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Should I let my boyfriend have anal sex with me?

My boyfriend has asked my before but I didn't really give much of a response, truth be told I've always wanted to try it but I've always been a little reserved about the idea, I've heard bad and good things about it from people, some say it hurts and some say it's good.. apparently it feels really 'dirty' which I'd consider a good thing ;) I have tried anal beads down there, using a whole lotta lube. I've also heard that you have to 'clean everything out' if you know what I mean. So yeah.. is it good or not?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • If you have used anal beads before you will most likely like it. The stretching sensation and feeling of fullness will feel very nice. Plus the excitement and naughtiness factor of being penetrated in such a personal area will make you excited and horny. (I'm Bi and have given and received anal before don't hate please).

    It feels like waves of pleasure all throughout the pelvic area and genitals. You may experience a slight discomfort or burning sensation when its going in. But have him go slow and first and hold it still in there for a minute or two and then take some deep breathes and your muscles will relax then you will want him to go faster. Whatever discomfort you may feel will only enhance the insane pleasure you get. The pelvic muscles hold a lot of tension in most people and you will feel very deep pleasurable contractions in your most sensitive areas in your crotch when you orgasm while your butthole is being stretched.

    As far as cleaning everything out. Enemas are not necessary in my opinion. Just drink LOTS of water a few hours before hand to clear out your stomach and intestines. It will clear everything out nicely and keep you hydrated.

    Try a spoonful of Mineral oil too mixed with some juice or whatever drink you prefer, it helps you go to the bathroom and will lubricate your intestines nicely.

    Its cheap too and can be bought over the counter and doesn't have the harmful effects of harsh laxatives.

    • Also trying rubbing your clit or masturbating a little while he is putting it in, it will help you be horny and relaxed and will take the sting off the initial burn of penetration.

    • Thanks for MH. Good luck and enjoy yourself. New sensations can be very satisfying.

  • The choice is of course yours and yours alone but with your permission, I'd like to in part set the record straight. If you decide to try it, I suggest you make him promise to let you completely control the initial penetration. Spoon works best for me. Use a little lube--you don't need a ton if you use a good one for anal. Astroglide gel works very well and is widely available. Place him against you and press back with firm, constant pressure while relaxing and breathing. Pushing back a bit, like you going to the bathroom, helps. He needs to lay perfectly still until you tell him otherwise. Take your time; there's no hurry. Once he's fully in, slowly slip him out and do it again. It'll be much easier the second time. Once you're adjusted to it, pay attention to what you needed to do for it to work. When you're ready, he can start with very short, very slow strokes, moving more as you adjust.

    The women I've been with have all loved it. I'm an inveterate sodomite and we did it, a lot.

    You don't need an enema unless you just want to to be sure you're squeaky clean. Going to the bathroom good first is sufficient. If your stomach is upset, wait until it's quiet.

    I hope you enjoy it. I'm confident you will.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think you should try it. My boyfriend and I are working up to it. I recommend buying some more toys like anal plugs, not just the beads. Just so you're not as tight, and it makes it a little more fun even for vaginal sex if you're using the plugs at the same time it makes a difference.

  • I've done it a lot and never have grown to like it, but if your bf is trustworthy, give it a shot. I know a few women who really like it. Make sure you get some reach around action! Arousal decreases awareness of pain.

  • You should clean it out down there if you want it to feel good and make the guy wear a condom so your man doesn't get a UTI. Use so much lube, to the point where it isn't funny. Water based only with condoms.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • If you're comfortable with it, then do it. Its your body :)

  • Eh... I wouldn't. First off, what's so cool about having a dick dipped in shit? It goes everywhere and stuff, but if you like this stuff, you might also wanna check the dirty sanchez style.

  • I think the odds are pretty good you'll like it if done properly. Many women do not. However given that you 'always wanted to try' and have done anal play, you're more likely than most to be in the large minority who likes it.

    Keep your reservations, go slow, lots of communication, lots of lube, experiment slowly, if its not working, stop and do something else, and then try with a different approach again.

  • Well if you want to. Excessive anal sex may cause problems. I mean there are of course risks, but if you want to do it do it.

  • Go for it if you're into that. Different people like different things.

  • you don't have to clean everything out, though it usually makes you more comfortable.

    Some girls like anal a lot, most do not, though. If you are curious about it, the only way to find out is to try. Relaxation is the most important part, though. Some of the muscles around the anal cavity are involuntary, and if you are tense they will not relax easily - trying to penetrate a tense ass feels great to the guy, sure, but the girl will hurt. In other words, it is usually the expectation that it will hurt that causes it to hurt. Don't expect it to hurt, and it won't, as long as the two of you are patient about it.

    I've also found that the best time to start anal sex is immediately after you have had an orgasm by other means, with some anal play beforehand. And the best position for anal is spooning.

  • You have to try it & see. You seem open to the idea so go for it.

  • Its totally up to you.. but if you interested and he's interested, i think you should try it.

  • You should just go for it to try it, even if you don't like it at least you'll know and plenty of girls have worried v about it but after doing it have enjoyed it. Just "clean" yourself before.

  • Be sure to use a shoe horn the first time you try it with your boyfriend.

  • yaaaakhh! it sound so dirty anal, hey don't clean everthing out it will work as a lubricant hahahahaha :p

  • Do it only if your ready, also make sure you want your first time to be with him. As long as he's careful and willing to do foreplay, it will be good. Pain only happens if there's not much lube and he goes too fast.

  • My girlfriend and i tried it but she didn't like it said it hurt to much.

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