Guys: do you test a girl by sexting her?

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Met a guy through fb a week ago we never met and we texted normally back and forth and he always texted me first and we decided to meet in couple of days.. I find him really cute and attractive. one night he sent me his pic in boxers with a little boner and instead of me getting mad I kept going with the flow talking dirty to him.. Next day he came online on whatsapp and never texted me so I texted him he never replied he saw my message and he's still ignoring me it's been 4 days since we talked.. Was he testing me? Does he think I talk to every guy like that?

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mshaker Explorer
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Well first off you, what lead you him to just send you a random pic of him in his boxers?

Secondly, I will tell you right now, if the topic wasn't about sex or anything then he just might only be looking for that, especially if he has a boner in the picture... I can understand if he sent you a pic of himself for you to see what he looks like that second. But sending a pic in his boxers normally is an indication that he is inviting you into his personal life. Especially with a boner. Aka going to bed with you, would you like this? Now you reciprocated from what you said im guesing you kept the "sexting" going. Cause that's what he started. As for him not replying to you, maybe he has another girl he's talking too, or maybe he is busy. Point is, just relax don't keep texting him, just chill out lol and if he is truly interested he will reply to you. If not, don't get hurt over it, cause nothing happened in the first place. LOL So just chill, im sure everything will work out the way its supposed to.
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- Asker
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  Well he did ask me if I talked to other guys like this and I said jokingly all the time.. So do u think he thinks I am a slut that talks to every guy like this? I never do this.. I just did so that he doesn't feel weird and stop talking to me.. I doubt he has a gf.. Was he testing me? And I just feel so insulted right after he said I am hard really hard he stopped talking to me next day I even msgd him saying I felt very guilty and bad and he never replied
- Asker
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  And before him sending me a pic I told him tht it's too soon to talk like this and then he said he respects that. Then I asked for a normal pic and he is like I have a provocative one I asked how provocative and he said shirtless but he sends this! I was so shocked and he was like what do u think I just said u have a good body he was like tell me more don't hold back.. And it was all dirty talk after that and last thing he said was I am hard really hard and since then he's ignoring me.. Now did I seem like a slut to him? Or is he testing me? Is he ever gonna message me again?
CoCoBoy85 Xper 4
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First off, sexting like that was a bad idea. He was being creepy if you didn't give him a reason to send such a photo. He was trying to see if he could get in your pants quickly. It's typical of guys who are trying to score and don't care about women. My advice: go ahead and block him. He's a user.
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- Asker
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  No I asked him for a normal pic and he said I have a provocative one so I asked him how provocative he said shirtless and he sent me a pic like that.. So I actually asked for it but then I wasn't expecting a pic like tht honestly! And I didn't wanted to talk dirty but I thought he might lose interest in me...:( either way he did I guess..
- CoCoBoy85
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  OK, that makes more sense. BTW, you're worth more than sexual talk. Never forget that. IF any guys looses interest bc you don't sext, he wasn't worth your time to begin with. Since you asked this guy for the photo and had some idea of what you were getting, he may not be a user or creepy. Clearly, he wanted to send THAT photo, tho. So, be careful. Just say HI today or tomorrow and see if he answers. If he goes straight back to sexting, block him and move on to a real man.
- Asker
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  He's ignoring me straight up.. I doubt that he will reply to me.. Was he testing me by sending that pic? Does he think I talk to every guy like that? And now he doesn't want me anymore coz I came off as easy?
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- CoCoBoy85
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  I kinda doubt he was testing you. Most guys aren't that deep in their thinking. On the contrary, he wanted you to look at his crotch. Nothing more... except to see yours maybe. If you didn't send a sexting pic back, he might have moved on. Either way, not your lose.

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wannabeintellectual Xper 5
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Men play games, to me it seems like its more often than women.
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- Asker
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  So he thinks I am a slut who talks like that to every guy?
- wannabeintellectual
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  not necessarily. I mean maybe it was a test, but it could also be him trying to play hard to get. Which guys sometimes do. Maybe he wants you to think he's not that into you. Or maybe he started talking to an ex again. I guess it's just like a lesson that I recently learned: acting promiscuous doesn't necessarily keep guys. Some of them, they play game and mess with your head deliberately to get as far as they can get out of a girl who doesn't go far. If he thought it was your capacity than maybe? I don't know
- Asker
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  You are right.. I have never talked to any guy like that specially not that soon ! And before talking dirty I even told him we shouldn't talk like this and he said he respects that and he sent me his pic after few mins and that's how it all started! This is driving me Insane! I thought maybe if I keep going he would be interested more and I won't be boring to him..

