I feel it wouldn't be unreasonable, for you not to fully want this...is this something that you genuinely want for her, or are you solely going along with it to please your wife? Because there is a difference and that difference, may cost you your marriage.
This should be carefully considered, love. Honestly.0 0 0 0Hey Mgoods... thanks for your advice and what seems genuine concern... I really want her to fulfill her fantasy if that is what she wants. I dont get possesive or jealous, which is why we have been together so long, she goes on holiday by herself with others... and goes out often with her gf's and work mates... each time she comes home I make love to her, then we might have some wild sex whilst talking through our fantasy... so I am sure all will be well... thanks again for advise, and must say if that is your profile pic, you are very beautiful... tc... Joe
No worries, love. You seem so very unsure, whatever the case may be- don't act on your decision until you are certain this is something you can cope with- or in the very least, bounce back from if it all goes tits up. You sound like a very loving and considerate partner, I hope you figure things out! Ha, that's me. Cheers :)
Thanks, if you were closer I would give you a big hug, but the pond between us is quite a large one...lol... so here is a big virtual HUG just for you... great advice M...joe
If you are ok with the idea and it sounds as if you are then go for it and urge her on. If I were in your shoes I'd look for a nearby SWINGERS CLUB and do the hook up there. It can lead to some very intense sex for both you and her.
0 0 0 1Thanks katie, great advice, you ever gone black, is your advice from experiance?
LOL! I've basically only dated black men from age 14 and now at 30 married to a wonderful black man I met 5 years ago. He is a native of Tortola employed in the banking business and after several years of long distance dating and his persistence with his company to move him to there facility in Tampa where we were married over Memorial weekend here in the states. For a long time I found the swinger lifestyle fun and very easy to find a black man who would jump at the idea of having a white girl partner for the evening. I resisted relationships for a very long time just having casual hook ups with local blacks and their friends, some that got very raunchy from time to time. I got to witness a good many couples such as you and your wife and can tell you the hubby was almost as turned on as the wife was as she was having sex with a black man. Some it was a first time experience and for others it was what they looked for.
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8 3Do you want her to? I wouldn't if I were you, especially coupled with her weight loss - you could be looking at a brand new lady with a brand new set of rules; I've lost weight, therefore I am attractive to other men now, my husband wants me to sleep with other men/is ok with me sleeping with other men, why shouldn't I enjoy the attention and screw other guys...I would really avoid this if I were you, threesomes are trouble if you aren't 100% jealousy free and have 150% trust.
0 1 0 0well I helped her lose the weight, and the goal was if I really wanted her to try it for real then we had to work to this goal together, which we have, we make love deeply, the sex is different wen we fantasise it is raw and uncontrolled lust, so it just sex with astranger, who might become a friend, after all a friend is a stranger we have not yet met... thanks for your advice please feel free to comment further.. Joe
If you're ok with it then sure go for it! If you guys are open about threesomes then do it. Just set some rules before just to make sure no one oversteps the line (if there's one)
If you have any doubt about it then don't do it. Don't let it happen when not sure because there's no going back after you've seen your wife with another man.
Good luck.0 0 0 1Hey tease, thanks for advise , is this from experiance , you done the interracial thing? I just want my wife to be fulfilled and happy, and, we feel sex is a big part of lifes fulfilment.. love is a different thing, that is waht we have, sex is just that sex. thanks again,
No I think it should just be a fantasy
0 1 0 0may I ask you to elaborate a little please, we have a very strong loving relationship and, both feel we can cope with the sex... this is not a love affair ( ours is ) its just a stranger for sex..
It sounds like you have already made up your mind so not sure why you want me to elaborate
I\we, have sort of made our mind up, yes, but we are open to advice from people who have a valid comment, and, we welcome all, your reply just seemed like you maybe had more insight than your short reply, so just wondered why you thought it should be left as a fantasy... Have you had a similar experiance that went bad? or know someone who did and it di, we really appreciate your advice and dont dismiss it out of hand. so thanks again for your reply, and if you do know a good reason why not to go forward please let us know, even if it is just your opinion, what do you think the pitfalls might be? cheers Joe
If you dont think you will have jealousy problems, I think you should support her since this was a goal all along! Its something she wants! But if you do think you'd be jealous, you should be open with her nd tell her plainly how you feel. Then figure things out from there.
0 1 0 1She worked hard to get the weight off. She should get the reward. If you went along with the notion you can really back out now without looking like a dick. Let her have her fun. I had a similar fantasy. It was amazing and fun to live it out
0 1 0 0Do you really want to see your wife with another man? I think that should be between a husband and wife. It could cause problems down the road.
1 0 0 0I wouldn't do that, it sounds twisted. My dad had a white couple ask him into doing the same idea and he was mad. I also heard of a similar story of a black man being asked this question. Basically it's lustful to me
0 0 0 0Don’t be a cuck. Just don’t.
0 0 0 0I wouldn't, it would just further complicate the relationship.
0 1 0 0Your marriage means that only you and her can make love, and no one else. That is a gift that should only be shared with one person: your spouse. No matter what the world says, that is what is true, and many people can agree with it, whether or not you practice it.
0 1 1 1I agree, we do make love, our fantasy's are about lustful sex, do you still think this is not a good idea, thanks for your advice.
you should support here but hey I could be biased. good luck
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