How does it feel when a girl gets penetrated?

[Anonymous]

I come from a very conservative family, not being a virgin is a huge deal. I never had sex with anyone, but I wore tampons a couple of times and went horse back riding (in the same time).. I couldn't tell whether I bled or not, since I was on my period, but I definitely felt it get really deep. I told my fiance the story and he said not to worry, he is sure that my hymen is still there, but what if it isn't? He is very conservative as well, loves me, but conservative. And it's very popular in our society that girls have sex and lie about it. I have heard so many stories about men who left their wives on their weddings night.. I am so scared that he might lose his trust in me. My question is, can you really tell if a girl is a virgin or not when she gets penetrated? How does it feel exactly? Is there anyway to somehow "highlight" that my hymen is still there.. through Kegel's excerices during penteration for example? I am so self conscious because I took very good care not to have sex until now, and I hate that because of one stupid mistake, I ll feel used.. or something :) I also don't want to open the subject again with him because he might start thinking something is not okay. Thank you!

[milightman]

Where did you go grow up? There is a society of people that still grow up with this perspective? This is super dangerous thinking, and some of the answers I'm seeing holy crap. Anyway let me clear things up.

No the whole hymen thing is and scientifically a myth, straight up. Some women are born without hymens, break it just from sitting, tampon, etc.

A girl can be a virgin and still be "easy" to get in. The it hurts the first time is practically based on the fact it's a new sensation you aren't used to, and you're nervous. There was a recent study on this that we are making sex painful the first time, because we say it does, it makes women clinch up and tighten up her muscles.

From my experiences with sex, there are girls who don't sleep around who felt a bit looser, and girls with more experience that were incredibly tight. The vagina is actually similar how it' size works to a man's penis, some are deeper, some are more open, etc.

Also don't value you yourself based on your virginity, like you're not your virginity, you're a human being, it's going to wreck your self-esteem and how you see yourself.

But again no, there's no way to tell. when you have sex on your wedding night, relax, have fun, use lube to make it easier on yourself. :)

[TadCurious]

Oh my dear girl, you have so many misconceptions and you are so under the sway of ancient, backward, patriarchal thinking. There's no way for anyone, including a doctor, to tell whether or not you are a virgin. You refer to your having used tampons as a "stupid mistake." Why is that? Who has told you that inserting a tampon somehow makes you less worthy? And less worthy of what? Why should other people's ideas about your body matter more than your own? If you haven't had sex you're a virgin. Big whup. If you were not a virgin that would again be. . . big whup. Try to free yourself from all this mythology about virginity and hymens and maidenheads and your worth as a human being all tied up in the condition of your hymen.

[kaylaS91]

Not really. Many places you'll hear that yes, the only credible proof of a girl's virginity still being in tact is the presence of a hymen which isn't even true. Not all girls have a hymen, and if they do many break them playing sports, using a tampon, or even just stretching. Seeing as how the hymen is just a thin layer of tissue covering the entrance to the vagina, it usually isn't even fully in tact prior to losing one's virginity as how else would menstruation occur?

When I lost my virginity, I felt no tearing of a hymen nor had any bleeding so those symptoms aren't guaranteed on a girl's first time being penetrated either. I wouldn't worry about proving your virginity to your fiance. Hopefully he will believe you when you say that you're a virgin and won't seek some physical proof.

[FlyingTurtle]

There is really no way to prove whether a woman is a virgin or not. I mean, having a hymen is a good indicator, but you know some women don't even bleed when their hymen "breaks". Bleeding is NOT a good indicator as to whether a woman has had sex before or not. Listen, your fiance just has to trust you when you say you've never been with a man before. If he doesn't trust you, he shouldn't be marrying you.

[FerFerLove]

If a girl isn't a virgin her vag will be more loose and it will be easier for him to get it in right away. Also, he should trust you with it! He knows your family would never allow for you to have sex before you're married. Hope this helps a little. c:

[CosineTangent]

Not all women are even born with hymens, so if he gets mad with you over not having one then he's kind of an idiot lol. Horse back riding could have broken it if you were born with one. Any exercise could broken it, really.

In any case, all you have to do is hope that he believes and trusts you. The tightness of your vagina should be the best indicator of virginity, other than that it wouldn't be any different than a whore's vagina.

Best of luck!

[Unknown08]

Your more worried about your hymen and your conservatory parents and husband or boyfriend rather then the fun your supposed to have with your life. You should be having sex 3 times a week, just for fun. The other times you have sex for children if your into that.
Honestly you should be having sex at age 16 in my opinion. Children are learning faster and faster, some are smarter than grown adults even. Some kids are getting pregnant at age 12 now. It doesn't make me sick, I think its cool because they learned to live life to the fullest faster than anyone else. Yeah this sounds really wrong coming out of me, but whos to tell me what not to say? And whos tell you what to shove into your vagina? These are mine, and your choices. Everyone makes them, and some are harder than others. But I think you should just forget about what your parents and boyfriend think. If my friend came to me about what she shoves in there, tampons, pads, etc, I would jump on top of her

[citrush2o]

Seriously man? Not to rain on your parade, but I think it's wrong to encourage underage sex, even between minors. I personally know families and people that have been seriously messed up because an underage kid had a child. Kids aren't ready to be parents, hell they're barely learning to function on their own in their late teens, let alone having to raise a child. I'm all on board for having fun with sex at the right place and time, but don't make decisions that could mess-up your whole life for a few minutes of satisfaction. And don't encourage others to act foolishly because you don't have any reservations about your own sexuality. Use some common sense and show some care beyond just telling people "It's all good" when there's serious consequences.

[Unknown08]

I pointed out that kids shouldn't be having children of their own and to use a condom, I also DO encourage underage sex as long as its protected.

[TysJCB]

Not every girl is born with a hymen, the hymen in no way can tell if a girl has had sexual intercourse or not. Literally anything can cause the Hymen to tear.

[Anonymous]

Go to doctor and check it. If you have no posibility to go there, search pictures in internet and check with mirror. there's is a site hymen. pro where is a manual how to check