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MadeInAmerica Guru
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It could have been a test. We all test our mates at times. My gf hates it at times haha. I would have thought you passed the test. I think the ignoring is more of a test than anything else.
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- Asker
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  I passed the test? He's straight up ignoring me! How's that a pass? It's been 4 days and still haven't heard from him.. When is he gonna reply to me again?
- MadeInAmerica
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  I'm saying the talking to him dirty about being in his boxers if that was a test you passed I think. As for him ignoring you guys do that, maybe he is seeing if your needy or not who knows. Text him again if you want then after that if he doesn't reply fuck'em.
- Asker
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  I already texted him twice in two days last week! He hasn't got back yet.. I feel very insulted specially after talkin like that with him and him not replying to me... I feel very ashamed!
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- MadeInAmerica
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  I wouldn't feel ashamed 98 percent of us would have enjoyed the dirty talk. Its cruel to ignore someone for days he should at least tell you why he is being a jerk or just say he doesn't want to talk to you anymore. I wouldn't text him just forget about him.
- Asker
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  Yeah but don't u think it's too soon to talk like that? We haven't even met in person! But it's bothering me like crazy he's being a total jerk seriously! Ahhhh ur right I am not gonna this is very insulting especially me being a girl talking like that and not hearing from him after!
- MadeInAmerica
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  I don't think it's too soon. Dirty talk is just another form of flirting. He should have been flattered. I would have been. Its too bad he is being like that because now you will be insecure about talking dirty or letting yourself loose since this happen which is a shame.
- Asker
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  Yeah now I am never gonna talk to a guy like that until I am in a solid relationship with him and see it going somewhere! I feel so insulted and guilty right now and that jerk is not even bothering to reply back.. Is he ever gonna? Is he playing another test on me? Should I just forget and make a move? by the way when we were starting to talk dirty he asked me how many guys have I talked like this and jokingly I said plenty I don't know if he took that seriously and thinks I am a bad girl or something?
- MadeInAmerica
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  He seems slow if he didn't get the joke. I would pay him anymore of your time I do think eventually he will reply back and when he does IGNORE him.
- Asker
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  i even told him we shouldn't talk he kept insisting not to hold back.. yeah i will def ignore him now! i feel like shit.. i dont want any more of that guilty feeling! its better to move on from a person that makes you feel like this!
BCRanger10 Master
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No. I prefer to "test" (if we can even call it that) by talking to a girl, getting to know her as a person, asking her out, and then taking her to dinner and spending time with her.
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- Asker
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  so he thinks i am a slut that talks dirty to every guy? coz he did ask me have i talked like this with other guys.. i jokingly said all the time! so I don't know if he took that seriously... his last words were i am hard really hard.. lol and after that i msgd him next day he read my message and never replied... so what do you think is going on at this point? its been 4 days since i heard back from him.. do u think he will message me?
MattSX Xper 5
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maybe he's testing your interest, to make sure that you're not the one using him. keep trying to make contact with him anyway by whatsapp or fb, and find a way to meet him once and for all. if he stops talking to ya, well he was definitely just wantin a bit of sexting. nothing more lol
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- Asker
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  i tried first two days he's straight up ignoring me! he keeps coming online changing his status and pic on whatsapp but is not bothering to reply at all!
- MattSX
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  wow, what a asshole :/ ya definitely should do the same thing, and star ignore him. must be some other guy looking to someone like ya dear
BertMacklinFBI Master
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its possible. maybe he's doing the ignore you for awhile test too lol.
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- Asker
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  Why would guys do that? I have texted him two times in two days he read both messages and never replied. He has updated his whatsapp pic and status but is not bothering to reply back. Was he testing me? Is he ever gonna talk?
- Asker
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  And what is ignore me for a while test? Lol this is driving me nuts!
- BrianG123
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  He's trying to drive you nuts.
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- BertMacklinFBI
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  well he doesn't want to come off as clingy because guys have done this before where they give the girl all the attention she ever wanted and then things get too easy, she gets over confident and thinks she can do way better.
- BertMacklinFBI
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  he's basically taming you for him, you can think of it that way.
- Asker
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  No that night I talked really dirty and the last thing he said was I am hard really hard and after that I never heard from him.. Does he think I am a slut that talks to every guy like that? We have mutual friends and I asked one of my close friends about him she said he's a very decent guy.. Don't just hook up for fun
- Asker
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  Loll taming me? What am I a wild animal? Well when is he gonna start talking to me again?
