Girls do you feel like you're being "Eye Raped"?

The gym I go to handed each member a flyer on a type of sexual harassment they termed "eye rape". They described basically guys ogling the female members. I fully understand that it's not polite to stare but I have a gripe too. If girls don't want us to stare then why wear tights/yoga pants or worse yet those tiny micro shorts. They look like a second skin! To me and a lot of friends they are sexier than a girl in a bikini or their underwear. I mean they make us guys go crazy! So why wear that stuff if you don't want us to stare. Especially the micro shorts - are they that comfy?
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  • There's a difference between staring, ogling and "eye rape" Really it depends on how attractive you are (sadly, but it's true) and how long you look.

    Anyone can be caught looking once, and it not be a problem. Maybe you just caught their eye? Not a big deal. The second time it gets kind of obvious that they weren't just distracted and looked at you, but they were staring at you.

    If you find the guy attractive, this is usually OK too. But, if you don't, this is where it starts to become just a little uncomfortable. If they catch you staring at them a third time, you better be really damn sexy, or she's been flirting back while you look. If not, she's probably going to be or is starting to be uncomfortable.

    By the 4th time she catches you, if she finds you unattractive, she would probably consider this "eye rape" since to her, you aren't on the dessert menu at all and would have a better chance at not creeping her out by being a huge bug. If she does find you attractive or at least appealing, this is probably your final chance before she starts feeling "eye raped."

    5th time, if you're not attractive, she's either packing her stuff and leaving or talking to someone at the front desk to get you removed from the area. If you are attractive, she'll probably just leave and never want to come back.

    Please note "attractiveness" is a personal preference, not how thin or muscular you are.

    Also, in terms of clothing, I assume you've never seen the woman's side of athletic clothing. All there is to choose from are yoga pants, or tiny micro shorts (very rarely are there decent length/sized shorts. Asking why they wear that stuff is like asking yourself why you wear long shorts. The answer is "because that's what's available when I shop for the appropriate gender."

  • I tend to agree with you. When you go out in public, you kind of have to accept that you absolutely will not have the same amount of privacy you do at home. As long as you aren't looking for an extended period of time, no harm no foul. Looking or glancing are not crimes on their own lol.

    I personally hate those shorts and will not wear them out of the house, and especially not to the gym. But the workout pants I wear are a little tight... They are easy to move in and I like the way they feel. Sure I have guys stare at me, but I don't get upset... However, if a man will not look way I become uncomfortable, and if a man makes gross comments to me, I feel uncomfortable. I had a guy stop right in front of me once, blatantly look me up and down, and had a smug look on his face. That's unacceptable because now you have invaded my space and and appeared menacing lol.

    Like I said, a little stare is fine... You're guys, you're gonna look every now and again. But it's not cool to watch a girl continuously even after she catches you staring. That's kinda weird no matter where you are.

    • yes, that is fine alittle stare, but he stated ogle

    • Just checking your squat form i'm sure, worried about your back.

    • Yes!!! Good lookin' out for me!

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  • When I go to the gym, I dress to tease the guys... and any girls interested in looking. I like it when guys stare while I'm working out. I always wear little bare belly outfits... from super short cut-off fly away t-shirts and tight yoga leggings or micro mini tennis skirts with nothing on underneath to micro g-string bikinis (for late night workouts with my husband). I go barefoot because some guys think it's sexy for a woman to be barefoot in public. Yes, I feel like I'm being "eye-raped," and It's wonderful.

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  • And who tells women to wear tight clothing to the gym? Baggy shorts and so on are just as effective...

    " Stop staring at my ass in these tight ass popping shorts that purposely pushes it up!!"

    Honestly any woman who complains about that crap complains because

    1. she does not think you are attractive. If all the guys were hot she would not have a problem.

    2. She is ignorant to fashion and it's purposes. High heels are not "Cute" they were made to push your butt up and attract make attention.
    And so on. "Cute" has become a replacement word for sexualized with women forgetting what the purpose of sexualization if for.

  • I stopped oogling by 16. Strangers are meant to be ignored. I wish more men would do the same.

    When I go to the gym I only glance at people around me so I know who is in the area. I make are an effort not to look at women when I don't know them. When are an woman approaches me, eye contact only.

