Bf told me I'm bad at sex, now I don't wanna have it?

[2messy]

I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy younger than me. We spent 3 weeks together during which he lost his virginity to me and we had quite a lot of sex, including a lot of blowjobs. Towards the end however I was getting tired easily and my muscles were sore (I was really out of shape then), so I was avoiding being on top. He was avoiding it for the same reason so I said we do it doggy style, which was not that exhausting and still pretty good. He didn't complain, but he wasn't very happy about our sex either. I tried to make some jokes saying that he got so many blowjobs and sex, and he just said we need to work on it more, watch some porn... Then 2 months later he told be how bad I am, that me being on top was his favorite position and I was doing it wrong, that the blowjobs were too short to be enjoyable and that he just didn't enjoy the sex. My opinion is that his view is skewed by watching p*rn and I was the only one he had sex with but still... Also in the beginning of our relationship we talked about maybe having a threesome with a girl, then as the relationship advanced I told him I am too in love with him and I would be jeleous, so I don't think it's gonna happen. And he flipped out, saying how excited he was about it and trying to make me apologize for not wanting to do it anymore. Then yesterday somehow we got to talk about prostitution and I told him I have no respect for prostitutes. And he went crazy on why do I think I'm better than a prostitute (because I choose to work a decent job for 20x less money and have sex with the men I love?) and calling me all kind of names. We sorted that out and he admited that he exagerated but still... we're gonna see each other soon, spend some 2 months together and my libido was never lower. I haven't masturbated in so long and I just don't want to have sex with him, which is gonna cause another huge fight/break up. Did it ever happen to you that you just didn't want to have sex? how did u get over it?

[vmw2008]

He's being a jerk, like the others have said. Plain and simple. He's gone so long as a virgin, that now his mind is on overdrive trying to get the sex life he always felt he deserved. (A sex life based on p*rn and imagination and not on real life). He cares more about what you have to offer him as a sex partner than a girlfriend. In other words, in his mind, sex is something he gets, not something he shares. He's likely bitter from being a virgin so long in the first place.

You'd be wise to get rid of him. I know there may be other aspects to your relationship you see as good, but sometimes you can get so emotionally invested in a situation you don't see it for what it really is. I have gone through a time where my very high sex drive plummeted, and it was when I was in a relationship with a guy who wasn't treating me right. I dumped him and, shocker, my sex drive came back.

[pixarA113]

I'm sorry but you need to dump him. No man should ever treat you that way. He needs to grow up and you need someone that makes you feel good about yourself.

[Angelina703]

This guy is a douche and he's abusive - get out now before he does more damage to your self esteem.

[madhatters4]

he's a loser. how can a virgin really be all the critical of sex. and even so he should find a constructive thoughtful way of approaching as opposed to just being critical.

I think his views on sex is definitely influenced (negatively) by p*rn and that would be a concern to me in any relationship. just like a person who believes love is like what they see in movies a person who believes sex is like what they see in p*rn have unrealistic and unfair expectations

[Blueeyes81]

If he has no basis for comparison, how can he judge if the sex was bad or good. I think you are right about the p*rn, giving him this false idea of sex. I think he likes you on top because he's not sure what to do. It's the easiest position for a man. Teach him how to please a woman. Teach him about foreplay. Maybe after a good bit of foreplay your libido will get kickstarted.

[Phantom-menace]

This guy is an ass, get rid of him, he is not the boyfriend you want seriously. he doesn't respect your feelings.

[GrowStrong]

why would you want to be with this guy? he sounds like an ass

[bifriend2013]

your boyfriend is a nut case

[legalboxers]

toss him like a bad habit

[Anonymous]

Why do you really give a shit what he thinks? He sounds like an ass.