Intense sexual cravings for the first time?

[Anonymous]

I'm almost 18, still a virgin. The thing is I've never felt hot for anyone. And when I say anyone I mean both guys and girls. Sure I have sexual cravings, I had them since I was 10. But I've never felt like I wanted someone. This translates to my being almost 18 and never been in a relationship. Suddenly one day while I was sitting around with a guy I've been hanging around for two years whose recently befriended my older brother ( he's 21) and I start noticing things. Soon after I can't keep my eyes of him, I'm picking up his scent even if he has left the room. His scent drives me wild. He smells like laundry detergent and a smell that i just can't place. It's not perfume, it's a sweet male smell I've never smelled on anyone before. We haven't touched each other a lot but hell if the brushing of his fingers to mine doesn't turn me on. I literally feel hungry when I'm near him. I think about him a lot. Whenever I'm thinking of sex -which is often- his face comes to my minds eye. Whenever I try pleasing myself it's him I fantasize doing things to me. I'm overwhelmed. Seeing as I never really cared before I can't know for sure but i think he's into me as well. He always finds excuses to touch me though we haven't reached that level of comfortably touching each other. He's always teasing me, trying to make me smile and he's able to read my soul and always knows what to do to make me feel better. I can't stop thinking of how different he is when we're alone. His half smile, the sound of his voice which gets breathy and raspy, I can even feel his body's heat without him touching me or being too close. And I swear when we're alone he smells more intensely. There is a constant ache one that my stupid body wants him to ease. What the hell do I do with this? How do I tell him I want more? I started seeing him in a different light about 6 months ago and I think a little after that he changed the way he saw me too because he started treating me in a softer way.

[ZXninja636]

Well if it's your first time just tread carefully.

Once you've had that itch satisfied, you'll either go back to your normal self, or completely change by falling in love with him, or something else could happen to you...who knows.

It's one thing to fantasize about having sex with someone, but actually having sex with a person brings those two people close together towards love. But here lies the problem, you both are young as hell, and a boy who is that young, I highly doubt he is going to start thinking about you being in his life for the rest of your lives. He either may feel extreme attraction towards you after the event takes place, or he will have his itch satisfied and keep you on the sidelines until he needs you to scratch is itch again.

It's a scary truth what guys think they feel because they want something so bad and when they get what they want they come to a sudden realization.

If all you're looking for is a FWB, and you want that to be him then go for it. But a lot of people who do the whole friends with benefits thing, 1 side usually struggles hard to keep it NSA.

It's just my 2 cents, this experience could either make you or break you.

But it's your dime, good luck.

[Asker]

No friends with benefits for me. I'm not looking to get married either. Sure I don't want to whore around meaning I'm not planning to bed a football team but I don't fool myself either. I know that 99% your first relationship isn't your last one as well. And no, he's far too good to just have sex with me or anyone for that matter.

[Blondiee2014]

Omg girl get his number and ask him to meet you:)))
God if I new a girl was that into me id be happy to help meet her needs :p

[Asker]

I already have his number. I don't just want sex from him. I want to be with him. I just don't know how to go about letting him know that. Any ideas?

[Blondiee2014]

Text him now say hey,, then go random question I just want your honest answer , what do you think of me? Then see what he says:)) If you have the balls to do it give us a update :p

[Asker]

Oh, I'm sure I don't have the balls for this. Which is odd for me seeing as I'm rarely afraid of something and I'd go to any depths to get what I feel I deserve. Maybe after my finals? God, I'm such a chicken. I feel my heart will fly out of my chest.

[Blondiee2014]

Thing is if you leave it he might get into a relationship, if you text him what's the worst he will say, your really nice and a good friend? Probably the worst he will say right? He won't say anything bad so your only worried because your scared your self to find out the truth, also you can play it off if he's not interested and make up a story how a friend just said something nasty about you and that's why your asking his opinion:)

[Asker]

Aren't you a little devil? We text back and forth. Usually we need to find an excuse to. Like him wishing me good luck or him asking me how I did. Now that i think about it he has instigated most of our texting sessions. I'll put my big girl panties on but after I'm done with my finals which will be two weeks from now. I'll keep you updated.

[Blondiee2014]

So if he's instigating all the time you feel un comfy doing it once? surely just randomly saying hi how's you will be ok considering you never instigated before?:) Good luck with your finals though sweety :p

[Asker]

Well, thank you. You're right I'm just being stupid. Besides he's gentle. Even if he means to let me down he'll be nice about it. I'm a person of my word I've got two weeks of this chicken stuff and then I'll become more involved. Thanks!