My mother in law made a move on me, and now I feel really awkward?

[Anonymous]

We went to this karaoke and pool bar together to have a girls night out like we usually do once every couple of months to have some friendly fun. However, it was different this time. We both had a couple drinks, I wasn't drunk though. We were on stage singing together on a duet, and at the end, she went to hug me because it went very well, and instead she ended it with a kiss. I was shocked, so I tried to pull away, and instead she pulled me back in and started shoving her tongue down my throat. I didn't know what to do, or how to react afterwards. I am uneasy now, because I feel shy and awkward around her. I avoid the conversation because I don't know how to handle it lol. She finally confronted me and said, "by the way.. I wasn't even drunk when it happened.." and slid her hand across my ass when she walked passed me in the kitchen. What do I do about this... -_- This is one of the worse situations i've ever been in. Lol. I've never thought something like this would happen...

[Anonymous]

That is so crazy, it is hard to believe. Assuming it is true, there is no good way to handle it.

You could tell your husband you think she is playing a prank on you, but that you find it unfunny. That way he doesn't think his mom is trying to bang his wife, while at the same time he would understand why you don't want to be around her anymore. I think this is your best bet.

Otherwise you just have to avoid her, and that too could cause problems between you and your husband. If his mom starts to worry about you having a problem with her, she could cause problems for you between you and your husband. Without hearing your side, it makes you look really bad.

If you tell him you think his mom really wants to have sex with you, then if he believes you it causes problems in his family, and if he doesn't believe you, it causes problems for you. So I don't think honesty is the best policy.

If you avoid her for a while and then are alone with her all of a sudden, there is a good chance she might say something about it again. Then you might be able to get a confession recorded. Or you could make out with her and record that. At least then you would have proof in case she lies and says you are doing something wrong. Not sure how you would arrange to set up the cameras though, but I am sure there is a way.

[Anonymous]

Two options. Confront her confidently and stand your ground. Tell her that what happened was totally unacceptable and if she ever attempts to do it again, you will tell her son. That should give her enough motivation to stop it. Alternatively, if she touches you inappropriately again, give her a good slap across the face. That will also get the message over!

[TheLastGirlScout]

Oh my God, that is terrible! I'd have to tell my husband, no two ways about it, he has to know. You're his wife and if anyone was making unwanted advances he will want to know. If you don't tell him then you'll have to keep it from him, and you shouldn't be doing that. I know the fallout may be dramatic and upsetting, but that just isn't acceptable. Try talking to her very firmly first of all and gauge how she is feeling about it, tell her you are really angry and upset that she would do that knowing that you are a married woman, that you feel like she broke your trust, and that unless she want's you to tell her son then she had better pack it in and not make any more advances or speak about it again. If she doesn't agree, then tell your husband the truth.

[findingdreamland]

Confront with her. What are you afraid of? Say you are not into that. If she continues, you will tell this to your husband. Done. If this repeats tell to your husband. Don't act like a victim. Because you are not.

[Anonymous]

well I see you are over 18... move out or get away from her, she has no boundaries and that's not ok!

[Asker]

I agree - I need to get away, but how should I tell my husband? He will ask why i'm wanting to randomly get away all of a sudden and I do not know how to bring it up first. Every time I start to try to talk about it, I start getting sick to my stomach like i'm going to throw up.

[26ukdude]

Get a camcorder and record it, it would make a brilliant p*rn film. Get your husband involved too. Hot lesbian incest threesome.

[Sexualchrist]

Yeah that would be pretty awkward if it was true which I doubt.

[Asker]

What do you mean? I'm not lying. I joined this website to get advice because I don't know how to handle what happened.

[Sexualchrist]

Thats exactly what a liar would say. You've obviously a guy who thought of this sort of fantasy but to play along with you, I would tell the mother in law she's being creepy and you'll tell her son about what she is doing if she continues on with it.

[Asker]

I came here for help, because i'm scared if I speak about it to anyone in person, then it will cause a lot of havoc between the family members. Move along then with your assumptions because i'm looking for non-assholes that are actually helpful.

[Sexualchrist]

See if you were genuine, you would have just ignored me to begin with. You're showing all the classic signs of a fake. There are places you can discuss these kinds of fantasies you know, I'd list but not sure about the rules on that.

[AshBrown]

Pleeeease... Lat us know the date when your family appears on Jerry Springer.

[AnimeLover12]

wtf? lol what kind of situation are you in? I would probably move away if I were you

[decemberxblue]

Completely inappropriate. It is molestation/sexual harassment. Tell your father.

[dipta]

Her father? What about the husband/ bf? Lol

[decemberxblue]

I'm assuming her father is married to her mother in law.

[dipta]

I think in that case it would be a stepmother? Mother in law is the mother of the husband.

[DreamHope]

Step-mother: a woman who has married your biological father. Mother-in-law: the mother of your husband.

[TheLastGirlScout]

It's her boyfriend/husbands mom, not her step-mom.

[decemberxblue]

Oh shit! Lmao, I need SLEEP!