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Boyfriend suddenly wants anal. Is he cheating? Why the sudden interest?

I've known him for about 7 years and been together for about 4. The whole time I knew him, he always said he didn't like anal, had never done it and thinks it's for gay men only. Suddenly, for the past few months he's been expressing an interest, which I just find weird. I asked him why would he suddenly and drastically change his mind, and he said it's just that when he's behind me while we're having sex it just looks good and he's been wanting to ask for ages but was scared of how I'd react. Does his reason for the sudden interest sound feasible, or has he just been somewhere else learning new tricks?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • If he's never done it I would think curiosity is at hand. It could be something he's seen in P*rnography and gradually warmed up to and now wants to experience for himself. The view is most excellent for a guy also which plays a huge role in it.

    Also we always hear of how good it feels so we eventually want to experience it for ourselves. After so many years this is something that would be new and exciting for him. The slightly taboo nature makes this seem very appealing as well.

    Now, for what he told you in the past. My observations is that he was simply trying to keep your approval of him and therefore told you what he thought you wanted to hear. This helps avoid rejection for most people.

    In the end, I wouldn't think this means he's been cheating on you or that you should be concerned. If there are other things going on that you haven't mentioned I believe that could possibly change my opinion. This however I don't feel has any cause for concern

  • Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. If you want to be sodomized, go for it. If you need tips on how to make it better, message me.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Hmm, that's a tough one.
    Have there been any other signs that he may be cheating on you?
    If not, maybe you're reading too much into this, people change. Nothing wrong with expressing an interest in trying something new.

  • He's probably been watching p*rn behind your back. If you don't wanna do it, just do what I do. Walk in with donning a strap on and say, "I don't believe in double standards."

  • It's probably from him growing bored of your usual sex, and watching p*rn.

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  • He might feel comfortable to explore this darker part of his sexual desire with you now. Don't worry. I don't think he has cheated/is cheating from what you've given here.

  • sounds like he's just curious about trying it. find out if he wants you to play with his butt too.

  • He's probably curious, him seeing it all the time maybe has him wondering why not. Best advice, use lots of lube, no condom, apparently it hurts a bit over time with a condom. And of course don't go from anal to vaginal EVER, hygiene reasons.

  • Lol he probably watched p*rn involving anal

  • He is fudge packing another man behind your back.

  • It doesn't sound like he is cheating. Usually in long term relationships partners start to want to explore more sexually because they feel more comfortable around them

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