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I still wanna be friends with my friends with benefits but without the benefits, he's acting weird?

i really like this guy. were good friends before, then we decided to be friends with benefits we agreed that we gonna be honest with each other. i know he goes out with other people, buy i dont say or do anything about it. but everytime he finds out im talking someone, we would stop seeing each other, then if he finds out im not talking to that guy anymore. were back again as fwb. its always been like that. time comes i catched feeling, not sure if he did. i told him, he just didn't say anything, after a while he said he can't do anything about it. im guessing he doesn't want to take the steps farther so i decided, if ever i meet someone interesting, i would not tell him. since lately he's not updating me about the girls he is seeing. and i know he doesn't want a relationship with me. then i started to date my other friend and i can see him as a potential bf, and im starting to care for this guy too. then he asked me, if im meeting someone else right now, i just told him he's not suppose to know. that kinda surprise him co usually i gave him my honest answers. he just said ok few days after my friend im seeing asked me to be his gf my friends with benefits started to act cold, im like okay. though deep inside im bit bothered. then one day he finally let me know he's seeing someone else right now. i told him oh i see, its ok i jut currently just got in a relationship right now he was surprised. then he said im happy for you. and said he still want to remain friends i said ok then one day, he bombared me with text. asking about my bf. then he said make sure my bf intentions are real. told him i know he is real and he loves me. then he saw our picture on Facebook he texted me nice picture i asked him what picture, he didn't reply then im trying to reach out as a friend but he makes me feel that he doesn't want to talk to me
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  • He isn't your friend. He is selfish in that only he can see others but not you. He doesn't care if you are happy but wants you to help him be happy. Anyone that might take that away from him by making you happy he will try to get you to leave them. You sound like his side tail that no one else can be happy with. Which means he doesn't want a relationship with you. Just wants sex with you when he doesn't get it from another girl and wants you available for booty call anytime.

  • My guess is that he probably only wanted the benefits, and not so much the friendship.

    Or maybe he had sex with you, and can't go back to just being friends (with no more benefits).

    Either way, it sounds like it's time to let him go and focus on the new relationship.

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  • the big question is that if you think your hotter than his ex's and how long the relationship lasted, cause this guy is just looking for sex, and maybe his gf broke up with him, so just dont talk to him there's no going back

  • I personally think it is impossible to be just friends after sex. Why do girls always want this? Don't you think it would be awkward and difficult? Either keep banging him or drop all contact, end of story.

    • My sentiments exactly. Once I've had sex, there's no turning back.

    • I agree. I don't have sex with just anyone so if I did, I already have some feelings so its kinda a moot point anyway. But yeah friends with benefits are way too complicated and even most people that do this, I have realized don't even understand it. I see so many friends with benefits relationships on here and she says "my friends with benefits is talking to other girls, is he having sex with them, boo hoo?" Wtf isn't that the whole effing point if fwb, not to be tied down? I don't get how people think. Or maybe that is the problem, they don't.

  • This is exactly why friends with benefits doesn't work. It's way too complicated.

  • Why do you care.. Forget about him.. He is just a fwb.. Not interested in anything but sex… move on..

  • when he doesn;t care... why do you have to... may be he is taking you granted coz you are caring for him...
    let him know your worth and then he shall realize your value and come back... you just do what you feel is right with the other guy...

  • I think you should forget him

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