I'd want to know. My gf was sexually assaulted before our relationship, and the guy got away with it (tried in court and everything). It changed how I approached our relationship, both emotionally and sexually.
It's definitely something I would be very careful about mentioning, though. It made me want to protect my gf even more, but I'm not sure every guy would take this news the same way.2 0 0 0My longtime Gf was raped at 16, was a virgin. Got pregnant from it, but miscarried. She told me about it early on, and I was not put off by it. Yeah it messed her up, but I was supportive of her. I dated her for 12 years.
Everybody takes it differently, I can't say if you should tell or not, just it worked out in my situation.
I wish some guys weren't such a^holes.0 0 0 0
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For me I've told my partners if the topic ever came up or the conversation suited. I find it a load off my chest and it makes it easier for me to be more intimate with my partner, not to mention if he looks down upon me then I know he's not good for me so it's a good filter of accepting men. I would want to know if my boyfriend was sexually abused/raped if it happened to him.
0 0 0 0If he doesn't love you or stay with you after you tell him, he's not worth it. A good guy wouldn't look at you differently.
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0 10Yes, I would want to know everything my girl has been through. if you did not tell me it would hurt if I found out about it some other way. I would also be totally open with her about my past, even though it's cost me relationships.
1 1 0 0Wow that's horrible.
Yes I would want to know this. Have always had the talks with previous partners and felt this was healthy. Gives us some insight about each others lives.0 0 0 0Never hide something like that, you must be open. BUT it is not something to flaunt around.
0 0 0 0Very much I'd want to know, if it was becoming serious. It would help make sense of the trust issues and sex issues a lot of rape victims have to deal with.
0 0 0 0Yes, I think you should do it for yourself more than anything. It's your duty to protect your partner, physically, mentally and emotionally. If he isn't willing to listen, he probably doesn't deserve to date you.
0 0 0 0hiding some truth sometimes is wiser by far. you tell any guys about it, they start to feel bad, no man likes to be with a girl who has been raped by other guys, that just does not feel good. even if he is a great guy and love you, this news story just upsets him. it also might weaken the trust he puts in u
0 0 1 0How would it weaken the trust?
it weakens it as we just consider our girl as a person who can be again owned by other man, whether by rape or not
if i like a girl, i really care for her. if she was raped once this could leave some scars in the girls psyche and i would want to treat her right so that she is comfortable with me. i think in order to do that, i would need to know this about her. i wouldn´t think bad of her, i would just be more carefull with her.
0 0 0 0Tell him. I don't see how it could hurt.
0 0 0 0Yeah I would want to know. sorry that happened
0 0 0 0How did it happen?
0 0 0 0He and I had been dating for about three weeks. We were hanging out at one of his friend's apartment after we'd all gone out together, and they'd gone to bed. He was drinking a lot. He started kissing me, then when I told him to stop he argued with me, then just didn't stop. He pushed me down on the bed, my arms he twisted under me. I was wearing a skirt, so it didn't take tons of effort.
No panties?
Underwear*?
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