In the Bar scene, can you be a decent guy and get numbers?

[Anonymous]

I'm a student and I'm old enough to visit bars and clubs, the thing is I've been getting a lot of hate looks lately from guys around me for being able to easily attract girls. I workout 5 times a week (Martial arts, Running and Gym), got my own car and live with my parents. I've been visiting some bars on my own and got positive feedback from the waitresses that I've meet, I still haven't got laid because I lack conversation skills and still hesitate while I engage in conversation (can't relax enough to pull out some jokes). I sometimes feel like I need to be a pervert and start grabbing boob and ass from the get go, and talk like a horny guy to get results. What am I doing wrong? any advice.

[OldDinosaur]

If you really want to get laid then DON'T TRY. Seriously just go there with the mindset to make some friends. I will tell you that when you have more than one woman around who is just your friend that the one who is attracted to you will take things from PG to R or to whatever she has to in order to get you really fast. She will not even give that other girl the chance. Women are far more territorial than you might think. Constantly hitting on random women works BUT it usually attracts the wrong type of woman and can blow off the women you might really want who is the corner thinking your not just a stud but a whore.

[Asker]

I've seen how predatory women really are, I've had a girl (co-worker) who tripped in front of me, as I was trying to grab my coat (once) and got up very slowly from her 4 legged position. -_- if that isn't try to get a man's attention then I must be blind. I simply smiled and helped her get up as her eyes were eating me out. I didn't know how to react, I just left.

[Ihav2fart]

Yes, yes you can. You just have to be a confident decent guy. One with some self-esteem.

[SillyQuirks]

Lol never start with gabbing boob. Unless you are a magician -jk lol. Um. Humble yourself - seriously. If you are terrible at conversation, say it. You are attractive so you obviously already have the girls attention when you first approach her. Do some small talk and then when you get nervous laugh at yourself and say "I am sorry. I am terrible at conversation when I am nervous." Most likely she will think it is cute and will take the lead.

Not all females respond that way - but I definitely can see it playing out like that. :)

[xXbRiAdAiReXx]

Personally, I think it's adorable when a guy is nervous to talk to me! It's endearing and it makes me more comfortable around them. Like the other girl said, just own it! Make a joke out of it! :)

[Anonymous]

buy her a drink and dance with her, if she likes you then she will give you her number.