How do I confront my sister after walking in on her having sex with another GIRL?

My sister 17 and still lives at home with my mom, she's a very pretty blonde girl who could have pretty much any guy she wanted and sometimes I wondered why she didn't date much. I think I understand now. Yesterday My BF and I went over to my moms house and she was not home yet so we went inside to wait for her not knowing if my sister was home or not. I heard some noise coming from the back so my BF and I walked down the hall to say hello to my sister and when we got to her door it was cracked open. I pushed the door open poked my head in and what I saw was a total shocker! And all I can say is "what the fuck" and after saying that my boyfriend also looked in to see what I was cursing about My sister and one of her female friends was naked on the bed having sex with each other. They were both laying on their backs with their legs locked together ( I believe scissoring is the word ) With a long dildo between them. I think my jaw dropped to the floor and without saying anything else I shut the door and we left the house. I could not believe what I saw, I was thinking, is my sister a lesbian? Does my mom know? And all my boyfriend could say is "wow I think your sister is a lesbian", not really helping the situation. My mom called when she got home and asked why wasn't there and I just told her something came up that she would have to meet me at the store we were going to. I never once thought my sister was that way and personally because we are so close I'm kind of heartbroken that I did not know. I love her very much but I don't even know how to begin confronting her or just talking to her again without it being really awkward. Is there anything I can do or say to make this a smooth process? What do I say to my sister because the subject is obviously going to come up at some point? I try talking to my boyfriend about it but he is not much help.
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  • I don't think there's any need to "confront" her about it.

    If I were you, I'd tell her that you want to talk, take her some place completely private, as assure her that her secret is safe with you, and that you will support her 100% and love her unconditionally.

    You could also tell her that you were a little hurt that she didn't tell you before, but phrase it in a way that says "I just love you so much and I'd love for you to feel comfortable coming to me and talking to me, because I will always support you no matter what".

    Whatever you do, don't shame her and don't berate her for not telling you. I'm sure she has reasons, and right now she probably just needs your support.

    • Thanks for MH! Good luck with this! :-)

  • just let it ride. your boyfriend needs yoj to help erase those images. but good lucvk on thst. .. but wow. i like this post

Most Helpful Girls

  • There's no reason to confront her.
    Don't make this about you. It's obviously something she wasn't comfortable talking about yet. Which has nothing to do with her trust in you.
    She might be a lesbian, she might be bi, she might just be experimenting. Either way, until she's ready to express that, it's none of your business. Wait for her to be the one yo speak out first. She's probably feeling way more uncomfortable than you at the moment.

    • this is best answer I think

  • I think you are over reacting that's her business if she wants to talk about it wait until she is comfortable enough to come to you.

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  • Support her, keep a sense of humor and rest should work itself out.

  • I Dont thnk she's lesbian... she was probally... erm.. experimenting...

  • Simple. Don't. There's no reason to "confront" her, is there? Then why do it?

  • Your bf verbally: "wow I think your sister is a lesbian"

    Your bf mentally: "wow, I'm about to fap to this memory later"

    Whether you accept it or not, your sister is who she is. I suppose it's best to support her.

  • let your sister have her pleasure

  • You don’t have any right to “ confront” her at all, her sexual partners are her business, miss nosey.

  • She may be a lesbian or she may be just expierementing

  • She's a lesbian
    Nothing you can do about it

  • Tell her you are mad for not inviting you for the daisy chain

  • maybe she is bisexual?