- BertMacklinFBI
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  yeah that's actually possible:P if he is that guy who wants a really nice girl who is like also a good girl then you could've just screwed yourself:P its best if you come out clean and just say you talked dirty because you didn't know what he wanted really and I didn't want to scare him off by not talking dirty hahaa. I mean only if you can't fix it any other way.
- Asker
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  I did say that I felt bad and guilty for talking like that in my text the next day.. He ignored it completely
- BertMacklinFBI
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  nothing you can do but wait at this point. you might just annoy him if you're persistent.
- Asker
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  How long do I need to wait? Lol how long would you take to message back for a situation like this?
- BertMacklinFBI
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  ok so hypothetically I wanted a really nice and goody good girl and all of sudden she started talking dirty to me because I initiated it by sending a dirty pic of myself and she had already explained her actions? hmm well first I would think that im the douche here after she explains herself and I wouldn't ignore her so I can't really put myself in his shoes. maybe he's got issues lol. give it no longer than 10 days
- Asker
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  Yeah you are right fine I'll just wait it out here.. I think it's too soon to test someone without even meeting them.. Well for the pic I asked for it coz I asked him for a normal pic and he kept saying I have a provocative one so I asked him how provocative he said shirtless and i said it's fine but I wasn't expecting a boner in boxers pic.. I was shocked to see it.. The next day I texted him saying I am sorry for asking for the pic I feel bad and guilty.. So is it my fault now?
- BertMacklinFBI
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  no its not your fault. you asked for a normal pic and he wanted to go for the hail mary lol. you shouldn't feel bad in this situation. if anything, it's his loss cause he is being a douche:P
- Asker
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  Seriously! I really don't know what to think anymore of this situation. I think I came out like a slut to him.. :(
- BertMacklinFBI
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  if he sees it that way he's just immature and close minded. hahaha just from talking to you I already know you're better than that so what does that tell you about him? hahaha. not trying to make him sound bad though cause you kinda like him;)
- Asker
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  Haha thanks but I don't think i like him anymore it's more of a turn off honestly for him pulling this thing! The only thing that's bothering me is why isn't he replying back.. That's all I think if I have my answer I wouldn't care anymore lol he's mind fucking me really bad!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  hahahaa don't you hate it when guys mind fuck you? see for me I don't know how that feels cause the girls just say it if they have to say something to me hahaa. you'll start getting used to the no reply back fiasco and then maybe you'll get fed up and meet a really nice guy that you totally adorbs! and he treats you perfect and you couldn't be happier and you laugh at all the guys who like to mind fuck girls cause they waste their time and potential hahaaxD
- Asker
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  Yeah well some girls do that but I think it's easier for guys than for girls! I think the thing that drive girls crazy is ignoring her texts or calls! You have no idea I just cannot stop thinking about this and what went wrong! Lol what's that one thing that drives men crazy? I just wanna know!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  dude its the same shit hahahaa! what drives you crazy also drives us crazy. I actually think that's why some guys don't reply back for awhile, they want to spite the girl or something because they get super butt hurt and need to look like everythings fine hahaa. that's why I prefer to be straight sometimes and it totally works! but yeah guys can't stop thinking about it either, have you seen all the GaG posts from dudes that are inexperienced and asking for advice? lawlz. and they suffer the same way hahaaa.
- Asker
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  Lol you're hilarious! I did not know that! Maybe I should've just ignored him right when he sent me that pic It should have been a slap to his face ! Seriously I like to be straight up too ! I hate playing games! It's all bs! So is this guy ever coming back? I haven't hurt him at all! If anything I have only boosted up his ego! Lol
- BertMacklinFBI
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  hahah okay like its a definite possibility about the ego boost and he's probably feeling like he's top dog. if you ignored him from the start you would've totally crushed his self esteem and overall confidence! lmao! wish you did that first hahaa. there's a chance he will come back but that's only if he still is interested in you. if not then he might come back for booty calls only. pfft being straight is what its all about yo! xD
- Asker
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  Yeah you are probably right! Damn I regret replying back to his pic! Lol oh well watever I guess I'll just wait for few more days and do u think I should text him next week and call it quits if he doesn't reply back? Or just leave it like this until I hear back from him?
