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My guy is obsessed with seeing my asshole. Is this normal?

Yeah, I know it's only gay if it's a guy's asshole he wants to see but I am starting to wonder. He loves me bending over on all fours with his head by my ass and me spreading my cheeks while I play with myself. He also goes on and on about how flat chested women with no curves are sexier. I'm not one of these women, I have a good shape, work out but am more of a Scarlett Johansen figure - definitely hourglass. He doesn't like my ass or hips. Or even my breasts which guys usually tell me are awesome. I used to be quite confident in bed - lights on, make a bit of noise, spontaneous and now I'm so self-conscious it's taking away from the experience. I'm never going to be one of those stick thin girls. And when I tell him I don't want to be, he says I'm lying. How do I cope with this? Our sex life is really good but his comments about my body are getting me down. I'm honestly not fat (happy to share a faceless photo if you need proof) and I don't know what to do.
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I guess I'm starting to wonder if he's gay? Or does he just not find me attractive?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • 1. It isn't necessary that a guy who has an asshole fetish is necessarily gay else he'd be with a guy and not a girl. BUT he may not know he's gay or refuses to accept it as yet :)
    2. If he likes skinny women he would have gone in for one or just that he didn't find one who likes him enough
    3. Maybe he's just trying to control you by making you feel lousy about yourself by saying / doing things he does
    4. His comments are a scene of bother than anything else. Shows him as low self esteem and/or his requirement to make you feel bad about yourself believing you will do more to probably please him or become something that is unattractive to other men - his insecurity :)
    5. Pic not required for sure :)

    • Thank you, young lady for your kind and thoughtful gesture of selecting my opinion the MH :) I appreciate your gesture :)

  • Well not really normal I'd say but not to unusual either as far as being obsessed with your b hole.

    To be honest I get the impression he's a bit of a paraphile. Possibly could even have homosexual tendency that he either doesn't recognize yet or doesn't want to admit. Just my observations based on what you said.

    • So I just had to look up 'paraphile' on google -is it just a sexual deviant? And yeah I wonder if he is gay… I don't want to sound like 'He's not attracted to me so he MUST be gay' but it is all a bit odd. He asked ME out as well. It's not even like I had to persuade him to date me. Men are becoming as confusing as women by the day haha!

    • Paraphile are people with atypical sexual interests. Its a long list. So yes a sexual deviant of sorts. Having a paraphilia is really common. One of my best friends dated a guy for a year and had a kid with him. Turned out he was gay after all that. Not un heard of by any means. Yes guys are weird and confusing lol

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  • He is either manipulative or telling u the truth. If you don't enjoy him company and he makes you insecure u should leave him. Your partner should be there to support you not belittle you.

  • I know some guys that are ass lovers. He isn't gay for wanting to see your butt hole.
    Just let him lick it as then you'll change your mind... It feels so goooooood

    • Oh and if he doesn't like your body then dump him! I'm sure you're pretty and if this loser can't see that and tries to make you feel bad then it's time for another man.

    • Thanks, good advice. I'm not saying I'm a Megan Fox lookalike or anything but I definitely didn't think I was as ugly as he seems to think! Makes you question yourself which is never good. And he came onto me which is even weirder! I dunno. Odd.

    • Dude I know exactly what you mean. I was with a guy that he would always say something really offensive and then wonder why I was mad and hurt. It was emotional abuse and finally I got sick of it. There's other guys tht find me sexy so he can go fck off.

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  • It sounds like you might need to be asking yourself if he will be bursting from the closet sometime soon... Not to sound mean at all but I've never heard a guy be into these types of things and us guys share lol

  • Yea that definitely seems strange of him oh wow , i like to have a girl spread her pussy lips and sit on my face let me eat her out i like hairy pussy

    • I'm most definitely not into any asshole

  • Nothing wrong with him loving your asshole.
    But he needs to appreciate the rest of your beautiful body as well. Tell him to stop being an ass before it's too late :)

  • I love girls assholes. They can be very beautiful. They're websites devoted to assholes and you are right there is nothing gay about diving face first into a sexy girls rosebud.

  • His obsession aside, I'm surprised you're with a guy who doesn't like your body type. We've all got a "perfect" body type to look for, but usually never bring it up. The fact that he does bring it up is a problem. Not a problem with you though, me and many on my buddies love the body type you described yourself as. So you have nothing to feel self conscious about.

  • He basicly is acting like a big ass.

    • That made me smile, thanks :)

    • I'm glad I made you smile, also I agree a lot with what teasgirl said, besides the thing with asshole! ugh xD

  • Iunno, that sounds weird. I love a woman's ass, but I like the hour glass shape and curves too. I have no desire for my women to be flat chested and stick thin. If he won't stop with the comments about your body, then just dump him. That's a deal breaker in my book. If a girl constantly ridiculed my body in bed, we'd be done.

  • Scarlett johansson figure is great.
    I dont know how similar you are to her.
    I too like asshole but not more tha pussy.
    I love normal sized boobs but a flat chest is a big no.

    There is something wrong with him if you are not fat.

    • I probably have her figure and her lips but that's about it. And thank you for the support :)

    • Aahh then you are a trat. Hahaha Be confident and happy.

    • Trat= treat

  • His attraction to your asshole isn't a cause for concern-but flat and no curves is

  • Because it can be a beautiful thing and he finds yours beautiful

  • Nothing about what you wrote here indicates that he is gay. Lots of guys love women's assholes. I'm one of them and I don't have a gay bone in my body. BUT, what he says to you about your body shape (and liking more skinny girls better) is VERY uncool. He sounds like an asshole himself and you deserve better.

    FWIW, I much prefer your body shape.

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