It's your insecurities that are making you think that it's your job to take care of every single sexual need your girlfriend has, and it's kinda ridiculous to take it personally when a girl touches herself. Any extra pleasure that she can derive during sex, whether from herself, or her fingers, or your fingers, or a gag in her mouth… what ever… is a good thing.
Worrying about whether you're being disrespected is such an immature ego response. Develop a little empathy and modesty and you'll realize that not everything in this world is about you.
Uggg.
This is correct.
I never said it was all about me and maybe your right It might just be and ego thing. But I like giving girls pleasure in any one way shape or form but I look at it as I'm not the one doing it she is and then it turns me off
Think of it like this... you're sharing sexy times together. It's not about taking over someone's experience, it's about sharing. That's how people have web cam sex... they share the experience without trying to own the experience, know what I mean? Trust me, when a girl is touching herself and she's thinking of you, that's a total win! :D
Disrespect? WTF, that's just ridiculous. I'm happy to have a girl diddle herself at any point during a sexual encounter and I always find it a big turn on. Sorry bro, I just don't get the "disrespect" thing at all.
Very few women can orgasm from anal penetration alone, but the orgasms they get from the combination of clitoral stimulation and getting buttfucked can be outrageous, or so I've been told by several women who have had my dick in their ass.
Ok like I said I'm not speaking about every guy maybe I'm alone
Very few women can get off with penetration alone so she's helping you get her to that level and she probably likes playing with herself during sex.. If it bugs you so much why don't You play with her while doing anal? Because I can guarantee what your doing alone is not fully satisfying. And I know a lot of female friends would agree. She's not disrespecting you but yeah maybe you aren't pleasuring her enough. This is why you need to communicate with her and ask her how She likes it or what you are lacking/can improve on
Yea we talk a lot but I never said anything about it cause it does bug me enough that I'm going to stop having sex but it does tweek a nerve so I'll try and bring it up to her and see what she says
Communication is key in any relationship. Especially How you communicate. I'm sure she would understand and help solve the problem :) In the future though talk to her about it and be specific. You can't just ask "was it good?" When you really mean "does -this- satisfy you enough, if not what can I do to improve that?" Never be afraid to ask questions. My man used to all the time and now he knows exactly how I like it and I exactly what he likes. Anyway I hoped this was helpful! :)
Yea your right and thanks
Even girls that enjoy anal would agree that it's mostly not enough to get off alone. Anal is different from vaginal sex, it's not supposed to make you orgasm. It's not fully satisfying.
For those less experienced it may also be to distract from the uncomfortableness.
And well you don't always do it that well either, especially if you're already focusing on having sex elsewhere. Likley on of those actions is going to suffer. She knows what she likes, so it's much easier, especially if she's new to anal
Ok you got me there but it still bugs me
well try vaginal sex then
We do both and she dose it there to but just not as often so it doesn't bother me as much
We don't have prostates like men do and it doesn't feel as good, most women get off from Clint stimulation only and can't even orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. Sure just ask you say but plenty of men whine that the man is doing all the work while the woman is just taking it and if you don't tell her to ask you to do stuff for her how is she going to know you're one of the few men willing to help her orgasm instead of being a selfish taker like everyone else?
I guess makes sense but I don't mind doing all the work and maybe your right and I should bring it up next time
Just tell her before you get started that it turns you on to give her complete pleasure so if she wants something touching or rubbed tell you and you'll be happy to do it, I think she would really appreciate the sentiment and think you're a really caring guy.
Thanks for the info
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Yea I might just do that
Because you're just not cutting it ;)
Lol jk it's because we have more than one body part. Sure you're probably doing wonders to her actual vagina but while doing this her clit gets no action and that's our sexual penetration. But I mean really we always do that whether you're giving oral vaginal anal or fingering. You can't be everyone at once so let us help you (well ourselves) out.
I know that how it feels but if it where true she wouldn't come back for more
Lol I was just kidding... The fact of the matter is let's say you're in her then your hands can't be on her clit. Let's say you're doing oral or fingering her then she has no boob action. If anal then the vagina and the clitt are left out. And another reason is WTF are we supposed to do during this just sit there and moan and not take part?
It might be the only way she can have an orgasm. It's hard to come from penetration alone for most girls. Plus it just adds to the sensation anyways, and it's even hotter if the guy plays around with her as he's doing his thing.
And yeah if it's anal there's less sensation down there for her. Just reach around and touch her yourself without asking.
That the way I feel about all she needs is to ask instead of doing
Stop thinking of it as 'you can't do it right'
Try thinking of it as 'you're driving her so wild she can't keep her fingers off her clit'
Sound better?
Thanks lol
It's good you're offering to do it. I don't have anal with my wife but I do rub her clit in some positions and sometimes she rubs it. I wouldn't say it's necessary less hot if I do it. I think sometimes she'd rather do it while I grab her hips or hold her by her hair or neck. Either of you can rub her clit. She can't manhandle herself too well.
Because anal isn't exactly pleasurable. I refuse to do it, thankfully my boyfriend doesn't find it appealing. But I can tell you that even though I love having sex with him I still need the stimulation else where. We use a cock ring or he uses a viborator on me. Maybe you should try that.
Maybe a Viborator but not a cock ring but thanks for the advice
because there isn't as much pleasure from anal for us. and we wanna cum too
why don't you play with us? we wouldn't be having this problem if sex for you wasn't so one sided
It's not one for me I already said I would do it in a heartbeat if she said it made her feel better
isn't that obvious?
If it's so obvious why don't she ask me then
Because she wants to cum.
Then ask me to do it instead
why should she need to ask? if you aren't doing it then she's going to take it into her own hands
I guess that's true maybe I should just take the anishtive and do it for her
It doesn't bother me at all. Anything to enhance the pleasure we both get is fair game if you ask me, and if anything me seeing her masturbate while I'm giving her anal would probably just turn me on even more.
To get off, anal feels good but can't cum that way
So then why not ask me to do it then instead
Because I don't want to interrupt your thrusting motions.
I would brather that then the other
Because you have it in the wrong hole.
Because there isn't any stimulation to females from anal. It can feel uncomfortable and even awful and most chicks just do it so the guy is happy.
Sometimes it's harder for the guy to do a reach around when he's using his hands for balance. Also, a lot of guys rub you too roughly when they're feeling dominant. Let the girl enjoy sex too - it's not all about you.
I'm trying to make it as pleasurable as possible for her that why I'm asking why she doing it so that I could do it for her and make her feel better cause the happer she the happer I am
Sounds like she enjoys what she's doing :) There's no shame in a woman helping herself along during sex. We know that it's more complex for us to get off, so we don't mind because hitting the right spots in the right way can be hard to explain. You should feel good that she felt open enough with you to do that instead of just pretending to be interested. Don't mess up that trust with a big ego.
Your right maybe it is just an ego thing
Because it makes it feel better for her
Then why not ask me to do it then
Maybe she prefers to do it herself, she thinks it'll turn you on, she just doesn't think about it etc. You need to ask her if you wanna know
I don't do anal so I'm not one of those girls you have to worry about playing with herself
Why not it's a lot of fun when done right
If you like pushing poop I don't judge whatever floats your boat
I think the majority of guys probably think it's a turn on to watch a girl touch herself. FYI anal provides very little pleasure and maybe she was trying to get to orgasm while you were doing it.
But if that's the case why not ask for me to do it then instead of doing it her self
I think watching a playing with is a turn on if where not doing it get me wrong but during sex no I can't believe any guy would get turned on by that
Mine does.
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