- BertMacklinFBI
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  if he doesn't reply back after like 10 days then don't even bother. just take that as a "fuck you":P no offense hahaa. and move on. i'll tell you what will go through his mind though if you don't ever talk to him again, he'll think you really didn't care and maybe he's not as good as he thought he was and kinda feel like shit or he isn't even worthy of your time to get a check up text lol. or both. the one thing that will be bothering him is why the fuck isn't she at least getting back to me after this long? why? its gonna eat at him trust me hahaa. and it may crush his ego so bad he may be too scared to contact you again, possibly. hahaa but yeah at least you know more from this experience:D crush him!
- Asker
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  omg haha you crack me up! i will def do that i am not gonna message him now! he already mind fucked me enough now its his turn to get mind fucked!! gosh i wanna crush his ego! he thinks he's the hottest shit on planet with that body of his! i overly boosted him that day i shouldn't have! i feel so stupid! so just ignore him to make him feel like shit? what if he doesn't even care anymore? maybe talking to 10 other girls? and i was just one of them:( lol
- BertMacklinFBI
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  hahaa okay well yeah its possible you could've just been 1 of his victims but the best thing to do still would be to ignore him. you don't wanna feed him in any way hahaa. you shouldn't feel stupid a lot of girls go through this exact thing sadly and then I hear all about it on GaG hahaaa! if he doesn't care then he doesn't care but im highly doubting that because you said he is that decent good guy even though he thinks he's hot shit lol. he's just setting himself up to failure though yet he will never realize it hahaa.
- Asker
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  hahah yeah i think he was liking my constant attention because i rmr when he sent me that picc of his i was so surprised i went offline on whatsapp and did not log in for like next 3 mins he was like omg what happenedd... what are you thinking.. lol then i messaged him after that! i shouldn't havee! yeah let me wait it out on this.. i hope he does reply back though!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  I actually have a hunch that he might reply back hahahaa. I don't think he's that cold but I was just assuming worse case scenario hahaa. see! you got him freaking out! you have all the power! you just need to learn how to harness it! xD
- Asker
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  Thanks for comforting me.. lol i really doubt that i have the balls in my court.. right now him not replying back is driving me nuts but then again he has all the balls! lol its just i have never talked to sucha weird ass guy who is acting so gay! maybe he's gay.. i think ill go with that! ROFL
- BertMacklinFBI
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  bahahaa! now you're cracking me up! dude he could be so ghey!! xD hahaa the balls aren't in your court or his. I have the balls:D you're the normal one here, he is the weird ass piece of shit:P hahaaa!
- Asker
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  he's ballless:o gosh you're hilarious! seriously if he cannot find a girl talking dirty to him attractive then he's definitely gay for not texting back! i should message him and be like dude are you gay or you too busy talking to other guys? LOL
- BertMacklinFBI
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  hahahaa! okay that might actually be a good one! you can definitely get a response out of him with that opener! just be like "are you gay or just weird as shit?" and then when he asks why just be like cause you don't respond like a normal guy, matter of fact you didn't respond at all:P hahaaa then he will be talking to you fosho. he's gotta prove himself hahaa.
- Asker
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  that will def question his manhood! no but honestly i dont wanna keep playing games.. i hate that.. i think ill just leave it at this.. if he wants to reply he will otherwise there are too many fish in the sea! ill see it as his loss.. he tested me way too early when he was the one sending me his dirty pic! i just did so he doesn't be awkwarded out and feel embarrassed later that i did not reciprocated back! but oh well its his loss!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  hahaa. totally his loss! and I respect you for not playing the games:) respect:D see you're totally better than he isxD ya I agree way too many fish in the sea, my nets are always getting full:P bahahaa.
- Asker
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  lollll i am literally rofl reading your messages! man i think i know your trick of getting your nets full! you're a smooth talker! lol by the way you need to give me some tips on how to get my nets full too!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  dude you already figured me out hahaa. im a charmer but im true with my intentions, THATS what makes me different than the other dicks out there hahaa. well first of all just be yourself! always keep a open mind but don't succumb to anything you don't want to. and never go out trying to aim for a goal like getting a BF. don't even think about the end result! just go out with no goal and your best intentions and do what you do best. be yourself and your goal will find you.
- Asker
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  awwww thats what i actually want to do! but with this dick i thought i could keep him interested by going with the flow and not having my guard up! my mistake! but ya i like straight forward guys like you maybe i wish there were more like you out there!:( lol your nets are overflowing at this point i bet;) LMAO
- BertMacklinFBI
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  hahahaa you know whats funny you're not the first to say thatxD hahaa you talk snappy sometimes i like it! makes me lawlz:D i need a bigger net:P bahahahaaa!!!
