Why does he like going down on me so much and never asks for anything in return?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend will go down on me any opportunity he gets. He's always super enthusiastic and spends a loong time down there giving me multiple orgasms it's amazing, but he acts all weird when I ask to give him a blowjob after. He said I am the first girl who has ever given him a blow job. He always says he doesn't want me to feel obligated or pressured which is great that he values consent so much but I honestly just want to return the favor. He freaks out if he almost cums in my mouth and always says "ew nasty" and "sorry" yet he's always eager to have his face buried in my crotch for an hour or more! It's like he's grossed out by penises or something and all the focus is always on my pleasure all the time. We haven't had intercourse yet but I kind of tried to bring it up and he agreed that we could soon, he's had intercourse before I have not but I have a vibrator about his size so I'm not worried about any pain and I am on birth control. He goes down on me sooo often and then he acts like giving him a bj, which can't possibly last more than a matter of minutes is some horrible chore for me and I feel bad! I was so confused about why he likes to spend so much time down there that I actually tasted myself as weird as that is and honestly it didn't taste bad. But it wasn't like delicious it didn't taste like much at all not salty like his pre-cum but just not like anything in particular slightly sweet but no real discernible flavor. Even when I told him I might be spotting a little because I was getting used to birth control he had to go down on me! thankfully I wasn't! He seems to really enjoy bjs when I give them to him but after he seems all guilty and awkward? Does that mean he's ashamed of his body? because he's really slim and he knows I find him sexy! I've also thought that maybe he just enjoys giving more than receiving and might enjoy the submissive role (which kind of turns me on because I am a bit dominant sexually) but I don't want him to feel guilty!!

[witzelsucht]

Your guy probably avoids your wonderful fellatio because, like the big majority of guys, he wants to avoid cumming too soon and he prefers to cum in your beautiful little pussy than in your mouth. Enjoy his artful cunnilingus and don't feel at all guilty because he cares enough for you that he wants to bring you to orgasm before he himself cums. It is a tad difficult for a guy to feign sexual enthusiasm for about 30 minutes after he cums, so let him do it his way.

If you enjoy sucking him, good times might be when you both are rushed or find yourselves without opportunity for an extended fucking. Just zip his pants down in the car (for example) and go to it. I think he'd like that. You guys sound like a great and well-matched couple.

[Asker]

thanks! but like I said we have never actually had sex so he can't have been saving his orgasm :s

[witzelsucht]

So why are you on birth control?

[Asker]

Birth control can actually help with painful periods, acne, and lots of cronic problems like endometriosis. 14% of women who take birth control do it for reasons other than preventing pregnancy actually. The reason I am on it is because it can take up to three months to take full effect so sometimes you have to be on it for that long in order to actually be protected. I have been on it for three weeks now and my doctor said it should be working but I would still use a condom. That was the plan from the start to have both birth control and a condom just to be double safe.

[stevie123]

I am like him in the regard of loving to eat my girl for a long time. However, I love getting BJs and cumming in my girls mouth, which she swallows easily. He may have had a girl tell him that cumming in her is bad. Some do feel that way. If you want his cum, then you have to make him believe that you want it. If he pulls out of your mouth, then scoop up some cum and lick your finger, saying how much you like it. Or position yourself so that he can't pull off. Or just tell him to cum in your mouth, that you want to taste him. That it is what you want. Compliment him on his taste, mistress

[LittleGummyBears]

My boyfriend is the same way, I think its because he doesn't see me as a girl who would enjoy doing that for him. He's never let me try so I wouldn't know myself..

[CuriousEddie]

I can easily see that if he is submissive he views it as his role to service you. But he should be responding to your wishes, not what he thinks you want. Try patting him on the head and tell him that he's a good boy, and that you'd like to give him a reward. If he protests, raise your voice and ask if he is trying to disobey you. I think he'll do whatever you say then.

[Asker]

never thought of that he does like it when I bite him hahaha

[CuriousEddie]

Hmmm... then maybe that's it... and you should explore further!