What does spanking feel like?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend wants to spank me. I just really want no what to expect. What's the best position for me to be in? What does it feel like? What the best after care for it? Thanks

[Peter0]

I can answer as a guy who both likes to be spanked and who likes to spank:

What's it feel like? hot (temperature) stingy achy trembly exciting painful butterflies-in-tummy shockwaves going through good parts inside... blissful when the endorphins hit

And giving? hot (other kind) powerful trembly exciting butterflies-in-tummy high heartrate and heady

As for position, I'm not a big fan of over-the-lap (altho there was that one time I was over her lap and my c*ck was between her legs...), especially for giving; it just feels awkward. I'm a big fan of comfort, and if you're comfortable, all you've got to deal with is the spanking (and other play). One option is bent over something (couch?) but that means your legs have to keep you up and your butt is stretched, so spanks feel a lot "heavier." I prefer lying on a bed, especially with pillows holding the butt up! It's comfortable, soft, and that way I've got plenty of room to swing at an easy target!

And she's right there! Spanking her gets me very aroused, and she's *right there*. Sex is a form of aftercare, right? ^_^ Other forms include cuddles, ice cream, and silly movies. A blanket is very nice! Switching to other positions for sex is also allowed... which brings me to:

Tips:
You're the one getting spanked; you're the one who can tell if the pain is okay, how much is enough, whether you'd like sex or being held afterwards, etc.
But he needs to check in and make sure you're okay, coherent, can answer questions ("is it okay if I keep going?")
Start gentle - for the first time, plan for a gentle spanking. You won't know what your pain tolerance is, and you won't know what sort of emotional backwash there will be - for both of you!
Start gentle - gentle spanks at first, building in intensity.
Go slowly. Check in often.
If you're thinking that way, "stop" is a good safeword. "Eep!" is not.
Feel free to laugh, talk, do something different, take breaks, distract him..., and have fun!

[jony6789]

I think its painful, I hadn't try it , put I asked my self that question about the spanking feeling , so I spanked my self , its just a little storks, I couldn't stand that and stoped it..

[apismelifera]

It's kind of hard to describe what spanking feels like. It can very different, based on how hard he spanks, how he holds his hand, where it lands, things like that. It will probably sting some (although I'm a total wimp about pain, so maybe light spankings bother other people less). It can also feel really nice, like getting a butt massage, if that makes sense. I suggest making sure he starts off light, and that you be in a position where your butt isn't stretched out. Bent over a chair, for example, the muscles would be tighter, and that makes it hurt more. Once you've established that you're ok with light spanking, then he can progress to a little harder and so on, until you reach a point where you need to stop or back down, or until he's had all the fun he can stand. ;)

For a light spanking, I often find I don't need much in the way of aftercare. For something more intense, you might consider cuddles, comfort objects, getting a little physical care from your boyfriend (a little bit of a massage, or lotion on your skin to help soothe it), or watching a silly movie. Aftercare needs can vary from person to person and day to day, so your mileage may vary. Try to have a couple of options open, and take the one that appeals to you more after the spanking.

[Masamii]

if he wants to spank you, just let it happen when it happens haha. if it leaves a mark... well at least your undies and pants will cover it!

[G1985K]

There are different types of spankings, and I only like giving AND getting consensual spankings for the pleasure of both (some enjoy or think that punitive spankings are also great for a relationship, but fortunately my wife and I are mature & responsible enough that we don’t need to punish each other).



I think that spanking is the best playful, physically intense foreplay that gets the hormones flowing for incredible orgasms—for both the giver and receiver. When starting with someone new, start out easy—such as a “Good Girl Spanking” (best to read all 3 parts). “Good Girl spankings are playful, erotic and generally light impact as part of foreplay or during sex.”
This will give both of you a good lead on how to try erotic spanking, and I hope that you both truly enjoy it and add it to your sex life. It’s also intense enough to get your motor running when you’re not so wild about sex—but always do it with love!



Please reply and let us know how y’all like it—and anyone else that gives it a go!]