[Anonymous]

When we're having sex, my (current) girlfriend has to rub her clit while I penetrate her in order to cum. (Which means she's having clit orgasms) My penis is 5.5 inch long and 5.5 inch girth. (as far as I read, quite wide but short) I'm not sure, but I think in her past relationships she could cum without rubbing her clit (I don't really know I'm just guessing it) which makes me feel insecure about my length :( We have tons of sex, avg. twice a day, She always cums at least once when we're having sex. Every two days she has to stop for 24hours, because she becomes very sore and it hurts her when I put my penis in her (in the beginning) (even if she's super wet). I think my girth is playing against me because she's becoming sore, and my length is playing against me because its not sufficient. There is some comfort in that I'm wide because sometimes she has to rub her clit or she becomes too tight... I just feel insecure when she's rubbing it in order to cum. If I wanna give her g-spot orgasms with my hands (squirt) she doesn't really like it, I mean she does, but not as much as clit orgasms, and she also becomes super sore afterwards and we can't have sex for longer time (so she doesn't really let me do it) Another question aimed to girls: how does your vagina react when you rub your clit? To me it feels like some sort of remote-control for opening up. If she rubs it a lot she's getting wider and if she doesn't rub it she's getting tighter (like too tight for me to move in her, and it also hurts her...). Which is also confusing. I thought women become tighter when cumming but from what I sense she has to become wider in order to cum. (she's widest when she cums, then getting back to tight afterwards, then she has to rub again... cumming again... going on... until I cum). I also feel like I'm on some sort of clock. like if I won't cum soon enough she's gonna become too sore to continue. Does it mean I'm bad sex?

[xlVendettalx]

Well... If you've only ever managed to give her a clit orgasm, yes you are inexperienced. It's not a bad thing if you're young and she's one of the few short relationships you've had. But my advice is "Experiment!". Try different techniques and positions. I've read that most girls prefer cliteral orgasms, but you never know what'll keep your girl addicted to you until you try them all. That being said, the best sex is the slow and passionate sex when you're deeply in love with a gal that loves you back. Even better if she lets you take her bare back. If she loves you, make it last for at least half an hour with fifteen minutes of foreplay beforehand (French Kiss her and talk loving or dirty while reaching climax). Then let her sleep it off while snuggling you.

[johnmsk]

learn to enjoy while she stimulates her own pussy. she likes it and gives her good orgams

[Anonymous]

Most girls orgasm from clit stimulation. There's the possible g spot orgasm, but for the most part, women don't actually orgasm from sex itself. Don't take it personal, she probably just wants to add more stimulation and maybe orgasm with you. You could help her out also.

As far your question about the tightness...
I don't really know why you're saying. I don't believe rubbing your clit makes you wider. If anything, it makes you wet which will make it easier to fit inside. And getting tighter when coming is probably just because leading up to her orgasm she's tightening and tensing up her muscles... But it's not actually getting tighter. The vagina stretches for sex and will go back to its size afterwards.

[lovehard]

G spot orgasms are cool me personally I enjoy clitoral like your gf...a clit has similar sensations as the head of your penis and with the rubbing along with the penitration feels really good. The reason why she gets "loose" is because in order to Cum most females need to feel relaxed so it basically means she is comfortable and ready. Id take a wide penis any day dont be insecure about that trust me she wouldn't want to have sex with you if she wasn't pleased...about the soreness which happens during frequent sex just take a romantic bath together the warm water will ease some of the discomfort

[Adamlevine]

This makes sense but I have a question. If the clit feels better, than why do girls even like to have intercourse? Why don't they just have their boyfriend rub their clit until they orgasm?

[AmIReallyAGirl]

vaginal sex feels awesome, however it's nothing compared to orgasming (unless you're one of the few girls that seem to orgasm during vaginal sex)... it's actually super disappointing to have intercourse and then not come - just like it would be for a guy. Your girlfriend is probably just doing what it takes for her to come.

I suggest making sure she has a huge orgasm before you start to have intercourse, OR take a break from intercourse and make her come using your tongue and then finish after she's satisfied.

[Adamlevine]

So a clitoral orgasm is different from a vaginal orgasm? and Is the sex still as fun for her if he makes her come before intercourse?

[AmIReallyAGirl]

@Adamlevine Yes, at least for me it's way more fun if I come before (or in-between) intercourse because intercourse actually feels even better after coming. However, you have to ask the person you're with, it's going to vary by person.

[jimreyn]

U know it.

[Hannah591]

She's like the many millions of women who cannot orgasm vaginally. I'm the same and so it's required that clitoral stimulation occurs for her to orgasm. It is in no way a reflection of your sexual performance, it's purely a lack of sex education to boys about the differences of reality and porn. Only 10% of women orgasm every time they have sex and many men should know this as well as that millions of women cannot orgasm vaginally alone.

[Adamlevine]

Yes but how is her rubbing her clit going to help her orgasm vaginally? will the intercourse be as fun if he makes her have a clitoral orgasm before he penetrates?

