Have You Ever Turned Down Sex? What were the circumstances? Tell your story!?

I'm a virgin, and I am 23. It really sucks, because now that I am ready to have sex... I can't get any. Despite me going to clubs, bars and parties (I'm in college), women really want nothing to do with me. When I was in high school, things were different for me. Like, without even trying, I could have gotten laid so many times... but I turned down the sex because I wasn't ready. Here are my experiences: -High school sophmore: After school, my two friends (both women) were walking down the empty hallway and talking. They led me to a secret location within the school and started playing with their boobs, and guiding my hands over their body and face. I backed down and left quickly. -When I went to the mall, I met this girl and she offered to give me a blow job with in the first hour of meeting her. I turned it down. Then I started talking to her friend a month later and she offered, too... but I declined. -My friend (another girl obviously), offered to give me a ride home from school in her car. When I refused. She told me that I should go with her and she would make the very trip enjoyable. I declined and she looked pissed. -When I was a junior in high school, my friend (another girl obviously), was waiting for me outside the bathroom after track practice. She commented on how hot and sweaty I was and said that since its just us two in this big school anything can happen. Then she got really close to me and kept staring at me and smiling. I told her I had to leave. in my senior year, My friend in math class told me how she gave a blow job, how much she enjoyed giving them and wished she could give more and she kept staring at me and asking me if I have ever gotten one before. Didn't turn into sex... but it could have. And now that I am ready to have sex at age 23... I can't find anyone lol. I missed out! What are your experiences?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I really hate when people are virgins and they are desperate to LOSE it. Really? Dude, you waited 23 years and you are just going to lose it to whoever? Why? Why not make all that waiting worth it. There are a lot of people that don't wait that long and you just gave us some examples in which you showed how smart and mature you were (are?) so now you're saying that you just want a F*** buddy? I don't get it, you were smart when you were younger and now...

    I had a bf a few years back (my first bf) and we were together for about a year and half, the entire relationship he pressured me to have sex and I declined every single time. He even threaten me with rape. I never wanted to do it with someone like that because I looked at being a virgin as something special because not a lot of people can hold on to it. We broke up obviously because I couldn't take it anymore and just let him be and let him find someone else. Then, I met my current bf and the love of my life, he means the world to me and always treated me like a princess and with respect. I'm so glad I waited till I was 24 and GAVE it to someone that loves me and someone I love and didn't just LOSE it to someone else.
    Anyway, Im just telling you this because I believe you are smart and can make better decisions. Its not bad to wait, trust me, It'll be worth it and there is nothing that you missed out on. It is a whole lot better when you wait for the right person :)

    • Giving me some tough love I see. Lol... I respect that. It's just that... whenever I try to initiate a relationship with a girl, I alway get shut out. I meet a lot of women I am genuinely interested in class, and after taking the time to get to know them, get their number and go out sometimes, they always decide they want nothing to do with me after the class is over and they stop all contact with me. It's always the same, and it hurts. I'd rather just have a f*ck buddy, then try to connect with a relationship I will probably never have. Don't mean to sound so negetive, but I've never had a real girlfriend in my life... and now that I am leaving college and working 7 days a week, I won't have time for a relationship :/. Just not sure what t do at this point.

  • I refuse to hook up with guys from clubs/bars/parties. Don't get me wrong I do the friends with benefits thing but not from those places because they usually have no standards. If I'm gonna be with someone I'd like to get to know them a bit. I realize it sounds like dating but I'm risking my life (condom or no condom) with whatever diseases you have. I need to trust that you haven't been in every hole available. Most guys in those places have.

    There's plenty of dating websites just for sex where you can find someone.

    I'm guessing you keep going after women who are looking for relationships, which you aren't?

    • I'm not going after women looking for relationships. I don't think you will find those types in bars & clubs XD. Maybe it's just because back in high school, there were less factors women looked for in a man. In college and such, women have all these prerequisites before they sleep with a guy (unless they are really drunk). I used to want a relationship... but after getting rejected over and over and over by women I met at my college, a f*ck buddy is just fine with me.

    • I still say you are going after the wrong women. Women have fuck buddies you just have to find those women. Or you could try living up to some of the standards women want.

  • Well I wish I would've waited. I am 16 and lost mine March 5th of this year. After I tild him we couldn't have sex anymore, he left me for another girl. I wish I would've held back and kept my virginity for the right person. So far I have had sex with 3 guys since him and I feel like a whore. All they did was use me and I let them. My boyfriend that I have now is quite different actully. He won't make me have sex but will still hangout with me. I do regret having sex early but everything happens for a reason.

Most Helpful Guys

  • lol damn dude, that's hardcore. I have a couple different times. Same girl both times. Lots of drama with her, and when I would go to her house to talk about it she'd try to fuck me instead. Literally having to physically restrain her from pulling my dick out of my pants and riding it. Finally trying to take her own pants off, and I told her I'd leave if she didn't smarten the fuck up.

  • Yes, mainly because he was my uncle and we were at a busy station.

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  • Oh my... lol maybe some girls used to be whores an now they all matured?

  • I've turned it down before. I'm nowhere near ready to do that stuff.

  • i turned down sex because i was on my periode :p

  • Once a dude I was practically in love with (at least a 2 year crush at this point) expressed interest in doing it with me, and ohhhhhhhh believe me, I wanted to in a way. But he didn't seem interested in me as an individual so I respected myself enough to hold back. I'm also a christian and plan to wait until marriage, and I was only 14 at the time.