I think my boyfriend wants me to touch him down there but I don't know how?

[Anonymous]

So I'm 19 and just found my first boyfriend ever. I'm obviously a virgin and just had my first kiss 2 weeks ago. He knows this but he likes to touch me and I like it, and he asked if I would ever do it to him he said not now but when I'm ready? And I didn't really answer bc I feel so weird about it and don't really know what to do? The other night he kinda moved my hand on top of his penis over his clothes and everything and just guided it up and down him was that ok or am I supposed to do more like squeeze or press/push on it? Like I'm so stupid and confused... Also I'm very OCD about a lot of things and this is one of them. I know I won't get pregnant from him fingering me or me touching him over his clothes but later when I go home I start over thinking the whole thing and start freaking out. I made him wash his hands before he touched me so I know it's fine. He also knows about me freaking out after and he is really nice and try's to clam me down and tell me that everything's fine. How can I stop doing this bc I feel like eventually he will get sick of it and run from me. And when we are kissing he likes to push and rub his body up against me and I have to keep constantly looking down and making sure his pants are on! Like I'm a total freak! Please help me

[losergirl66]

Just explore.. use spit or lube on his dick so you don't pull on his skin. Put your hand around him like you're holding a bottle and move it up and down in a circular motion. Alternate between pressures and speed so it's not boring. Show him that you're into it any you'll be good. He will teach you how he likes it. Don't be scared. As for the ocd have you seen a therapist?

[Anonymous]

I feel your culture does not allow all this physical intimacy and you are doing this stuff going against the culture and traditions of your country shame on girls who bring shame to their own country just to copy western views and become a slu* . Such a shame

[jacquesvol]

Let him guide you: no guy expects a virgin girl to be a pro