Do you think we had sex way too soon? He's pulling away I feel like!?

[Cutenshy]

I'll try to be short: met a guy who seems really into me and nicer than all the jerks I usually date. Like, he was really nervous around me/shy! We have gone out on like 7 dates for about a month, sometimes seeing each other twice in a week. I asked him why he liked me and he said bc I am funny, smart, open and honest with who I am, and affectionate. He wanted sex after date three, but I told him I get attached and want it to mean something more. He was fine waiting. Really I should have said only after an exclusive r/s because I have only had sex with two people after losing my virginity last year at 24 years old, so I'm not a "slut," but I let my hormones get the best of me and gave in to sex on our last date. At first he couldn't get it up and kept saying how turned on he was, but after we watched a movie together and cuddled, he got hard and felt guilty by it. But it turned me on and we finally had sex. He was very attentive and wanted to please me. After we cuddled and I wore his shirt, which he liked. During our dates, he tickles me and slow dances with me and asks me personal relationship questions, like would I go on birth control, or do I think it's okay to live together before marriage, etc. So it made me think he liked me, but after sex when he got distant I know feel suspicious. Anyway, on the car ride home, he was very quiet (like in another zone) and the next two days I didn't hear anything form him. But, he did text me today to make sure we were still on for our date this weekend. He also wants to see me on his bday after he has dinner with his family. Before, when he asked, he said that maybe I could come to dinner with him, but we agreed that would be awkward! Anyway, is he pulling away now bc of sex or am I paranoid?

[xxlilly]

I’m so happy for you!
I’m currently in the same position. We had sex on our fifth date together (we’ve been seeing each other for a month and haven’t really talked about what we are).
After we did it he took me out for dinner. I noticed he was a bit awkward and silent and almost in another zone the whole time. We did kiss a little after and he talked about me meeting his friends, but on the way back he said this week will be crazy for him, gave me a kiss on the cheek and said see you soon.

That was last night so I haven’t texted him yet but I guess I’ll wait a couple of days to see what happens.

[Anonymous]

Talk to hjm about your concerns if you feel the need to. But I don't think he's pulling away. He still seems interested!

[pepe81]

I don't think anything is wrong. My wife lost her virginity when she was 23. I was her 8th partner and we had sex after 4th dating in 2 weeks. And we ended up with marriage. I don't think that you had sex soon.

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Does his behavior seem normal? He never really texts me all that much, so it's the same, but I guess I expected something more after we slept together

[pepe81]

I had the same experience with my wife, after first sex. I was really worried, and when I asked her, she said she feels uncomfortable after having sex with a new date. I was having similar feelings sometimes. I think your expectations are high. You might be right with your fear, but time will show the truth

[apropos]

More paranoid than Black Sabbath.

[Anonymous]

He needs the vagina

[Cutenshy]

so you think it's just sex for him? it's so hard to tell...

[Opinion Owner]

How can a guy be "shy" with you and ask for sex on the 3rd date? VERY SOON. Defi wanted to get hia d.ck soaked. He is playing the game real good. It takes time to know someone intention. I know your hormones got the best out if yiu, but you shouldn't let it happen. Think with your brain. Guys can play the game pretty well, and act innocent and string you along. You seem not very much experience

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you're right I'm not very experienced... not sure it matters, but he seemed shy when talking to me, but he wanted sex when we started making out and getting pretty hot and heavy. He didn't ask, it just lead to there and I stopped him and that's when we had "the talk"