Brother walked in on me and my bf?

[Anonymous]

I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19. We have been having sex for about a month and yesterday we were alone in my boyfriends apartment and things got heated which lead to making out etc. we went to my boyfriends bedroom and he was on top of me and I was naked ( him still clothed) when my older brother walks in to see my bf feeling my boobs and assss and me feeling him up pretty much. I feel humiliated that my brother has seen me like that. My boyfriend covered me and my brother flipped out and grabbed my boyfriend and pushed him against the wall and started screaming "that's my little sister wtf?". He and my boyfriend are friends which makes this more difficult. They have been friends since they were 10. I don't know what to do. My brother thinks that my bf pushed me into it but he didn't! I mean why was my brother there in the first place? I've been with my bf for 2 years so I'm not a slut. Need more help?

[stubbsy]

Your brother needs to take a step back and realise that he is no longer the only man in your life, and although his protective instinct is welcome, he needs to allow you to do your own things and understand that your going to with or without his permission, because seriously, has he not experimented with his own relationships? so just tell him to back off, keep his nose out of your relationshiup and just be a brother, not some control freak who thinks he owns you, x

[Directanswer3]

Difficult situation but he will get over it and he knows about your relationship. You are his sister so knowing you have sex and seeing u r 2different things. Give it some time... he will realize after this reverent that you are an adult that makes her own choices it's just the live thing... happened to me and I got over it

[findingdreamland]

Yeah between bros there is a code, you can't fuck your bros sister. And your bf has broke the rule.
Your brother is quite right to be angry but you have to find a middle way between them. Tell the the story that you have been dating with him for two year. He should know that it didn't happen just out of a blue. He will get more angry probab because you were hiding it but anyway there is always some consequences of our actions. He needs some time to calm down.

[RPGamer]

This is the answer.

[Mesonfielde]

No it's not, that's stupid and people need to grow the f*** up. Their parents had sex too, so do they, so what's the deal because I sure don't see it.

[SammieeHarris]

makes it very hard...if your brother respects you then he won't feel the need to get into it...it's only because your boyfriend is his bestfriend...id say that you should tell your brother to respect you and stay out of your relationship...What more can you do? nothing but that

[Dcosse]

Oh god. Well honestly your brother can't get that pissed since he knew of the relationship. He probably knew you guys were having sex, just seeing it made it real for him. He's just going to have to deal with it.

[zombiebabe]

its normal for him to be there..its his friends appartment...you should have gone to fuck in a different location

[Asker]

so, my boyfriend can't have sex with his girlfriend in his own apartment? that makes no sense. haha

[zombiebabe]

that's why most girl don't date their bro's friend

[Asker]

My brother encouraged the situation because he trusted his friend to treat me right. haha

[Mesonfielde]

That's why people's brothers aren't insane little dweebs who think they have the right to control the sexual life of their siblings.

[zombiebabe]

i agree

[truthbeknown]

You are still a minor, it is your brother's job to protect you until you are an adult!

[Ryan_Fostec]

He's trying to cover for you, he does care for you and would rather take the bullet then you to get it but really your screwed it will be really awkward now and either you get over it and move on like nothing happened or it just gets worse

[Red_Arrow]

Your brother is being protective of his little sister.

But the question remains: why did he walk into your boyfriend's apartment and into his bedroom?

[apropos]

And this, boys and girls, is why we always lock the door.

[serp777]

Your boyfriend is a statutory rapist. No joke, he could easily go to jail and probably deserves it for fucking underage girls.

[Dcosse]

They started being together when he was 17 so honestly who gives a fuck. As long as she approves, the age isn't too great, and her family is okay with it then it's fine

[serp777]

The law gives a fuck im pretty sure, but hey, this is just coming from a guy who wouldn't dare fuck underage girls.

[kelly173815]

Actually depending on what county they are from it could be fine - the legal age for sex in Australia is 16

[Mesonfielde]

In Hungary, the age of consent is 14...

