Is it good or bad when a guy cums fast during sex?

[kaybebe]

So I've been sleeping with this guy, we've been friends with benefits for a few months now. When he used to talk about his sexual experiences, he said that he usually takes a while to cum. The quickest he's ever came was 20 minutes. His, then, girlfriend and I were friends at the time and she confirmed that he always took a while. But when I sleep with him he takes maybe 5 minutes. Is this good or bad? Am I doing something wrong or what?

[Theguyoverthere]

Depends on many many many many things.

First off, if he doesn't jerk off and doesn't have sex, he can comes... really fast.

You also gotta factor in positions and such. Sometimes in certain positions mixed in with the pace of the sex can have a factor.

Also, whether or not he's just looking to cum is probably the biggest thing. If he's really not into you and just wants to get one off, he can possibly just insert and go for whatever stimulation makes it happen the fastest.

[kaybebe]

That's true. That could be it.

[meowcow]

Sometimes, a girl's technique makes a big difference. I've had ex-gfs who used to get me to cum within 5 minutes or less. They did a particular hip thrust while on top, that didn't make me last long.

One girl make me orgasm 3 times in 5 minutes, and it was the only time in my life that happened.

Current girl is not athletic and doesn't have very smooth moves. She gets me off in 20 mins +

[kittykatg]

As long as it's mutually satisfying it doesn't matter the time it takes.

[linds34]

I can cum in 5 minutes so it wouldn't bother me.

[cudaboy]

Some doors are tight some are loose. The tighter the door the faster the climax

[Tractorbeam]

It's not good for you, so he needs lessons.He should be more considerate, and try harder.

It could be that you're so hot that he gets too excited, but he should get better with practice.

[Annymous8]

How long hasn't he had sexual contact before you?

[kaybebe]

That's hard to say. Maybe a month? If that :S I think.

[Annymous8]

He probably cums fast now because he hadn't had a girl's touch in that time.

[UlsterScot]

You are probably doing something right. You are exciting to him. If you are able to come from intercourse, have him bring you off or too the edge before he mounts up. That way, you will have your orgasm and his quick trigger won't matter.

[UlsterScot]

Bring you off orally or bu hand...

[YoungBlackMan]

You and your friend having sex with the same guy is just weird. Plain. Weird.

[kaybebe]

I can see that, depending how close you and that friend are though

[YoungBlackMan]

lol, friends fucking the same person. Sounds desperate to me.

[kaybebe]

How, cuz maybe we were into each other? Dumb ass.

[YoungBlackMan]

nah because you can't get your own dude because you feel like you can't attract a man solo. So someone gots to get sloppy seconds.

[kaybebe]

Awwe, are you so touchy cuz maybe it happened to you? Poor baby, grow up, you'll find someone who can stand you :)

[YoungBlackMan]

Um, no? . . . .can you not try another lame attempt at psychoanalysis.

[kaybebe]

I think it's safe to say, I don't know you, and you don't know me, so stop assuming about each others lives and move on and stop talking. Awesome? Yeah.. Geez.

[YoungBlackMan]

I dont need to know you personally because your not unique. I can infer a lot by the situation your in, and experience I've had with other girls. Their all the same when it came to them being in your exact situation.. I doubt that you are somehow different from all of them.

[kaybebe]

Then my "lame attempt at psychoanalysis" is definitely correct. No one is unique anymore. No one can be their own person cuz people like you judge them for one little thing. Yup. I slept with her ex cuz she did with mine, not ex at the time either. Not like it hurt her at all. But it did me. And we had fun so we continued doing so. I don't see the problem with it. No, you don't know anyones life, so quit judging people like you're fucking God.

[YoungBlackMan]

Yea i am gonna judge. Why is it such a bad stigma to judge people? Im not God, but im definitely better than a lot of people, and I shouldn't have to feel ashamed for telling the truth like it is. Im athletic, have good friends, came from nothing, now in college, have great people skills, I've done a lot of things. So yea, I do think I can judge your life choices, sorry for being blunt. Sorry you can't handle realness.

[kaybebe]

That's not all that impressive. You think you're the only one who has went to college and came from nothing? And the only bad choice I have made is sleeping with a friends' ex? Really? I'm proud of myself, too. I have done nothing wrong. Why do I care about your background, you aren't anything to me. I'm better than a lot of people to, I just don't go around like "You're dirty for doing this", "You're a slut", "You're desperate". It's not the truth, you don't know anything about me so you can't tell me what is true or not. Congratulations, you've accomplished what a few million or even billion have. Go you. Like, can you seriously just fuck off?

[YoungBlackMan]

Fine, go fuck your friends bf's then if thats what you want. won't judge.

[mrf284212]

I probably should't get involved with this but I'm starting to feel its my thing. Why is it weird to have sex with the same person as a friend? If I have sex with a girl, then become friends with a random guy that I later find out had sex with her too; Should I stop having sex with her? Should I stop being friends with him? If I'm friends with the guy before I have sex with her, will the answers be different? What if someone believed in soul mates. And your emotions are telling you that your soul mate is someone your friend had sex with. What is that person to do? Weird? I don't think that word is an insult but it seems you are using it as one. And to answer the actual question, I never had sex so idk. I don't think you could be doing something wrong unless your hurting him. You should probably ask him if he thinks you should do something different and you can tell him if you think he should do something different for you.

[YoungBlackMan]

"If I have sex with a girl, then become friends with a random guy that I later" Stop right there. Your changing up the scenario.

[kaybebe]

But you don't even know the whole situation either dude, I knew him first before they even dated.

[mrf284212]

I had another scenario after the one you said I changed. Did you not read that far? I was basically just giving a frame of reference though. In order for me to understand a situation I sometimes need other situations to compare it to. So then there is a 3rd scenario where I know the girl and guy that had sex and I have sex with the girl. We can add in new scenarios for lengths of time of knowing them before sex if you want. I still have the same questions. I'm curious if the answers differ.

[ledfoot64]

some guys do cum in 5 minutes or less sometimes it takes me 30 minutes before I cum in my wife when that happens she has lots of orgasms and so do i

[kaybebe]

That's true.

[ledfoot64]

I love making love to a woman and both of us are naked in bed or on the couch and just cuddle so we can do it all over again

[kaybebe]

Awwe that's cute ^-^

[ledfoot64]

ty and that is a feeling that I can not explain cause it is so great

[NoblesseOblige]

It's because you're new. When he gets bored, he'll last longer.

[kaybebe]

Probably. Thanks for the honesty!

[NoblesseOblige]

no problemo :)

[Anonymous]

I think its a great thing.

[Anonymous]

Could be he's just really into you. Is is a problem for you guys? If you want him to go longer then cool off and go for round two or have him clear the pipes before you get intimate.

[kaybebe]

No, there's no problem with it. I was just hoping I wasn't like... Doing something wrong or whatever, you know?

[Opinion Owner]

no problem then don't worry about it. you're fine, he's fine!

[kaybebe]

Thanks :)