[Hannah591]

@Adamlevine Rubbing the clit doesn't make you orgasm vaginally, only clitorally. It's usually best not to make her orgasm before sex, she'll lose interest and won't be wet.

[Adamlevine]

But if clitoral orgasms feel better than sex , why don't girls just have their guy rub their clit until they cum instead of having intercourse? Mutual masterbation even?

[Azara]

#adamlevine some women prefer what you suggest but then the vagina can still feel good even if it doesn't cause orgasm. like getting a massage while yapper cumin. also the vibrations can compliment each other. if the clit is rubbed while the vagina is penetrated it can increase sensation overall and make orgasm more intense. thoughts true some women have no need for vaginal penetration. i used to not see the point. .. the clit is simply not placed in a great spot for sex though it workers well for sexual stimulation. and the only p;depose known is that it creates sexual pleasure. so really not sure why its placed where it is. it encourages pleasure without risk of pregnancy... maybe natures contraceptive. ;p

[Hannah591]

@Adamlevine Sex is still enjoyable.

[Adamlevine]

Okay makes sense, so if you girls were with a guy, you would not be satisfied with him just rubbing your clit until you orgasm but he must also penetrate you? Should he penetrate first so that you don't cum from the clitoral rubbing?

[sunbleached]

it adds more stimulation, why don't you try to rub her clit instead of her doing it?

[Azara]

nothing to do with you. if she's doing it it means she knows she needs it to cum. and why do you assume she didn't have to in her other relationships if she started out doing it with you and she never sad she didn't have to before.

its normal. most women need clit stimulation to cum. p*rn is bullshit. it lies.

[Adamlevine]

Yes, but isn't a clitoral orgasm different from a vaginal orgasm? so why is she doing that to come when her vagina is desperate?

[Azara]

yes its very different. the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the vulvas. like the head of the penis. unless the head the clit is not directly involved when two people have intercourse unless the woman or man is stimulating it--which is very common part of sex. if you want credit for it then have her show you how she likes it done and you cubit instead. expecting it to not be a part of sex when clearly its a part f her coming is just not reasonable, or acceptable. i say this as a matter of fact not out of judgement. the fact it bothers you just means you need to do more research,. it does not make you inherently bad at sex, it makes you uneducated and possessing unrealistic expectations from her vagina. wha do yo mean her vagina id desperate? most women dont cum from vaginal stimulation. certainly not on its own. no sex organ is desperate. watch less porn or take it less seriously. get a book on physiology of sex. read. learn. discover. enjoy. :)

[Adamlevine]

I meant separate lol. Now you can answer my question differently. thanks

[Flower7]

If she doesn't have penetration orgasms with you, then she most likely didn't in her past relationships either. You shouldn't worry about trying to compare yourself to them. Some women never in their life have an orgasm from only penetration. Your girlfriend is probably one of those.

[Texasgal95]

I don’t think it means you’re bad in bed a lot of women will rub their clitoris while being penetrated to add to the experience to have a stronger orgasm bothers you talk with her about it

[knotme]

most girls can only cum by clitoral stimulation, it has nothing to do with your size or how you are fucking. you could do it for her, if you wanted though, or get her off orally before penetration

[Asker]

Doesn't work (I mean it might work if I do it for 30 minutes) but usually clit alone doesn't make her cum, has to be penetration with clit and then she gets off pretty fast (few min)

[knotme]

You have to learn her body, ask her to teach you, how she does it. It could just be the motion she is using. Does she enjoy receiving oral?

[Asker]

Yes, and I did get her to cum orally before, but she doesn't have the patience, she's getting so horny mid-way and just really really really wants me to fuck her.

[knotme]

okay, well you stroke her clit during penetration then

[Lemia]

@Asker Just because she is rubbing her clitoris doesn't mean your bad at sex, it could mean she wants a little more pleasure then normal.

[LittleAmyP]

Nah, girls just love some extra stimulation during sex

[T-shirtsandkneehighs]

Not all girls can have gspot orgasms.

[Tlala70]

Your size is fine. Women need clitoral stimulation while the penis is inside. Maybe not all of us but I definitely do. You should eat her out so she cums then go inside of her

[johnnylong123]

That's always my preferred methods.

[blondfrog]

No she is just giving herself pleasure.

[Gedaria]

No she likes to rub her clit while having sex...

[Just_Me89]

Most women can't cum without clit stimulation.

[CuriousAZ]

No way.

[jimreyn]

Ler her do it

[Anonymous]

I have to rub my clit too

[Anonymous]

A clit is not "a remote control to the vagina" its actually a central pleasure house. i dont find penetration that good alone without clitoral stimulation because my clit contains nerves where my vagina doesn't have many at all.

[Adamlevine]

If rubbing the clit feels better than sex, than why do girls still want intercourse though? I don't get it?

[Azara]

bc it adds different sensations. and increases the intensity. erogenous zones dont necessarily mean you cum from touching them but they add stimulation.