    I have too much self respect to allow myself being caught gawking. Why would I want to be treated like are an salivating dog who placates someone else's ego. Most of the time they are simply teasing. Same goes with bars are and clubs.

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  • I think there are two sides to this:
    Firstly a lot of girls wear these things because they are comfortable when they are excising and so long as they aren't indecently exposing themselves then they have a right to dress how they want. It is the responsibility of the man to be mature enough not to be creepy in how he appreciates those around him.
    On the other hand its hard on guys not to state at people they find attractive. It is particularly so when they are wearing something that is exposing.
    All we ask is that you do it in a discrete manner so that we don't feel uncomfortable. We are both there for the same reason and that is to keep fit. Unfortunately not everyone has the maturity to be respectful there.

  • Nah. "Eye raped" is a weird word. People are going to look. Heck, even I'd look if I saw a girl wearing revealing clothing. Maybe not for the same reasons as guys. But still. I don't see what's wrong with looking at someone quickly. Especially if they clearly ask for it and want you to. Most girls I've seen who dress tacky seem to LOVE the attention and want guys to look. They know perfectly well what will happen in advance when they put their right shorts on.

    • Yup, I know a girl who wears embarrassingly short shorts to the gym who loves to whine about guys looking at her. I've known her for 10 years, and I know she loves the attention. She only whines because she wants people to know guys have been looking at her.

    • Yeah I know girls like that too. It's so obvious that deep down they love it but heaven forbid they'll never openly admit this :P

    • Lol at the whining to draw attention to it. I was out a week or so ago, and this guy was telling everyone in ear shot how its so annoying when everyone finds he's an investor and starts trying to pitch ideas at him. Why don't you loudly complain about everyone wanting to go for a ride in your Porsche while you're at it. Same idea.

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  • I think you can stare at someone without leering at them. It would make me feel uncomfortable and self conscious if someone was making it really noticable. It might just be that those kind of clothes are comfortable for them to wear, baggy clothes might get in the way or get too hot.

    I don't wear micro shorts or lycra, I personally prefer trackies and a vest top at the gym. I get to blend into a locker while everyone else is checking out the micro shorts lol ;)

    • I bet a lot more guys are checking you out than you think!

    • I doubt it, if they were it's probably because I'd have just burst an exercise ball or landed on my arse lol

    • Seriously? If that's your picture I can guarantee they are checking you out!!

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  • YES! It is absolutely DISGUSTING and completely turns me off. If I ever had the slightest interest in a guy and he stares at me like a dog staring at a steak, then he has instantly killed his chances with me.

    Women should be able to wear whatever they want to wear without guys behaving like sex obsessed, filthy pigs. We shouldn't have to dress like a nun or a Muslim woman so that guys can act like they have an ounce of decency and not stare at us like perverts.

  • I kind of have to agree with you here. If a girl doesn't want to be stared at. Then she wouldn't wear tight/skimpy clothes. But a girl also has the right to wear what she wants, without having to worry about pervs staring at her. Though I do agree the female gym clothes don't leave much to the imagination.

  • Lmao. Some girls like the attention but too much and we do feel like we are being eye raped. However, I could care less about that stuff. My pants and top are tight because i need the most functional workout clothes. I do look good but I care about making sure my movements aren't hindered by something as small as baggy clothes.

  • nope i have to agree on this, if they were uncomfortable with guys "eye-raping" them then they would of taken extra measures to make sure they would stop, as in wearing sweatpants instead of the micro shorts etc. But it goes both ways because when you guys are lifting weights we always stare its just we do it in a way more unnoticeable way than guys.

    • What do you look for when your staring at guys? Butts, the 'package' or muscles. What muscles do you think are the sexiest on a guy?

    • in the gym girls basically look at the torso. Abs are VERY SEXY! Biceps and triceps too, we like broad shoulders and yesh nice ass and legs :).

  • I went to the store once and a guy much older than me was undressing me with his eyes. He was hitting on me and I was wearing a loose dress not booty shorts.

    • Your very attractive so that must happen quite often. How did it make you feel when it happened this time?

    • I was creeped out. I was wondering if he had anything better to do than hit on me. I was flattered at first but he kept staring and talking to me.

