My nephew walked in on me while I was masturbating! Help?

[Anonymous]

Keeping it short. I'm 16 and my nephew is 20. My mom wasn't home, she was on a vacation with a few friends and my sister stayed over with our nana. So I stayed home that week, ordered pizza and whatever... having a great time. It's not like I only masturbate when there is no one home, but you get it. It feels nicer knowing that you're the only one at home and can moan as load as you want. I was laying on the couch and and started touching myself. I don't remember what time it was but I'm guessing around 6 pm? Without me realizing my nephew was standing at the door looking at me in shock. I was sooooo embarassed.. Turns out, my mom called him to come and check on me so she wouldn't have to worry. I'm surprised I didn't even hear him come in! (my aunt has the key, so he can come in though) Well things have been really awkward since then! A few days ago was my cousins (his sister) b-day, so we went with the whole family and he wouldn't even look me in the eyes! When we were going to leave I thought it would be the perfect oppertunity to talk to him about it. So when I approached him and gave him a hug (just like I did to my aunty, uncle and cousin) I felt his "ehem" against my leg. I swear that when I glanced down it looked liek an errection. I could see him trying to cover when he suddenly decided to put his hands in his pockets and move around. EVERYTHING IS SO CONFUSING NOW! We were like really close back then. I need some advice because I don't want us to be awkward around each other! Help, please.

[Crossroads-USMC]

This is tough. I'm sure that he is thinking of you when he's jerking off. He would HAVE to... because to men, a girl masturbating is just about the sexiest, and most erotic thing in the world. What worries me, in not the he got hard seeing you and expecting a hug, but not avoiding you feeling it. I think he wanted to feel it pushing against your thigh, and this is the rough part - He might want to get sexual with you. Depending on his experience and maturity, he might have taken seeing you as a luck turn of chance. He knows you do it, and he does it, so you should be OK with fooling around together. Maybe he's not thinking you two can start having actual intercourse, (at least I hope he's not), but he doesn't see ANY reason why you shouldn't do other things. To a boy, it just makes sense. Its practical. We can make each other feel really good, so why shouldn't we? Boys don't have any thought that can trump sex, while you, on the other hand, can have a similar thought (its ok to have it pop in your head), but your emotions trump everything else - so you can see it as wrong. To you, the potential pleasure isn't worth the awkwardness or wrongness. But we can't reach that same sum.

What to do? Honestly? I say avoid being anywhere alone with him, act completely normal, and never mention or think about it again. It may sound neanderthal, but its the best way, and won't make you feel icky. And it'll show him how taboo masturbation really is.

I really think that's your best bet.

[Asker]

Thanks you so much, this is the best answer so far. Hmm yeah you're probably right. We havn't talked about it so I guess that's a good thing huh

[Crossroads-USMC]

Yep. Just don't make much eye contact, and DON'T look sexy! Don't talk about anything sexy where he can hear, (nothing about 'boyfriends or dates, etc.), and don't wear anything that shows off your body, (tight sweaters, tight jeans or stretchy pants, or sexy shoes, or barefoot, or ANYTHING that shows leg)! It'll all pass, Sweetheart. Once he starts jerking off and almost gets caught - he'll realize how embarrassed that whole ordeal was for you. And when he does, everything will be back to normal. :) Good luck, Angel, and God bless.

[Asker]

So basically jeans and sneakers? YUUK haha, we'll I guess for the sake of this whole thing, I will :) thanks!

[goodboy897]

You should talk to him. He might be masterbating and thinking bout what you did now.

[Asker]

How do I talk to him? And I don't think that's possible, he has a girlfriend for over a year now.

[goodboy897]

if you're afraid to talk in person just text him that you want to talk to him. He got a boner right when you hugged him?

[Asker]

Yeah texting will do I guess. And Idk.. he might've gotten it from something else. I don't think I was the reason.

[goodboy897]

But that was I think though that you're hardly the main reason for it.. anyways just text him and hope it will be settled in the near future.

[Asker]

Thank you! I hope the same..

[goodboy897]

you're very welcome.

[TheLastGirlScout]

Oh my gosh, why are people saying talk to him about it? I'm sure that's the last thing he wants to do! He's obviously seen you, he's obviously embarrassed and he's probably ashamed that he was aroused by you. Just pretend like nothing happened and don't mention it, it'll blow over.

[EnergyAZ]

He probably was aroused by the encounter and may not know how to feel about that. Its obviously taboo because you are cousins but its also human nature to get aroused by viewing sexual activity.

I agree with others who suggest you bring it up... poke some fun at your expense to lighten up the situation. Let him know you are embarrassed about it and apologize not realizing he was to visit you.

Once he realize you aren't going to make a big deal about it he probably can relax and hopefully get back to normal sooner than later.

[Asker]

Thank you for your response. And yeah I'll try to add some humour to it haha. I'm sure he didn't do it on purpose. His mind knows were family, his dick doesn't xD so I don't blame him.

[kambo_trick3y]

What.

The.

Fuck.

[Asker]

Please keep this kind of comments to yourself if you can't help me out for real.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Just let it go. It'll blow over eventually.

[snowbound_x1]

I once walked in on my brother masturbating. On that occasion he accidentally left the bathroom door unlocked and I stormed in because I was busting for a wee. It was awkward as hell. We don't get along at the best of times, but after that we didn't talk for a couple of weeks. We never discussed it, but there was no need to as we both knew what it was and understand why people do it.

Your case is probably different in that you're less closely related and opposite gender, so maybe its better to talk about it so that he fully understands that you're not intending to jump on him or anything like that.

[BertMacklinFBI]

you gotta talk this one out lol. its always gonna be awkward until someone breaks the ice.

[TadCurious]

If this 16 y/o boy is your nephew, wouldn't his sister be your niece?

[Asker]

Ah yeah I meant niece, sorry I'm not from an English speaking country so I tried my best.

[countrydude]

Nothing wrong with masturbation. wink. sounds like your very comfortable with it and your body. . I would talk to him about it so you can both put it behind you. i agree with earlier comment. he is probably still fantisizing about you. maybe he is thinking u wanted him to catch you. also maybe an apppology to him. . let us know how this turns out.

[Asker]

Haha well no one told me he was coming so I'm sure he doesn't thinks about it that way. And I sure will! I'm really happy that you guys helped me out.

[countrydude]

your welcome.

[SaltandVinegar]

Talk to him about it, it sounds like he was aroused by what he saw and does not know what to say or how handle it.