I found out my boyfriend likes big boobs and mine are small. I feel so unattractive :(?

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First of all yes I committed the cardinal sin and went through my bf's internet history yeah shame on me but past all that. He lied to me and said he doesn't watch it and when I caught him he said he wouldn't anymore and has done it every time I found out (3 times) he has a go at me cuz I looked through his history which is fair. But why does he keep lying to me? He knows I am self conscious bout my chest area as Im only a B cup and the p*rn he looks at are disgusting ugly women with like stretched out massive tits. I dont myself understand whatsoever is attractive about this? They look like circus freaks more than women. I would never want to look like them but I do feel my boobs are nowhere near big as he would want them and he's always looking online at pics of other womens boobs and it really hurts me he does that when he says he loves me and my boobs the way they are. I said Id get a boob job but he says he doesn't want me to and he'd leave me if I did. I just dont know what to do. No matter what he says I never feel enough cuz I know he is looking at other womens boobs all the time toi compensate for my disappointing ones and I just dont feel good enough sanymore :( I never look at other guys dicks. I bet he'd feel really crap if I did.

I can't seem to get over the fact he proli still does it behind my back and it makes me feel sick. We are planning to move in togethger within the next month and I really hope he stops it then or I won't know what to do. I am not controlling cuz he said hi8mself he'd stop watching it, but lies constantly, its not so much the  p*rn  just the fact he always searches big boobs and it fucks me off. If he likes them so much he should just dump me. He gets really annoyed every time I bring it up but he just doesn't understand how crap it makes me feel. Is this normal for men who supposedly love their gfs to watch  p*rn  of women that look the complete opposite? I feel like I am not his type at all and it upsets me so much

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Okay. You probably aren't going to like much of what I have to say but I'll try to lay out my justification as we go along.

1) Get over the p*rn. All men watch p*rn and very few will admit it. Even fewer will ever stop. It's not about comparing you to those women. It's about his fantasies. If it's that big a deal to you and you don't like the way you look, consider a boob job but do it for you, not him or any guy. Again, he's not drawing comparisons.

2) Stop snooping. If you can't, get some counseling for your trust issues. If he was cheating, that would be different but since you didn't mention it, I presume he's not. What he looks at online is his business, not yous and if you can't leave it alone, break up with him and find someone you can trust. Again, counseling may be a really good idea.

3) Get your head up and have some confidence. He likes you so be happy about that. instead of constantly looking for reasons to undermine it.

4) Understand that he's not gonna give up p*rn and if you can't live with that despite he's not comparing them to you, don't move in with him.

5) As for being his type, most of us don't end up with our type. A type is an abstraction that rarely comes in reality. So let it go.

redshirt202 · Accepted Answer

Okay, let's back up for a moment.

The fact that he may like looking at big boobs does not mean he does not like you or your boobs, or that he is unsatisfied. Kind of like how a person may really like white chocolate, but that doesn't mean you don't still love dark chocolate, or that dark chocolate is a compromise for you. You could very easily like both for different reasons. The reason he doesn't understand how it makes you feel could be because he's only looking at it from his perspective, i. e., he sees it as harmless indulgence in fantasy but he knows he still loves you.

You're taking his looking for big boobs to mean not only that he likes looking at big boobs (which is a reasonable conclusion) but also that he must think your chest isn't good enough (not necessarily a reasonable conclusion). If you two still have a healthy sex life despite his looking (or you did before you found out about this and started feeling bad about it), I wouldn't worry about it much.

raineydaygurl · Accepted Answer

As a woman with large boobs, Hey be nice.
As for the rest I get the being upset over him looking at opposites. I used to think the same at first but now I understand that if he really wanted something else he wouldn't be so sure and insistent on being with me. I'm obviously what he wants so it shouldn't matter. Also sometimes guys just feel like rubbing one out and watching some p*rn instead of all the effort of sex.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I mean it's not that serious. He likes you but he also likes big boobs haha... you can't change that. If he intentionally makes you feel bad then break up with him but it doesn't sound like he's doing it on purpose.
Maybe you're just over thinking things? Find a man who likes smaller boobs if it bothers you this much.

xPoison · Accepted Answer

B cups are good :p I'm a 34B and their perky as fuck and at least grabable. Its average. I feel huge tits take away from making your body appear leaner  VS

poppunk · Accepted Answer

If he does it again start looking up pics of dicks bigger than his, or dump him. If he's okay with hurting your feelings that many times he's scum and unworthy of you

Sovereign1979 · Answer

B cups to me are perfect. My mate is bigger and I look at  p*rn  with girls with B cups or smaller. So sounds like your chest is perfect for me. But my mate does know she is not perfect for me int hat area. Which is likely why I am a leg man because I have never been with a girl with the perfect chest.

pharaoh_lover48118 · Answer

first of all are you against him watching p*rn OR watching women with big boobs? cauze if i'm watching girls with big boobs doesn't mean I won't like girls with smaller boobs I mean relationships are way bigger than the size of your boobs or the size of his di*k
try and think about it this way if he doesn't like you then why is he still with you?
as for the p*rn and girls with big boobs it is all a fantasy you like to watch but not necessary want it in the real life So just calm down you can't make a guy stay with you if he doesn't really want to play it cool and DON'T you ever look in his history again

Tractorbeam · Answer

Why do women do this shit?
If you did have big boobs, you'd be saying he only loves you for your boobs.
Yes, he's likely to watch p*rn when you're not around. He'd much rather be banging you, but he's not going to suffer when he can't and you're not there.

decemberxblue · Answer

I'm sure he isn't everything you prefer in a man either. Nobody is perfect.

worldscolide · Answer

Liking big breasts is just a preference. He isn't with you for your breasts though. Additionally its just a preference, and its probably not a deal breaker for him.. Plus just because he likes big breasts does not mean he does not like yours.. If anything he is probably just like me. I like breasts in general, big small medium weird shaped, its all good cause breasts are amazing.

Rhinoboy · Answer

He likes the tits he doesn't sound right for you amd a quick ball grab would change him but he's not the person in my opinion , but its your life not mine do as you wish

StrawbbShrtcake · Answer

Your “boyfriend” sucks you should get someone who masturbates to your photos instead of porn. Get a omeone that keeps their promises and doesn’t lie to you. Dump him. Know your worth. His fantasy doesn’t mean you’re less than perfect. ❤️❤️❤️

Anonymous · Answer

So he likes big boobs and you have small ones? I am sure there are ten other things about you he does like. No one is perfect. I am sure there are small flaws you don't like about him too. No biggie.

Anonymous · Answer

your man oicked u for a reason. n he obviously doesn't want u to leave him. Guys look all the time and its natural for us. doesn't mean it changes the way he feels about u. There is something he must like about u to be with u, maybe he just never told u.

ask him what u likes about u and why u r special to him

guys r guys dont take it personal or u will drive yourself mad! im sure your a fine girl in a different way, otherwise he would not b with u

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