  • I'm willing to bet my next paycheck that any girl who has said they don't like being stared at, HAS stared at a guy at one point or another.

    People never live the standard that they demand of other people.

    • i agreed

    • Looking is different from staring. Staring would be a little too sexually aggressive. Like a movie star, athlete is fine because they are unattainable plus the shock of being around said idol but other than that it's equally rude/foward.

    • If we're talking in the context where you keep staring intensely at the girl after she makes quick eye contact, now that's weird. But if we're talking about in the context that a person stares pretty damn hard until the person looks at you and you turn away, I can guarantee you everyone has done that at least once or twice in their life. It most depends on the context of the staring we're talking about really.

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  • Those outfits are nice, comfortable and good looking! It's very important for a girl to feel beautiful... everyone that says they don't like even a bit being looked at is lying! I like the attention when I'm single, otherwise, not so much.
    To answer your question it feels like 'eye raping' when we're not out on a Saturday night, with friends, having fun... (typical situations where people flirt) and a guy keeps staring at me (for example, at work, or at the gym). If I'm there to work out, why would I wanna be looked at?

  • I don't care if i get eye rape. I'm quite use to it. There's too much testerome going on at the gym, for such incident not occur

    • Just don't.get near my perimeter and say nasty comment. KEEP DIDTANCE only if you're hot... Ok lmao

    • DISTANCE*

    • Only if you're you can come close otherwise DISTANCE

  • I know that I dress to look good at the gym, because when I feel beautiful I work out harder! Unfortunately, this does cause oogling, so I do a lot of my routine in the aerobics room (it's private and very relaxing). Even if I do get annoyed sometimes, I would hate it if I was never looked at. Most of the time it's flattering anyways!

  • This would be a gym I would quit. Can't stare at the pretty women? I get how it can be rude, but I don't agree with telling people they can't look in the direction they want.

    • they dont want to loose women. if these is going on at a high rate, its an issue. That means you aren't to workout, you are trying to pick up. I see ogling different from an glance or stare. Ogling you are looking at them in a i want to fuck you a that can be uncomfortable.

    • I just value a persons freedom of looking where they want over someone controlling other people from looking at them.

    • Ok look at me k

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  • This is quite lazy to say ;you are wearing that is why we stare.
    No, sir you have to stop yourself my your own.

  • The clothing are comfortable. That still doesn't not give you a right to just stare at someone

    • are there any stipulations on what you are able to wear at a gym. I dont think you should be wearing anything that has your ass hanging out

    • as a guy its our birth rate to eye rape someone.. :)

    • No stipulations for women. Funny though guys can't go topless. Do girls realize some yoga pants are practically transparent and we can see thong and cheeks.

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  • I have never felt like I am being eye raped. But I really don`t care if someone looks or stares at me. Eyes are free to wonder.

  • Look but don't touch rolls well with me.
    Honestly, it makes me feel cheap if that's ALL they are willing to do-eye rape me. Like I'm not a person but a sex doll just waiting to be used and abused. It sickens my soul. But that's in the case of extreme harassment and most guys seem to not want to cross that line with women.
    A look of satisfaction doesn't bother me, I usually just smile back/ignore depending on my mood.

    • Amen!

    • Lol, thanks.

  • I Don't give much of a damn what girls think...if I want to look, I'm going to look.

    But I Don't stare.

    • I think that's fair.

    • Females are tasty looking and i like to look! But i genuinely feel staring is disrespectful. :-D

    • But the issue is that "staring " vs "looking " are both qualitative terms.

  • I wear clothes like that to the gym. I really don't mind guys quickly glancing but it's when you get the creepy guy in the corner not working out and his eyes just keep moving up and down your body that I get freaked.***shivers run down spine***
    Practice the 3 second rule guys. :D

  • 'Eye raped' is a bad term. People are always going to stare. I do wear spandex shorts that are meant for running. I don't like wearing pants when I work out haha and I'm not a huge fan of nike running shorts. I prefer not to feel anything while I run! haha. It's honestly just for comfort and sweat. And those shorts make no difference in my lifting.
    As long as they don't say or do anything to me that makes me feel uncomfortable I'm fine. Looks are fine, staring me down for the entire 2 hours or so I'm at the gym is not okay.

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