He doesn't tell me when he cums or show any emotion during blowjobs or sex.?

[Anonymous]

i can usually tell when he does because he isn't as hard but he doesn't show any facial expression make any noises or anything he just keeps going. it might sound weird but im used to it being pretty obvious. Im not saying he should scream it out but a little something would make me feel like he is at least enjoying it. He really doesn't seem to show much emotion during sex at all i have no idea what he likes becasue of this so i dont know if im even pleasing him. The only comment i have ever gotten was " god damn that was amazing" once then no emotion or sign of enjoyment. Would you say im being ridiculous about this/ i just feel like i could do so much better with some reactions to work with.

[3gmoney3]

So, for most guys, the first experience of sexual pleasure comes from masturbating. The problem with that is that masturbation is linked to guilt. Sometimes that guilt comes from peers (e.g., If you masturbate, it means you are a loser who can't get a girl) and sometimes that guilt comes from family (masturbation is sinful, masturbation is disgusting, etc.). What it means is that a lot of boys are torn between 24/7 horniness and the feeling that what they are doing is shameful. Because of that, they're not really big on drawing any attention to their sexual pleasure. True story- I know a guy who, well into his twenties and living hundreds of miles away from his family, still instinctively panics if he hears someone in his apartment hallway while he's masturbating because of his experiences trying to hide it from his mother.

That is all to say, he's probably not going to just start making noises because he's probably trained himself not to. But, you're in luck: There's this innovative new device called "conversation." Through the clever use of vocal sounds, you can communicate your feelings to your boyfriend with no extra equipment needed!

Seriously, talk to him (not when you're having sex, but maybe after sex). Tell him you want to make him feel good (believe me, he'll be on board with that), but you need feedback. And tell him you find it sexy when he moans a little and expresses pleasure. If he knows he's turning you on while he does it, it will encourage him.

[Asker]

conversation? non sense! lol Though thank you i just dont want him to feel like im trying to nag or bring him down like he is doing something wrong, because its just really hard to know if what your doing is satisfying when you look at someones face and all you get is closed eyes and a blank stare lol

[3gmoney3]

I totally understand that. You definitely don't want to feel like you're criticizing him. That's why, if you put it in the context of "I find it really hot when you make noise to let me know that I'm doing something good," rather than "Why don't you ever do this?" it will be a lot more effective.

[Mgoods]

I don't know why men are like this, they have no clue how much of a turn on, them being vocal or expressive, is.

If a woman acted I'm this way during sex, you'd have a rubbish time.

You simply need to talk to him and express everything you've said on here. Ask him what the issue is?
Don't try and force him to be more reactionary, it might be uncomfortable for him. Try to reach a happy compromise if that is the case.

[Mgoods]

*in this way

[KimmyB]

That is weirddd, but I've had more than a couple guys not say anything when they cum and I'm like, wondering if they're even enjoying it like right up until they cum. I'd say just like, talk to him and let him know that it's easier for u if u know what he enjoys and stuff so that way he'll have motivation to actually tell u or show appreciate at least :o)

[zombiebabe]

boys are not good at showing emotions

[Asker]

more like a reaction is what im wanting.