Is my boyfriend being selfish about our sex life or am I being unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating about ten months now and we started having sex after about the first month. I take birth control for menstrual reasons but I don't let my boyfriend finish inside of my vagina mainly because I'm just not sure how much I trust it, I've heard of girls getting pregnant on birth-control before and I am absolutely not ready to have a baby. When I'm ready to I will let him do it. Other than that i let him cum anywhere he wants to even in my mouth and he still seems to get frustrated that he can't cum in my vagina and we have even gotten in arguments because of it. Last night I had gotten a little tipsy at a friends party and my BF and I came home and started having sex, after a few min I got off of him and laid on my stomach and he got on me from behind, After a few min on this I started having an orgasm and when I did he came inside of me. I was so mad at him and he said he only did it because he didn't want me to stop cuming. I made him sleep on the couch and now we are in another argument. Do you think he is being selfish about this or am I being unreasonable?

[heyheyheyjustlisten]

NOT EVEN A LITTLE BIT! He's the one being unreasonable not you. Pills and condoms are not full-proof. I mean the only full proof way is abstinence; but I mean there are times that girls have gotten pregnant because if he cums somewhere near your vagina the cum can still find it's way inside you because it doesn't exactly have to be inside because as long as the sperm gets in there then I mean there is still a chance of getting pregnant. But I mean I'm not gonna lecture you just giving you the facts. But honestly, him getting mad over that is stupid. You're the one (if you get pregnant) who's going to have to carry the baby and give birth to him/her! And take care of it more than him, considering that counts even in married couples! I mean if he can't accept that tiny bit of you and actually wait then he's not really worth it. Sorry to say that but being honest.

[Justcuriousxx]

I think that was a little extreme - to make him sleep on the couch - but if you say don't do it then he should continue pulling out. Maybe you should get the iud implant if you don't want children and are unsure about the pills being effective. IUD is pretty solid as far as safety and last 3-5 years after implant.

I had one and had unprotected sex in my relationship for almost 4 years. Never got pregnant.

Costly, but worth it - I think insurance may help pay.

[StrawberryCream]

What an idiot. You let him do it anywhere and he just hss to do it in the place you dont want it. And then he too advantage of the situation when you were drunk. Seriously if he argues about this kinda thing, you are better without him. I dont know if the relationship has future since he doesn't respect you or your decisions

[jesseray]

There is a term for what your boyfriend did: reproductive abuse. You would do well to end that relationship.

[Mesonfielde]

Pills aren't fool proof. If he wants to come in your vagina, then he should wear a condom.

[abundantlyrich]

You're being sensible and he's acting like a selfish bitch.

[AdamThomas]

If I were him I'd just wear condoms. I'd tell you to fuck off if you tried telling me I had to sleep on the couch though lol.

[echoaj]

I don't think you are being unreasonable but i also understand why your boyfriend wants to cum in you.
It's not like you don't want him to do it but you are just afraid of getting pregnant.

[ieatDaCake]

Wait, that dude is trying to knock you up? Even tho you told him you ain't ready... what an asshole.

[jsshell06]

Well said!!

[Anonymous]

Your caution is definitely reasonable. He should respect your wishes on this. At the same time, he's only human and you guys are bound to slip up in the heat of the moment. Just have him wear condoms.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I agree with the other dude , that he is trying to get you pregnant. What guy wouldn't enjoy coming anywhere even in your mouth. Not selfish he is insecure about something.

[StrawberryCream]

Yes he is selfish since he did only what he wanted and didn't listen how she felt

[Anonymous]

The chances of you getting pregnant while on the pill are very slim. However that is your choice and he should respect that. You know the risks and do not want to take them.