- Asker
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  so he never got back to me.. its been a week almost! :( this is so messed up! its pissing me off!!!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  omg! hey but wait, you still have 3-4 more days of waiting left. hahaa. I feel how pissed off you are! vent to me! share it with me! xD
- Asker
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  oh my god! i feel like killing this guy!!! :(( so annoying! lol what am i gonna do after 3-4 days? i think its done for good... dont you think so?
- BertMacklinFBI
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  if he's playing the game too he's probably dying right now thinking the same thing you are hahaa. so I would wait a little more. but if he doesn't care then you know, same thing still, you just keep ignoring him and go on about your awesome! life!!! xD and then you can kill him later:P hahaajk!
- Asker
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  lol then that means none of us will ever talk to each other:( i hate playing games!!! i doubt he's dying.. he kept coming online on whatsapp the second day of him ignoring me tried to show as if he was talking to some other girl then now he barely comes online on whatsapp.. so idk.. what do you think?
- BertMacklinFBI
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  it honestly could be planned out, depending on how obsessed he is with the current situation LOL. I've known guys to do this shit all the time its not rare. if they really can't get over it then they will make like a fucking master plan or some shit:P and stick to it to see if they can get what they want. but regardless, waiting is still the way to go imo:D
- Asker
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  fine i will wait for 3-4 more days if not then we need to come up with a masterplan!!! lol and you're helping me with this!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  hahaa! dude that's awesome! we will come up with a master plan fosho! xD
- Asker
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  alright i am depending on you for this! you better start thinking what to do already! lol
- BertMacklinFBI
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  bahahahaa ill come up with somethingxD
- Asker
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  hahah dont dissapoint me ! lol
- BertMacklinFBI
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  pfft. now you're putting unwanted pressure on me:P hahaa! xD
- Asker
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  Yeah he never got back! Let's initiate plan B! Lol did u come Up with something?
- BertMacklinFBI
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  hahaa. no i was waiting to hear back from ya:D hmm...
- BertMacklinFBI
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  well we can establish a plan after we go through how you feel towards him and the situation. and be honest!:D
- Asker
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  I think I am over it already! I could careless but I still want him to message me without me talking to him! Lol
- BertMacklinFBI
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  d00d i know how you feel:P im gonna be brutally honest, i was texting this girl and i totally left her hanging on purpose:P she sent the last text, i read it and now its been 4 days. hahaa, i wasn't trying to pull a dick move though i just didn't want to continue the convo. plus she got reeally bland on that last message:P ok but i think im getting off topic here now hahaa. well im really glad you're over it and how you still feel afterwards is totally normal:P just talk to me instead ill always respond:D
- Asker
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  So he texted me day before yday sayin hey please give me a chance to explain! He's going crazy msgng and calling me so like last night I replied saying dude I really didn't care about you not replying to me.. It was a big ass slap to his face he still is going crazy and keeps on texting and calling me lolll he sounds like a psycho!!! Why did he come back now?
- BertMacklinFBI
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  OMG HAHAHAA!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  YES!!! ignoring him worked! see you got him by the balls now! you played his gay mind games right back on him! and won!
- BertMacklinFBI
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  he's coming back now because he can't take it anymore. he really probably did feel something for you but is a fucking fool for trying to play games with you because he has NOO IDEAA that you're talking to a genius like me ;) bahhahaaa! so now he's just in desperation mode hahahaa.
- BertMacklinFBI
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  you totally came out of this as the winner! you came out of this like "oh you actually liked me? bruh... we're just friends..." hahaha!
BigJames123 Xper 3
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Nah I don't test a girl ever like that
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Anonymous
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I never even thought of testing a girl by sexting her. If a girl sexted me I wouldn't assume she does it with every guy, but likely does with some guys, even if it is just the guys she likes. He might be embarrassed or maybe he was just using you to get off, and is now done with you. I suspect he was just using you as a little fun, and now is worried you want more, so is avoiding you.
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- Asker
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  I want more than sexting? Lol he already told me that he wants to see me and if things workout he want to be in a relationship with me...
- Opinion Owner
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  Then it may be that he is embarrassed.
- Asker
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  so will he ever message me again? or should i conclude that its done for good?
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- Opinion Owner
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  He most likely will in the future. Unless he has some serious issues I doubt he has written you off forever.
- Asker
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  yeah i doubt he's embarrassed coz i did initiate talking to him after that night.. i texted him 2 msgs in two days.. so yeah