I want to tie up my girlfriend, sugestions and opinions wanted.?

[Anonymous]

One of these days after we've been out and returning to my place I will tell my girlfriendI have a surprise for her in my appartment and that I have to blindfold her in order for her to recieve it. Then when we enter the room I'll let her sit down on the bed and tell her I want to play with her, that I'm not going to hurt her and that she has to trust me. After that I'm going to undress her and tie her face up to the bed (still blindfolded. After I've told her that I'm the boss now over her body and that she cannot come without my permission or she gets a punishment I'm going to rub some "Durex Tingle" (this is a special lube that gives a subtle warm tingling sensation after a while) onto her p*ssy and nipples. And then I'm going start kissing and caressing her very slowly and softly all over her body avoiding her breasts and p*ssy. No and then I'll stop to tease her with an ice cube or a feather (more teasing sugestions?) or to spray some whipped cream on her breasts and belly to lick it of and kiss her while it is still in my mouth. After witch I will continue kissing and carassing her more intensly again avoiding her p*ussy and breasts but getting closer so she can feel my breath on them. When I notice she's getting really horny I'm going to tell her she can always beg me to go down on her. So after she begged me enough I'm going to make her come without my permission on purpose, so I can punish her. My idea for the punishment is tickling the bottom of her feet, each foot for 20 seconds, and she will have to count. If she makes a mistake counting I start again from one. After that we start all over again, kissing, caressing, teasing,... This time when I eat her out in the end I'll go mutch slower but giving her permission to come after she asked me 3 times or so. Then I untie her take of her blindfold, and make love to her very closely and slowly, really intense. I would like to know your opinions about this (especialy girls) and maybe some sugestions?

[Anonymous]

Are you into BDSM?
If that's what you're into, why not just tell your girlfriend upfront? There are kinky people who aren't extreme sexual sadists, or masochists. Or so I've heard. This should be talked about. Especially if you in fact are quite sadistic and punishment without pain won't enough for you in the long run, but you just haven't told her that yet.

I don't know if surprising her like this is a good idea, or not. To me it doesn't sound so hot because I just read it quickly, but it would probably be very hot in practice.
Non verbal communication, and surprises with instructions sound like a fun and a sexy way to get your needs across, but a bit of talking never killed anyone. =)

[Asker]

No, I'm not into BDSM, I'm donig this because I think my girlfriend would like it. Because I've heard that a lot of girls like to be dominated once in a while. The fact that I want to keep it a surprise for her, and not talk to her about it is because I think it will be mutch more exciting to her

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I'm sure it would be more exciting like this. And you're right, women do like being dominated even if they're not into BDSM. I think BDSM is just an extreme part of the spectrum, explaining the natures that exist inside everyone. BDSM people just need to take that power distribution to the extreme, while the rest of us are easily excited without the need for the power distribution to be all-or-nothing.

[Anonymous]

As long as she knows what you are "playing" and she consents to it. Even in S&M, the partners tell each other what they like and what they don't want to do (and there is a key word or signal to show that she/he wants to stop). Otherwise, it could be rape.

But what you are suggesting is fine as long as you tell her that you are going to tie her up. I'm sure she will enjoy it. I like the tickling as punishment.

[Asker]

Thanks for your comment! Forgot to mention th stop word, I'm planning on that. I'm planning on giving her 3 stop words: yellow; meaning continue what you're doing but softer/less intense, orange; stop the single thing you are doing now and red: completely stop and untie me. Maybe you are right about telling her that I'm going to tie her up, I'll tell her when she's sitting blindfolded on the bed.

[Anonymous]

I think you should write a novel. I really really do, it could be called "Fifty more shades of grey."

[Asker]

Hmmm, did I make you horny? :p What's your opinion on the tickling punishment? Do or Don't?

[Anonymous]

tickling the bottom of her feet... wtf? no no no. everything's great except for this. not even sexy

[Asker]

OK thanks, this is the kind of comments I need, do you have any other sugestion for a punishment then? Or should I just drop the whole punishment thing?

[Opinion Owner]

as for me i'd prefer deepthroat, you can count as well. if she can't do it long enough then let her breathe for a while and start again