[serp777]

most people on this website live in the United States. It's not an unreasonable assumption.

[roxygirlskier]

I think that is just how older brother's act instinctively. Did he not know you were dating? I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel... and tell him that you're an adult and you made an adult decision that he should respect b/c he is your brother... and if he has a problem w/ you dating his friend he should talk to you first.

[Mesonfielde]

Your brother is crazy and he should get his controlling behavior in check.

[Mesonfielde]

He does not own you nor your vagina, so he can pipe the f*** down.

[findingdreamland]

Yeah i agree he doesn't own her vagina but this situation is not about vagina. I would be mad too if he was just wanting to control her behaviors. This sth between friends. Her brother probably felt betrayed. You have sister? Or a niece?

[Mesonfielde]

Betrayed? It's none of my concern. My brother used to date my sister's friend, it was perfectly okay. If the feelings are sincere, who the f*** do you think you are to disagree? Also, why even feel "betrayed", did HE want to have sex with her or something? If she was a mutual romantic interest, that would be betrayal. This here is just an example of extreme controlling behavior.

[Mesonfielde]

She even said that they've been together for 2 years. He doesn't have the proper rights to be ANGRY for ANYTHING that occured. Therefore I stand by my statement.

[mammaof4]

Not as bad as it could have been I have been there before except I had a kid at 15 with ny brothers best friend ur brother will get over it give him time

[Metal189]

ur 17 and having sex with a 19 year old? yikes...

[heather970]

Maybe they're planning for that and everything is fake but they make it real in front of you 😔

[apropos]

Yeah, because lots of guys plan fake situations that involve seeing their sister naked.

[heather970]

I know 💔 One of my best friends told me about something like that 😔

[Asker]

I doubt my brother would be like that.

[heather970]

You don't know boys honey 🍯 🌼 they have their ways in everything 🌼 🌼

[Asker]

Um if it was my bf's friend then that could happen. But he is my biological brother and would never do that, ever.

[heather970]

Try to fix everything between them and try to explain everything to your brother 🌼😔

[aretilda]

I think that it's one big misunderstanding, why did your brother feel the need to get violent? Did you try to explain? Both you and your bf consented it so I don't see what the big deal is.

Your brother is in the wrong here.

[cajun]

Thats quite emabarasing situation and now try to accept facts and keep your spiritis high

good luck..

[NovemberJoseph]

This is why you NEVER date your brother's friends!!!

[zombiebabe]

so true

[Asker]

My brother didn't mind at the time haha. He liked that he knew the guy hahahha

[Asker]

by at the time i mean at the beginning of the relationship :)

[NovemberJoseph]

When they don't mind, they just act like that cause if they say something it'll get awkward!! Trust me!! A while ago my friend started messaging my sister and immediately I got mad!! I didn't tell him though, cause he was nice enough to ask for my permission. Even though in my mind I was like NO BITCH WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU SHE'S MY LITTLE SISTER!! I still said fine. My sister rejected him though so I got lucky lol.

[Mesonfielde]

Dude, that's not your concern, wtf? Do you hate and mistrust your friends this much? Do you seriously think you own your sister's life? Who do you think you are?

[NovemberJoseph]

Obviously you don't have a little sister that's around your age lol

[DoctorFeelgood]

For most men/women it would be an emotionally traumatic to walk in on a brother/sister and catch them in flagrante delicto.

Neither of you will ever likely forget. Perhaps both of you can eventually deal rationally with it,

[TheNewClassic]

I actually feel sorry that their friendship might end...

Try and forget about it, your brother should too. Its normal that a couple has sex lol

[CharlotteGrxce]

It's a brother and bro code thing :)

[PhiOmega]

Ur brother KNOWS ur boyfriend, and how he is with girls, better than u do, that's enough to piss of a big bro when he sees his man whore friend on his little sis

[htguywhowntsu]

he needs to get over it

[MNrunner]

Why is your brother walking into his buddy's apartment? Was the door not locked?